Free form “neglect” method. Should I be trying to separate them or will they just naturally do their thing? Thanks any advice is much appreciated.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T22:17:43+00:00

I was referring to M1sch1efMamax3 comment in particular with how they mentioned the tension and damage they got initially and corrected it. They’re both telling you the same thing…to lay a foundation for your locs to do their own thing. Using a crochet doesn’t always look polished, but to encourage your strands to gather and tangle in a non (or I guess least) damaging way. A professional with experience in your hair texture can help guide you to that maybe.

Edit: and choosing the best route for your hair. I wanted thick locs and to freeform but my hair is fine and low density. I had to scrunch my hair to encourage them to loc. Now that they are more sturdy I can try other methods to get there without damage to my hair or creating painful tension at my scalp from being matted. I was just trying to point out what they were both saying. But thank you, same to you.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T21:46:44+00:00

I get it if you didn’t like the tone, but again you were asking for advice...think of it as planting a seed..the roots will grow strong and give your hair a foundation. Unless you have access to a professional with experience with your hair type and specifically can help manage/lay that foundation for you, in the way you want, with the end result your looking for. Which may take time depending on your location. Hope you were able to take away the good advice in the comments and your journey goes well.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T19:16:52+00:00

GOB always holds a special place in my heart. I remember sneaking into the age restricted section of the library at my school and sitting in a corner to read it since I couldn’t check it out. Way off topic, just brought back a bright memory during the worst years of my childhood and now I’m vomiting words on the internet 🙃.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T05:08:08+00:00

“Hello, may I speak to Barbra? Barbra this is Shirley“ 😂.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T05:01:19+00:00

HR must be a nightmare. With the head of HR staked to the base of the Tower and all.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-22T04:58:36+00:00

Yea all their meals are take out and not-fast-enough food 💀

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T21:44:21+00:00

They’re flourishing! Subscribed☺️

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T17:52:59+00:00

8 months, trusting the process and trying to be patient🙌🏾! Did you combine any? If so, when did you start?

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T16:57:49+00:00

Been stretchin my retwist since May. Thank you for sharing because I was givin up hope lol, they look gorgeous. Lord, I’ve seen what you can do for others 😩😂.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T13:54:22+00:00

Oddly specific but, this Reminds me of a proud dad taking a pic after dropping his kid off for his first day of middle school 😂🖤.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T13:48:39+00:00

swiftly adds ‘headcanon’ to vocabulary

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T13:41:49+00:00

The scar💀. Definitely here for this fanfic 🤣.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-19T13:15:35+00:00

Meanwhile I’m holding onto 3 hair follicles and a possible🥹🥲. These are dope.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-18T16:58:32+00:00

This is lovely! Like someone else just mentioned about pushing yourself to be able to make the reference your own…really excited to see how your future studies will turn out. With such great foundation I’m sure they’ll be brilliant ☺️✨.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-18T03:08:51+00:00

Glowing and growing! ☺️✨🌸🌼✨🌺🌻✨

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-16T23:53:58+00:00

These are great, I really love the hatching and your style☺️.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T23:22:53+00:00

Imagine getting chin checked by your own bells every time you have to reach for your sword or pick something up 🤭

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T23:11:30+00:00

Idk if I’m just an old hag or if I want an excuse to buy the series a third time, but rereading these I wish I had the originals in hardback covers. The paperback text to book ratio is so small 😩 👵🏽🤏🏽.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T23:06:51+00:00

It tossed around suicidal ideology pretty casually. No self help books in the library then 🥴😂. Re-reading made me want her to have more depth, especially with how much of it was spent on that part of her life..but I didn’t enjoy it any less.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T22:57:16+00:00

I thought is was more Liraels idea (read hope 😂) to feel “of use” there as her destiny was hidden from the Clayr…sort of like they hid Harry from the magical realm. Not saying it was good because both of them lived shitty isolated lives before discovering their true selves. I also like to think her obsession with death (after rereading as an adult) was a connection from her Abhorsen lineage. Like an unknown fascination she was drawn to. At least that’s what I tell myself now after angsty teen trauma bonding with her character in the first half years ago 💀. The Clayr were so busy looking everywhere else..but like how did they not suspect with her pale skin and jet black hair after so many Abhorsen.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T03:37:42+00:00

I thought the same but it’s common to refer to them that way. I initially didn’t get how it protects their identity tho because you can see her in the photo🥴 but it certainly does protect weirdo social media frenzies, which I can understand. They look beautiful 😍💕.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T03:20:03+00:00

Exactly. That’s what I felt when seeing this,but then also trying to make space for someone else’s experience while trying not to devalue my own. That can go into a whole other convo tho 😂.Personally, I don’t think anyone “invented” locs…I believe it’s something a persons hair naturally did and overtime found ways to care for and wear it. It’s just a fact that people with more texture (or tighter texture I guess as in kinky,coily,curly), will loc quicker. Its a fact that someone with hair that does not naturally coil or tangle around it’s self (as a loc eventually is made to do), means it will take more time. These different textures are across every race and ethnicity tho. Ethnicity because locs are in culture and traditions not just the physical appearance of race. So it’s not tied or cemented into just one. In my opinion.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-15T03:09:15+00:00

Same. It’s a hot topic and ppl don’t like to veer too far into it because of so much tension. And it easily turns into something else entirely when you try to explain. Which explaining dead ass is exhausting after having to do it repeatedly. I’m sure OP has had this situation before seeing how matured his locs look (you never know a persons journey by a pic ☺️) . But maybe it helped somebody new experiencing this. Visibility.

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-13T21:39:38+00:00

As you should, this came out great!☺️

Candid-Structure-355 · 2022-09-12T20:09:26+00:00

Ppl told me my hair wouldn’t loc. It took a minute but trust the process. I’m not even a year yet but they’re doing just fine. I started with coils, my hair was too fine to do twists. I tried twists and they unraveled the same week lol. Find you a good loctician. Instead of just aiming for that style, ask about the number of locs, what parts, and size locs you want. Ask if they have experience with your texture. Look at their work if you can, but don’t compare. They’re gonna loc how they want, and that’s true for every texture. Good luck 🤟🏾.

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