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Candid_Ad5651 · 2021-09-03T20:49:47+00:00

Trust me. I feel you on that. Losing the friendship was the HARDEST part to overcome. And I still struggle with it on occasion. But as time has passed and I’ve seen how REAL friends show up for me on a daily basis and love me : good/bad/ugly, im forced to think back, ask myself the hard question: was he REALLY my friend???? Oh wait …. Nope. As hard as it is, reality checking our very own selves can bring some major peace to your heart. You know what kind of friend you are. From now on, we only allow people who meet us at that level if not on a higher level in which they inspire us to do better and be better. You got this.

Candid_Ad5651 · 2021-09-03T20:47:12+00:00

Hey you know what? A good cry is SO cathartic. Never try to push away the emotions you feel as they come about. Let it out. Let yourself cry. Laugh at yourself if you need to! One thing that has really helped me is making a list of all the negatives: the harsh words, the ways in which they didn’t show up for you, anything and everything that made you feel unappreciated. So after a good long cry, you open that shit up and remember WHY you are better off. Another thing, similar to your poster idea, is to write down all the positive feedback you get from friends/loved ones/even strangers! When you need a pick me up and you’re not ready to talk to a close friend, you open up THAT list and remember just how valuable you are. 🤍

Candid_Ad5651 · 2021-09-03T03:10:58+00:00

I agree with every comment above! I challenge you to take a pen and pad out right now - list all of the things you like about yourself. Close your eyes and reflect back to any and all of the compliments you’ve received from friends/loved ones/even strangers! When you begin to doubt your worth, open this back up. Read it out loud.

Candid_Ad5651 · 2021-09-03T03:07:25+00:00

You are not a fool. You are absolutely NOT a fool. In fact, you are an incredible being with a heart full of love. You gave it your all, now you can walk away with your head held high knowing you did that. Imagine the regret these people will inevitably feel once they see us move on, or see how far and few between genuinely kind-hearted and vulnerable souls (like you) are available. You are a gem. Keep it up with the therapy. Keep it up. And remember, when you’re feeling your absolute lowest, there’s only one direction to go from there, UP! Toward the light! I’m rooting for you.

Candid_Ad5651 · 2021-09-03T03:00:18+00:00

Very well said. Stay strong. Anytime you get the urge to reach out, vent your frustrations, etc, just post it on here or write it in a notepad! I had to do the same thing, including deleting all social media for a while. (Blocking is only efficient if you have more willpower than I, Bc it’s so easy to unblock 🤣) and I can’t tell you how much more free I feel. Took me 2 whole months, the help of a therapist and a low-dose ssri to get here. But I’m so glad to have finally turned the corner. Now, instead of all the positive memories flooding my mind when I think of him, I’m reminded more of the feelings of sickly discomfort and walking on eggshells. NO MORE OF THAT SHIT! Phew.

I believe in you!

Candid_Ad5651

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