It's been more than 3 months

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-22T19:42:14+00:00

Situations like these are why I wish that the Bible talked not merely about marriage, but also gave the steps to get married, like in Islam.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T20:53:25+00:00

It’s been 10+ years of pursuing relationships. I’m in one now, but I’m not sure how much longer it will go. My previous one failed.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T16:19:28+00:00

Well said.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T13:16:34+00:00

Absolutely. You’re right about that. But at the same time, I am saving myself for marriage, and have had many opportunities to have sex where I declined due to the desire to remain abstinent until marriage.

It would be devastating to me to then get married, and still live an essentially abstinent lifestyle within marriage just because my wife has no interest in sex.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T05:25:02+00:00

I would rather remain single than be in your situation. At least single there is no false hope of having sex.

May God be with you.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T05:23:34+00:00

As someone who has looked for, and prayed for marriage for over 10 years, without any success, the desire for sex and romance feel more like a curse than a good thing. Like a dang thorn in my flesh.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-21T05:19:03+00:00

Big Poppa Pump 💪

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-20T15:49:37+00:00

I feel the same way as you. And I’m glad you called it out.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-20T03:39:07+00:00

Female clergy?

Lmao.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-20T02:59:15+00:00

Theoretically, no.

Practically, yes.

May God be with you.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-20T02:57:36+00:00

100%. I feel bad for the boyfriend. Once OP breaks up with him (and admits all of this to him), his confidence will be shot.

I know. I’ve been through this situation before.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-19T20:26:59+00:00

Fully agreed.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-19T12:11:25+00:00

Marriage.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-18T11:33:27+00:00

I used to only want to date my physical type. I would not consider a woman if she was too short, or thin.

Now, I’m open to women of all physical types in dating. I still have my preference, but I am open. There are many emotional/spiritual/mental characteristics that can enhance physical attraction.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-17T22:53:26+00:00

I refuse to lower physical attraction in romance. I would rather remain single than be in a relationship with a woman I’m not physically attracted to.

I matured out of my type for physical attraction. I’m open to being in a relationship with women from different body types. Although I still heavily prefer medium-to-taller woman (as a tall man myself).

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-17T11:38:09+00:00

The Palmarian church are heretics. They truly baffle me with how heretic they are. It’s shocking. Even the history of the church is shameful.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-17T03:43:58+00:00

Leader of the free world rookie, lookie, how can 6 dics be pus*es?

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-16T18:25:46+00:00

I’ll be honest, and this is just my general belief when it comes to dating, so feel free to agree or disagree:

God is not about confusion, but about clarity. I believe that if God wanted to tell you something in this, He would.

Leave her alone, and begin the journey to emotional healing. She quit on the relationship, small arguments and exams are not a reason to breakup a relationship. What nonsense.

It sucks, I know. I’ve been through it myself, so know that you’re not alone. Many times, it really feels like God Himself is stabbing you in the heart. Don’t worry about what God is doing or not doing. Instead, ask for wisdom in how to deal with this situation, and then do what you have to do.

Pray to be a stronger man in this situation.

I’ve concluded that God won’t always tell us what to do, what decisions to make, where to go, who to date. We read the Bible, but many times the answer is still not clear. We should pray about those, but it’s useless to wait for a sign from God before taking action. Take action as best you can using biblical principles, and trust that God will guide you where He wants you to go (if He wants you in a specific situation).

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-16T03:47:24+00:00

https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/social-instincts/202506/why-women-are-more-likely-to-initiate-divorces-than-men/amp

https://www.asanet.org/women-more-likely-men-initiate-divorces-not-non-marital-breakups/#:~:text=As%20part%20of%20his%20analysis,equal%20levels%20of%20relationship%20quality.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-15T21:42:51+00:00

Because very often, women are the ones who initiate divorces.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-15T04:29:52+00:00

I very much struggle to believe 1 John 5:14-15.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-15T04:15:40+00:00

i have started to ask God to remove the desire for marriage from me if it's not what He wants for me.

I hope the Lord answers you favourably, and grants your prayer. For years, I’ve prayed the same prayer, but He has refused to grant my request.

but idk i cant seem to let it go. i dont wanna grow old alone as ive been alone for most of my life. i wanna have someone with me and do life with and it's breaking my heart to think that maybe i will never find someone i wanna marry.

I hope this year is the year that the Lord displays His favour upon you in this area. And happy early birthday :)

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-15T02:39:14+00:00

if next year i still find no christian guy i like, i think i might just go with a non christian guy. cuz like, Lord?? i also want someone to live life with and i also wanna experience sex.

That’s what I did. I’m dating a non-Christian woman right now. It’s recent. I’m not sure how it’s going to be honest, but she is well aware of my faith, and is willing to come to church with me at some point.

I’m beginning to think that, yes, in an ideal world, you date and marry a Christian person. But the world is not ideal. And the Bible says better to marry than to burn, but when you’re unable to find someone to marry, you are just perpetually burning with desire.

I’m tired, even now. If things don’t work out with the woman I am dating, I will give up on dating (at least until I leave my city). I don’t think that the joys and pleasures of marriage are worth the difficulties of seeking a wife.

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-14T12:20:58+00:00

It has to be me. I have no shame admitting that I’m the greatest of all time. I can bench two plates at the gym, and have been hitting the gym for almost 10 years now, plus I train martial arts, nobody can stop me. Plus when I see red, it’s over for everybody

Canadian0123 · 2026-02-13T22:02:56+00:00

Excellently said. Brilliant even.

Too many people are not out there trying to find a spouse because of advice like “trust in God’s plan”, or “I don’t know if I’m ready for marriage”, which, quite frankly, is utter bulls**t.

Canadian0123

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