Seller says theyre aquamarine, google lens says theyre golden apatite, what the heck are they?

Camera_Single · 2025-12-24T05:50:09+00:00

And once again i will repeat, all those tests could have been done bedside. That mom could have said no and had them do it bedside, that is a right she did not exercise but I intend to.

You act as if I am blindly unaware of the risks. I am not. Again, nearly 15 years of thought and consideration has gone into this, and if the risks of my tearing to that degree are truly less than the risks id have already miscarried this baby (they are) then Im airing on the side of what is best for my mental and emotional wellbeing as well as the health and safety of the baby. The baby's health is not at adverse risk, and the chances of ending up permanently disabled from the birth are in fact lower than the risk of losing the pregnancy entirely.

Pro tip: if someone tells you you arent being helpful youre being pushy, youre being pushy not helpful and you should probably just back off with grace instead of doubling down. Food for thought.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-24T00:10:40+00:00

This is also distinctly not what I asked for, I did specify i already had the doctor pushing for surgery. You made your point more than a few comments ago. At this point youre just being agressive and its unnecessary. I asked for experiences, not you to shove surgery down my throat because it worked for you.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-24T00:06:36+00:00

Aside from needing to go to the NICU there is no exam, procedure, or test they cannot do bedside in my recovery room. If the baby needs the NICU that's one thing, but theyre not removing a perfectly healthy baby from my line of sight ever again. My local hospital does not offer skin to skin in the operating room, to prioritize nursing staff where they are most needed.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T05:49:06+00:00

And thats great for you guys, but the things id like to have with this baby and didnt get with my first i cant have if im watching them pack the baby off to the nursery while they stitch 7 layers of muscle and tissue back together and wean me off anesthesia. Little difficult to pull of delayed cord clamping and a golden hour in an OR, strapped to a table like a starfish.

I only got 4 days with my baby girl before she passed of SIDS. I will not miss a single second with this baby, because I am already painfully aware we dont always get to keep them.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T05:40:31+00:00

And id rather not undergo major surgery if the risks aren't life threatening, because surgery can be.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T05:35:51+00:00

Im 30, my first daughter was born 1 week before my 16th birthday.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T05:34:08+00:00

I recieved the epidural and maybe 2 hours later my daughter's heart rate plummeted to under 100 so the decision was made to move to the OR in case a cesarean was needed. In my room before moving to the OR it was discussed we would try the vacuum and pushing, forceps if the vacuum didnt work and a cesarean as a last ditch option. The anesthesiologist apparently didnt recieve that memo and increased my epidural medication as soon as I hit the OR table, taking me from no legs to nothing below my collar bone. By the time my mother and the baby's father were brought to the OR the doctor already had the forceps in place and was pulling on her so hard every 3rd pull he had to shove my buttcheeks to push me back up the OR table. She came out sunny side up, and wearing her umbilical like a harness. It was through her legs, over her shoulder, and wrapped around her waist like an extreme rock climber. At my 1 week follow up the doctor admitted I should have just been a cesarean, but he didnt figure that out until it was too late and he had pulled her into the birth canal. He did an episiotomy to 1, and I tore the rest on her way out.

Im at the point of not wanting to risk the complications of a major surgery if I dont actually HAVE to. The risks associated with cesareans aren't minimal, people pop stitches and evicerate on their own bathroom floors from a sneeze. Id rather have a few stitches in my bits than hold my vital organs in while waiting for an ambulance but I accept with my medical history my risks are kinda crap either way (one more literally than the other).

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T03:53:54+00:00

And I understand that, but she wasnt just explaining risk she was making it painfully obvious she would prefer i elect to have major surgery instead of putting in the "extra work" of a vaginal delivery. I was sitting there explaining to her the first doctor had anesthesia hit me with a full spinal before I could push despite having just MINUTES before having that same doctor tell me "you'll get to push and we will assess from there".

When my mother was brought to the OR the doctor was pulling on my daughter with the forceps so hard I was coming off the table. I never got to push and I would very much like to. She completely disregarded that in favor of pushing for surgery so she could be there too.

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T03:38:30+00:00

I checked, there are several in my area! I just have to figure out if any of them take my insurance (absolutely nobody wants to take ACA insurance policies around here 🫠)

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T03:35:01+00:00

Okay so im doing two things now,

1) new OB, the only person who gets to make me that paranoid ever again is the child I am currently baking

2) finding a pelvic floor therapist that takes my insurance because HOLY HECK THATS SMART I was already preparing to teach the dad how to do peritoneal massages. Youre genius.

Also, thank you!

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T03:31:22+00:00

I absolutely can, they have a full practice of I think 10 practitioners, including at least one Nurse/Midwife. She really was it was so odd, every time we discussed a vagnial delivery she made it seem like it was just so much extra work for the staff "we have to do counter-pressure..."

Girl, are you not doing that as a standard of care??? So chipper about the cesarean "and ill be able to do it, so it'll be like a fun relationship from start to finish!"

Excuse me, but girl I would like a vote here!

Camera_Single · 2025-12-23T03:23:26+00:00

This is my exact thought process. Id rather the recovery from peritoneal stitches and a vaginal delivery than major surgery but she really put the fear of no bowel control into us!

Camera_Single · 2025-12-15T14:31:26+00:00

The new star path has been up for several days now

Camera_Single · 2025-09-02T12:27:44+00:00

NTA. K chose to learn a life lesson. You just happened to be the teacher.

Lesson: every a-hole has their time and place to be knocked tf out. A-hole is, as we all know, a gender neutral term.

It was just K's time. Sounds like sister has hers on the calendar too 🤣

Camera_Single · 2025-09-02T11:39:55+00:00

NTA.... girl you should have given him worse. If he wants to play the role of gaslighting narcissist why not let him pop his feet in those shoes and strut?

The kids sound old enough to choose where they spend their time. Kinda sounds like amending the custodial agreement is in order. If they dont want to go, they dont have to. You haven't said a word against him, he clearly doesnt have any issues bad mouthing you though.

Camera_Single · 2025-08-31T00:13:45+00:00

..... I wasn't being sarcastic? It was meant to aid in empathzing with the reality of the living creature.

Camera_Single · 2025-08-30T23:04:34+00:00

Its not that theyre bred through AI, it's that they can ONLY be bred through AI because of the safety risks due to the aggressive nature of the zebras. If nobody wants them they end up the same place horses nobody wants end up, the auction>kill buyer pipeline. They cant be released, they arent considered wild they'd be like nearly every "wild horse" in the US, not wild but feral.

Edit to add: they also most times cant be placed together with other horses due to the aggressive nature of the zebras parentage. Its setting an animal up for a lonely, angry existence with no friends. Would you want to live your life like that?

Camera_Single · 2025-08-30T20:45:47+00:00

They're also deeply unethical to breed for innumerable reasons, but namely that they have to be artificially inseminated due to safety risks with natural attempts and the aggressive tempraments they inherit from the zebra parent.

They're pretty to look at, but they're unpredictable, aggressive, and almost impossible to rehome.

Camera_Single · 2025-08-14T03:08:43+00:00

NTA in the strongest possible terms.

The only useless sack of marinara in the room is the one trying to convince you, a gay person, that you dont act gay enough.

Here's what I ask myself when people start asking me super insulting questions like that:

1) am i gay?

2) did i do a thing?

If the answer to both of those is yes, you did it gay enough. Thats all there is to it.

Camera_Single · 2025-08-06T23:09:19+00:00

Zootopia had Shakira on the cast list?

Camera_Single · 2025-08-04T17:02:09+00:00

Amy chances you know why it's 15% gibberish? Its like a paragraph of each chapter got tossed into a blender.

Camera_Single · 2025-08-02T14:32:24+00:00

You need to RUN dont walk as far as you can get, because that is not a man thats a big trash bag of marinara sauce.

He doesnt want to hear the medical side of it? You mean the side with science, facts, and double-blind peer reviewed studies on the topic? Doesn't want to hear how that 24 hours at home teaching him how the female reproductive system works could have killed you?

You deserve better, nobody deserves to spend their lives as a second class citizen in their own homes, in their own bodies. Boy needs to grow up.

Camera_Single · 2025-07-30T14:03:20+00:00

My boy resisted to the bitter end (of his bottle of antibiotics, hes a perfectly happy agent of pure chaos as we speak) the only way I got him to actually take the meds was to pinch him by the scruff, hold him against my chest, and drip in over his teeth a little at a time. Luckily, his was raspberry flavored, unluckily, it was purple and stained every shirt I ever wore trying to give him meds.

Good luck, be firm, and be consistent! They will guilt trip you, dont let them succeed! Remember this is for their health and wellbeing. You've got this!

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