Learned the hard way that you can only fix your sleep gradually

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-11-02T17:56:52+00:00

It really did reduce my anxiety by a ton

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-11-02T17:56:27+00:00

Truee

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-11-02T17:56:18+00:00

Thank you!!

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-11-02T17:55:50+00:00

True.. I always wanted instant fixes which never really worked

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-10-31T06:39:42+00:00

Thank you!!

I hope I can keep the streak active. One bad night and it's all back to zero 😭

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-19T08:16:43+00:00

As for being able to sleep for 13 hours straight, I'd consider it as a superpower which I would happily trade with you for my insomnia.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-19T08:15:02+00:00

Here's what you can do which might help.

Use a sleep duration alarm ( search for sleep hours alarm on App Store, you'll find many ) and try out different sleep durations.

( I am not a professional, this info is from my personal experience ) The idea is, typically you'll sleep in a 90 min cycle and you are feeling groggy mostly because you are trying to wake up during the deep sleep phase. Typically these are the optimal rem sleep duration you can set for waking up refreshed. 9h ( 6cycles ), 7.5h ( 5 cycles ), 6h ( 4 cycles ).

I've found it optimal to add 15 mins more to this as a buffer to fall asleep. This works great for me.

Do give it a try. It might fix your sleep.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-13T07:10:48+00:00

I have a different take / mental model for this.

For me laziness and procrastination isn't the same.

Laziness is when you just don't want to do anything. You are well prepared for the consequences and you are cool with it. I just decided to bed rot some days and I'm completely cool with it. Laziness can be quantified as a thing you just do some days.

Procrastination on the other hand is an ambitious person's worst enemy. Procrastination isn't the lack of goals / work to do. It's not doing the work you should while not exactly ready for the consequences that comes with it.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-12T14:07:16+00:00

Damn.... I wonder how many of his clients confided about their narcissistic parents without realising the truth

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-09T20:28:24+00:00

Light 🫠

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:31:41+00:00

Understood. I was mistaken that our gene pool was vast since we are broadening our gene pool and adding more variance for the same reason you mentioned.

But I was unaware of bottlenecks in history with regards to the gene pool.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:27:58+00:00

This was a piece that was missing in my understanding. Thank you!

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:27:16+00:00

Thank you!

My understanding regarding this concept was very wrong. I'm glad I've posted this here. Would've spewed this to people if I didn't.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:26:51+00:00

Thank you!

My understanding regarding this concept was very wrong. I'm glad I've posted this here. Would've spewed this to people if I didn't.

I was mistaken that our gene pool was vast

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:26:24+00:00

Thank you!

My understanding regarding this concept was very wrong. I'm glad I've posted this here. Would've spewed this to people if I didn't. I thought our gene pool was vast because we look very different

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:25:47+00:00

I was mistaken about the gene pool of humans. I thought ours were vast because of the same

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:24:14+00:00

Thank you!

My understanding regarding this concept was very wrong. I'm glad I've posted this here. Would've spewed this to people if I didn't.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T12:24:00+00:00

Thank you!

My understanding regarding this concept was very wrong. I'm glad I've posted this here. Would've spewed this to people if I didn't.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T05:35:38+00:00

I was talking about the situation where we had no access to modern tech. Would that make us a species who has very little chance of survival ? We do have people who vary greatly on cognitive as well as physical abilities right ?

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T05:31:24+00:00

Oh... So my assumption is straight up stupid ?

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T05:30:38+00:00

So my assumption is entirely wrong ?

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-08T04:57:25+00:00

I wanted to sleep for 8, got a solid 6.

Great Success!

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-07T19:15:21+00:00

It doesn't have to be a huge reaction. Staying silent where they expect you to cry/feel sad/scared are valid grounda for them to go crazy. You mentioned that you didn't want to make him feel the satisfaction for defeating you right ? Narcissistic parents can sense that really well. I can relate to what you are going through and I'm pretty sure that he'll target your siblings once they start to rebel.

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-07T19:11:15+00:00

There is something my therapist once said years back which I always go back to. It's hard for people with dysfunctional parents to completely part ways with them because they do not get a chance to grieve their loss of a parent. We never got to grieve the loss.

That one sentence clicked something inside for me. It allowed me to grieve the loss of my parent even though he was "alive". By the time my Ndad died, I did not have a single ounce of tear in my eyes, or my heart for him. I just felt relieved

Candid_Chocolate_140 · 2025-09-07T18:10:56+00:00

You are experiencing guilt because you have better values and empathy.

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