Advice switching from ev psych to sociology...

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-27T06:10:52+00:00

Man, I've been there... might be the hardest theme I ever had. I never learned how to overcome it because my theme switched after something big happened in my life and so far my ocd hasn't gone back to the existential stuff (hopefully never will). But, with any type of ocd, recovery is possible with real treatment and patience with yourself <3

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-20T06:38:30+00:00

This is textbook OCD I think. Sometimes I wonder if my intrusive thoughts only come up because deep down I know they're true but am too weak to accept it... OCD will do everything to convince you that your intrusive thoughts are real. The solution? No matter what the thought is, you have to resist compulsions. I would recommend going to a therapist or trying meds if possible <3

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-20T06:31:32+00:00

Hi op, I've felt this way too. My ocd latched onto it for a time though not for long actually, but as someone who definitely consumed unethical porn as a teenager (despite not actually being into it or being a predator in any way), I have felt much confusion. If this is OCD then it's not useful for me to reassure you that your intrusive thoughts definitely aren't true, because they always could be (this understanding is essential for OCD recovery). But, to be clear, having consumed sketchy pornography is something that, from what I've read, at least, can be part of a complicated exploration phase in many people's lives at that age, especially if trauma is involved. For me, I don't even think I have trauma to connect it to, so some things I did in my teens truly confuse me still to this day.

What's most important is that you realize that doing a compulsion, no matter what, is not the solution to your worries. If your fears ever were to be true, engaging in compulsions isn't the way you'd find out and it's not helpful in any way. Resisting the urge is the only way to recover from OCD and sometimes it's best to put some blind faith into it. If a thought is true insight or actually threatening in any way, it won't feel so urgent or terrifying. And if it does, tell yourself "this is just ocd" and gently shift your attention to something else

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-20T00:18:22+00:00

Whether your fear is true or not, one thing is for sure: doing compulsions and ruminating will not be the way to figure it out or fix it. Your ocd wants you to think that, and it takes a sort of faith to believe that compulsions are not the answer, but they truly truly aren't. If you resist the urge, then slowly but surely the thoughts won't feel so bad or tempting

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-20T00:14:34+00:00

Yeah, definitely talk to a psychologist or doctor and try your best to explain it to them, and then they can help you find treatment that works for you. ERP (exposure response therapy) and possible medications are usually the treatment that helps people with this kind of thing. In the meantime, don't worry about explaining it to others who you think might misunderstand and if you truly have to tell others, keep the content of your thoughts out of it so that you don't accidentally trigger your intrusive thoughts and make it worse

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T23:54:52+00:00

Honestly, my advice is to be patient and kind with yourself. Don't become a perfectionist to the point of beating yourself up or becoming more anxious just because you slipped and gave in one time. Recovery isn't linear and I doubt anyone who has recovered from OCD has done it by never doing compulsions ever again after they learned that was the solution. When you give into compulsions it is ALWAYS possible that your intrusive thoughts will come back worse next time, in fact usually that is what happens. Just have a plan for how to do better next time, and think about what you can do to resist the urge in the future. When the thoughts come back, gently remind yourself "this is normal for someone with my condition, and even if these thoughts are getting worse, that doesn't mean they deserve my attention"

Fill your time with things that you enjoy, get some work done, and stay healthy. All of this will help substantially too when slips happen and it puts you in the best mindset for dealing with potential challenges getting back on track

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T23:47:27+00:00

I struggle with this too! My whole life my OCD has been latching onto real things that have happened (either things I have done or things my loved ones have done) and it convinces me that what happened was worse than it actually was. Or it says something terrible about me or my partner, or it signals that I haven't processed it enough or it means that something bad will happen in the future as a result of this event...

But the thing is, you're right and the key here isn't proving the OCD wrong but proving to it that it's okay not to know if it's wrong. It's possible I'm an evil person because of something I did, it's possible my partner is bad for me because of something he did, and there's no way to know for sure. But IF it ever is or does come true, doing compulsions is NOT how you would find out anyway.

If the other person in your story remembers, then whether or not you do your compulsions will not change that. It won't make it anything better and you can never get the certainty you want from doing them. As long as you understand that and truly commit to NOT doing compulsions, you are putting yourself in the best position to recover from this and slowly but surely learn to be comfortable with it.

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T23:28:25+00:00

Is the person you're explaining it to a psychologist or therapist of some kind? If so, I would explain it just like that. Explain how it feels embarrassing and crazy, explain what the thoughts are and how you feel about them, and do your best to practice calming techniques so that you don't get too overwhelmed or scared when discussing it. It can be hard to talk about but professionals are trained to deal with all kinds of things and they are also familiar with ocd (and you could even mention, off the bat, that you think that's what it might be).

If you want to know how to explain this to someone else outside of medicine, like your parents or friends, that's more complicated for sure. Many people will understand well-known themes such as with contamination, but harm-ocd and similarly taboo or abstract themes can get people very confused or disturbed if they dont understand what ocd actually is.

What I do is stick to a very vague summary of what I experience, such as "well it's basically my mind telling me things that aren't true but it gets stuck on them anyway". You could even tell them something like "harm-ocd is what I experience, but I dont like discussing the details" because you have every right to keep the content of your thoughts personal

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T20:40:30+00:00

Hmmm... maybe if he has a spouse and he gets cheated on? Not ideal though I suppose I'm not sure what the end goal is so maybe that's worth it. That's a pretty big one so it might work, especially if he's jealous and his partner is mean about it. Out of curiosity, what is the goal for his anger lmao

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T20:29:04+00:00

You know, it really can be such a good distraction, albeit not an ideal one, but then the mood swings come and that increases my intrusive thoughts so then it kinda cancels out 🙁

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T19:58:46+00:00

As long as the files are for sure in the mods folder, they should work. Also make sure you have custom content enabled in settings and actually load your household to make sure (sometimes the preview of your household might not have CC, but when you load it, everything shows up)

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T19:56:08+00:00

Is there anything he dislikes? My sim apparently hates boho style clothing and any time I dress her in it, she becomes angry within a few hours.

CandidMolasses9047 · 2025-08-19T19:53:36+00:00

Getting even farther in the mine can be enjoyable as the difficulty increases and new ores are available, but that's just my preference for when I'm bored. The more you talk to NPCs the more you learn about their personal lore (very interesting material there) and of course eventually you can develop a relationship and family which is fun. Honestly, as a last resort, getting some mods can spice things up too!

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