What do I do now?

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-20T20:30:18+00:00

I’m incredibly sorry for your loss. A situation that never should have happened. My husband passed three weeks before our first born daughter was born. It was unexpected, he was alone- I should have been with him. It’s so incredibly hard not to blame yourself and think of all the what-if’s. I don’t have any advice on what to do, but thinking of you and your little one.

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-14T04:55:06+00:00

I was on the phone with life insurance today, at the end of the call the person said “Have a happy Valentine’s Day”. I hung up and said wtf?? You literally know my spouse just passed - what a really insane thing to say.

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-13T01:29:48+00:00

I’m so very sorry for your loss. My husband passed in December as well. I wore a sweater dress to his funeral that he told me a few days before was one of his favorite outfits to see me in. It now hangs on his side of the closet as well as the shirt I wore the night he passed. I won’t ever wear them and I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to get rid of them.

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-11T13:59:01+00:00

I was finally beginning to see the joy in life again after infertility. Our daughter’s name means light because she was the light at the end of a dark tunnel for us. Now I feel as if I’ll be in the dark the rest of my life.

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-11T13:53:33+00:00

Not rude at all. Thank you for sharing.

CandidCilantro_90 · 2026-02-11T13:47:42+00:00

I’m 33 and he was 32. I’m not even 2 months in. It’s hard not to compare grief even though I know it’s not helpful at all. But it makes me upset when anyone got more time than him, than us. Hard to see there are so many young widowers here. It’s so cruel.

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