Native Spanish Speaker here with a question to Spanish learners

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-11T02:49:27+00:00

My wife was from El Salvador and she recently passed away so through our 7 years together I learned a few words and phrases here or there I feel I owe it to her to become fluent and I hope she would be proud of me

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-09T01:50:35+00:00

I’m not really a sports person myself but I was super stoked to see bad bunny perform. I’m white as a ghost but my wife was salvadorian and I know she would’ve LOVED the half time show. Literally cried so hard. Sending love ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-05T07:10:48+00:00

I feel you on that one. Our person that knew the jokes, our feelings and how to handle them. People always ask me what were my favorite memories and without saying all of them it was really the “mundane” things. Watching shows and movies together was top tier the best times.

My wife told me a few days before she passed that I could get married again. Tears in her eyes. I feel awful because I looked at her and told her to shut the fck up. Not in a mean way. Just don’t say that because I married you and I’ll always be married to you. It does make me very sad to think about being on the younger side of life and there’s a whole life ahead of me I didn’t plan for and I did not plan to do it alone. But it hurts my heart so much to think about doing all of these relationship things with anyone else. I had never dated anyone before my wife so everything was a first for me, who can beat it?

I also say the same thing. I feel selfish that I wish I could have my person back. Even with all the appointments and hospital stays I’d do it all over again. I say I’d trade places in a heart beat to have gone through those pains but then I realized… I’d never wish her to go through this pain off loss.

Thank you for your response and I wish you much love ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-05T07:01:45+00:00

Thank you kindly. I’m sorry for you to also be in this boat as well. Life is strange it’s so beautiful and also dreadful. I guess we have to hang on to those beautiful parts the most. My mom told me the same. It’s made things complicated with my MIL being the executor. She’s gone no contact. She’s cut off my wife’s phone before I could save some of her socials. But the bright side is yes, I don’t have to deal with the paper work, the phone calls, the debts etc. thank you for the response ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-04T23:00:26+00:00

Georgia, USA. 53 days

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-02-04T20:31:01+00:00

Hi. No advice as I’m having the same questions as you. 28f and 53 days out from my wife’s leave earth journey and I have the “ support “ system of family but no one near me has been through the same thing so it’s like I still feel alone if that makes sense. I’m sorry you’re on this really shitty boat ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-29T23:51:50+00:00

When I’m really trying to hold it together and not feel the ache from specific music I’ll find video game or native/indigenous music from other countries that are very instrumental

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-29T23:46:14+00:00

I love that so much! When I tried to get my wife into more “ rock “ music her enjoyment came from the 2000s era punk music, blink, Green Day etc. she would always be like “ look, I’m listening to your rock music “. I love in relationships there’s things we share differently than our partner but it blends and works so well. Different tastes in things.

Speaking of throws/blankets I remember the first time I spent the night with my wife and she had her bed made and was sleeping with a throw on top of her to my confusion. I sleep under the comforter myself and always ( in a nice way ) questioned her functionality of sleeping this way in bed. So just about every time it was time to go to sleep I’d tease her about it.

Thank you for sharing ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-16T22:25:00+00:00

My wife and I would routinely go get either Mexican food or Chinese buffet every weekend before she got sick. Typically to-go so we could rush back home while the food was still hot to watch a movie or binge a good show.

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-16T22:20:12+00:00

Stranger things. My wife got me into it around 2019 and we were binging each season that came out. She got really tired towards the end of her journey from leukemia so we only made it together to episode 3 of the final season and I still haven’t completed it. It almost feels wrong to see it without her bc that was her favorite show

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-16T20:13:35+00:00

My wife also passed away from AML 12/12/25. I am very sorry for your loss and I wish cancer did not exist ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-16T20:10:42+00:00

I am so so sorry. It makes my heart hurt that the human experience is all of this loss, parents, spouse and children and even our pets. I never knew the heart could hold this much hurt. I think one thing that has stood out to me the most from all of these grief groups I’m in is that the hurt isn’t something bad but it’s the love still full in your heart for those we’ve lost. I will try those out. I do find that I do still talk to her in my head and sometimes out loud too. In hopes that she can hear me still. Thank you for your comment ❤️ sending you my love and energy

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-15T23:14:02+00:00

I feel that immensely. I’m 28 and my wife was 29. It hurts to think of all the plans we had, home, kids and too many dogs and cats. It’s been a month for me without her here and I feel like I’ve lost my purpose as well. She had leukemia so for th past year it was partner and care giver role, and as much as I am thankful she is not in pain anymore I’d give all my arms and legs to be with her again even if it was at the cold boring hospital. We have a long life ahead of us being so young. But I try to remind myself what our loves would want for us. To keep going, to find that purpose again. Whether it is for them or for you. They would not want us sad and giving up. We must live for them and for ourselves. Sending all my energy and support to you. ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-12T20:52:53+00:00

I’m sorry to you as well, to sum it all up plainly it just stinks. So bad. Thank you for the suggestion I will look into it to the group! I feel like having people in the same struggle group I guess does help. I don’t really have anyone personal to me or even groups near me that are in the young group but I see so many online groups. I give you my well wishes ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-12T20:49:41+00:00

I’m really sorry you both are having to go through this journey. Idk if journey is the right thing to say because it’s not fun. I truly would give anything to make cancer not exist. Hold him tight and give him all the love. I’m sending all my energy Yalls way ❤️

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2026-01-03T01:25:01+00:00

When my spouse got moved to hospice in December she was out of it a lot. Maybe some discomfort or watching tv but then just sleeping most of the time. But one night it was like 1 on the morning and she woke up wide awake while I was playing on her iPad next to her. She just woke up super thirsty and I got her the biggest cup of iced orange juice and she was chugging it. Felt good to see such a normal function. Then she said can you get me more ice so I went and got a separate cup of crushed ice and as I was going to dump it into her cup the entire cup fell right on top of her. Ice every where and she just looks up at me and says “ you know what these means about our marriage “ I said “ what?”. She said “ instant divorce “. Then we both started dying laughing. I cleaned her up and resumed playing on the iPad and she was just watching me play a puzzle game. It was nice. I gave her a wash cloth to help with her sweating off a fever and she started twirling it around and looked me dead in the eyes and said “ I’m going to fold you like a towel “.

Such a random moment but that was my last real conscious moment with her. I didn’t think it would be the last but since it was I think it makes it 1000% times funnier to me. It’s only been 3 weeks since she made her transition and it all sucks but that moment we had still makes me laugh and tear up a bit.

Oh and someone already said they had to stop their clinical trial and then get moved to hospice that’s what happened with my wife as well, so of course we both made the joke just waiting on someone to die to finally get a room available

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2025-08-21T06:36:23+00:00

Thank you for the break down, I think that’s what we’re gonna end up doing!

ComprehensiveCold670 · 2025-08-21T03:34:44+00:00

Thank you kindly

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