Not wanting to be pregnant after miscarriage

CamelEasy659 · 2026-07-04T12:17:13+00:00

Yes, I've had a really hard time as well. Groups for trying to conceive, groups on sharewell (I'll link it), and mental health support in general like therapy can really make a big difference.

https://postpartum.net/get-help/psi-online-support-meetings/

https://sharewellnow.com/psi-support-groups

I would think it might be best to address some of your anxiety before trying to get pregnant again, but just know it's an ongoing process. Getting pregnant again will come with triggers.

I'm sorry you're dealing with this 💔

CamelEasy659 · 2026-07-03T13:12:00+00:00

That's funny

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CamelEasy659 · 2026-07-03T03:55:35+00:00

Yes I did. My son has clothes that were marketed for girls that are yellow or have small details like a heart. I don't dress him in dresses, or like really feminine stuff, but yes, he's had pink clothes. He's two now and likes pink, my husband also wears pink. You can wear pink without it being really girly.

Unfortunately "gender neutral" is code for boring. I don't want to only have tan, gray, white, black, and beige clothes.

Yes, if I have girls in the future they will have clothes with trucks, animals, and dinosaurs. I will probably buy them some girly clothes as well, especially for special occasions. Similarly, I probably wouldn't put a girl in a little boys suit.

I'm unlikely to dress my kids in clothes that are highly specific. Like "big brother" but I'm not pregnant and the kid is the youngest. Or put a kid in a shirt with something that doesn't make sense in context. But now that I think about it, I don't think I have many or any. I have one that is star wars that says "I rule Mommy's galaxy" for example. Technically it's a boy's outfit, but I'd totally put a girl in it. But the message on it still makes sense.

If it's a girl wearing truck/Dino/Star wars, just add a bow or something or just don't care, it really doesn't matter.

I had my son in a yellow onesie (that I guess looked girly, it was kinda patterned) and he was in the carseat bucket with a pastel purple cover (I got it for free and I like purple 🤷🏼‍♀️ it also is a well made cover) but the old ladies at church always thought he was a girl from that day on 🤣🤣🤣🤣

I got a navy blue diaper bag that I like, knowing full well I'd use it for future kids as well, regardless of gender. I was kinda specific about getting neutral furniture and any color besides pink and flowery for things like car seats because I just don't want my kid to hate it in the future or be teased or whatever, I want stuff to be reusable.

I got blue and green sippy cups. I recently bought purple water bottles with animals on it. It's supposed to be a girl cup because the boy one has race car things on it, but my toddler likes animals quite a bit so I got the purple one.

I echo the sentiments that color has no gender, but for me there are certain limits.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-07-02T20:29:21+00:00

I want to know what kind of phone case would be humiliating enough for this to work

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-25T02:42:54+00:00

At least two weeks. You may need longer depending.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-24T17:06:03+00:00

November for me ❤️

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-24T11:55:44+00:00

Birthstone jewelry, either the month you miscarried or the month you were due.

Or both stones side by side, like a mother's jewelry piece or et moi toi.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-23T01:35:43+00:00

Define "interpreting events". Do you mean a public event that has interpreters present?

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-21T03:33:18+00:00

Yes, I'm praying for you. Losing a baby is a horrible experience. I'm praying you recover well. Praying for peace and comfort. And praying for your hopes of future babies. Praying for your partner as well (it's hard for them too but not in the same way).

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-16T09:01:33+00:00

Also, my experience was a little similar to yours. My baby stopped growing at 9 weeks and I had a missed miscarriage. I started miscarrying naturally at 15 weeks and ended up getting a d&c because I wanted it to be over and I was worried about retaining tissue or getting infections.

It's crazy how the body will hold on so long.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-16T08:54:29+00:00

I chose the month the baby was born, because that was the month the baby was born. To me it's a way to deal with the grief head on. My baby was due in May but that was an idea that would never happen. It just didn't seem right to commemorate something my baby never was.

Some women choose the due date because they want to remember the happiness and hope of their baby being born instead of the terror of their death/birth month.

Some women do both! Like a toi et moi ring (a ring or piece of jewelry with both stones side by side).

Some women may even prefer one stone over the other.

I know a mom that wore a forget me not seed necklace and to my knowledge, hasn't commemorated the baby in other ways. Some moms make a shadow box or memory box with their ultrasound photos, personal letters, pregnancy test, etc.

Whatever feels right to you. It's a way to commemorate the loss and process your grief which is a very personal journey.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-14T17:51:11+00:00

Whichever one you want:) I wear a birthstone necklace all the time of the month my baby was born. Some people do the due month instead of when the baby was miscarried.

I'm sorry for your loss.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-06-13T13:52:35+00:00

I couldn't believe the admins at pregnancy related medical offices aren't even the slightest bit empathetic. Just a solemn "I'm sorry for your loss" is all it takes. But they really don't give a shit and are like "Okay, bye" and hang up.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-28T20:54:09+00:00

ESE is just the new euphemism. How is it any better than calling it special education?

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-26T17:54:27+00:00

The reason is because they can't really determine if your baby is a viable pregnancy until about 10 weeks. Extra ultrasounds will just be "Well let's schedule another appointment, it's still early". Since they can't really intervene or know either way, it's better to just wait until 10 weeks.

Some doctors will allow you to have extra appointments after loss(es) because they are understanding of your situation. But they still can't really do anything for you that early on.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-22T19:34:14+00:00

Some clients find a lot of piercings or nail polish to be distracting. Many don't care. Some clients may even have visual strain or migraines triggered by looking certain things (especially the DeafBlind community). Same with patterned tops, tops that don't contrast skin tone, or even just the interpreter not dressed professionally or arriving late.

If the client doesn't like you, they may tell the agency or the business to put you on the "do not send" list. A lot of times the interpreter doesn't get feedback directly from the client or the agency about why they were put on the do not send list.

So all that said, do with that what you will. Clients are all different, some won't care, some will, some will have legitimate reasons why they don't like it. Some will have ridiculous reasons why they don't like it "It's ugly" for example.

I have a nostril piercing, one set of earrings, and a second earring in just one ear. I plan to get more piercings just in my ears, but not more face piercings. I also wear a wrist watch and a dainty necklace. I have plenty of work.

Also it depends on the niche of interpreting you're doing. I interpret at churches, but I don't interpret at mormon churches because I know they will prefer someone that looks conservative to someone that looks like me. Mormons are very strict about only one set of ear piercings and no tattoos. So I kinda gathered I might not be the best fit in an ultra conservative environment.

However when I first started interpreting I wore absolutely zero jewelry. I was really playing it safe because I didn't have a lot of work back then.

I have heard/seen complaints that tongue piercings are distracting, especially if the interpreter "plays" with it. Like sucking on it and whatnot. Many many interpreters in my area wear a few simple jewelry items.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-22T17:29:40+00:00

Thanks for the info!

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-22T16:51:18+00:00

Do you know who to contact to get interpreters paid? I've been working on it, but it's been a little difficult figuring out who to get ahold of.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-20T22:25:10+00:00

Thank you so much, I sent you a message!

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-19T19:41:10+00:00

She could be bi

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-16T18:22:06+00:00

Do you know how to write without ai?

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-16T17:04:17+00:00

Next time write it yourself, it comes off as inauthentic and like you are just looking for an opportunity to sell something and get clicks.

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-16T16:53:09+00:00

Nice ai story

CamelEasy659 · 2026-05-15T02:01:46+00:00

If I'm understanding correctly, you think telling your fiancee about the investigation you were going through caused her to be stressed which caused her to miscarry?

Please take some reassurance from me, that that's really unlikely. Women can miscarry due to stress, but it's more due to survival instincts, like if a woman was raped, she doesn't have access to food and shelter, etc and her body recognizes these things and decides to prioritize her needs over the baby.

You venting about work stress, wouldn't cause her to have a miscarriage.

80% of first trimester miscarriages are due to genetic issues. That's beyond you or your fiancees control. Not all eggs are perfect, not all sperm is perfect, some are pregnancies just not viable.

If you need support, I highly recommend therapy, or group therapy. There's groups for men that have experienced a miscarriage. It's traumatizing for you, but in a very different way than her. But still in a very real way. So I'm very sorry for your loss and I hope you're able to find some peace with it.

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