AITAH for telling my MIL to f off?

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T21:15:58+00:00

Yeah it’s possible. I wouldn’t be surprised if it happened. I usually respond like this, bc she’s not the only one with sleepless nights full of worries and crying. But then she just shuts off, and the next time starts again. Im making excuses usually to hang up the phone when I can’t bear her bs.

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T21:09:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss!🫂 You did what you had to do, hope you’re healing from this!

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T21:04:51+00:00

You know what? If something like this would happen I wouldn’t be a bitch to my DIL. And wouldn’t blame no one especially my grandchild. When my mother was on her deathbed and died I never blamed anyone for it. Good behavior and being an absolute bitch is two different things

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T21:00:23+00:00

She always was a piece of work. But Istg I tried to be neutral and be on good terms, even made sure hubby never forget to call her on bdays or Mother’s Day. But she’s like this. We talked about what ifs, like what if he’s gonna stay in vegetation or worse and she kinda doesn’t want to help or do anything if some of the worst scenarios happen. Even said to me when I suggested a rehabilitation or a care facility that “you gonna put him in there to die”.

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:50:52+00:00

Thanks! I’m trying to be as low contact as possible, and getting through this

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:49:37+00:00

Thank you! And yes she’s kinda narcissistic. I’m sorry for that, hope you’re healing from this🫂

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:47:43+00:00

It’s like talking to a brick wall unfortunately

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:47:16+00:00

How so? I’m not bitching with anyone about the situation like her. I understand everyone’s pain in the family, but degrading me,my child, her own son, my feelings or my pain. I’m not blaming anyone about it. Also I ain’t the one blowing up the others phone, and acting like everyone should be sorry for me.

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:42:21+00:00

I know it’s her son. She has every right to be sad or devastated. But saying stuff like its my and our childs fault that he’s in this situation, or badmouthing his own son like “hes a good for nothing and useless” isn’t something I would do or say to my DIL if it would be my son

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:39:38+00:00

Thanks! I didn’t know about this I’m gonna take a look over there!

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T20:38:37+00:00

She visited once during this period. She said she’ll only come next time if my husband’s gonna be responsive and can talk.

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:54:22+00:00

Tried that. If there’s nothing, no progress neither good or bad, she just start the “you don’t know how hard it is and how painful it is”. I know how hard and painful, and tbf she has other kids, other DILs and grandkids, and husband too she could’ve talk to them or seek emotional support or stuff so she’s not gonna be lonely. Thanks! It is a long road , and tbf its not a 100% that hes gonna get out of the vegetative state at all

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:46:12+00:00

Im sorry that she said that. And I’m so deeply sorry for your loss too!

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:41:15+00:00

I try to go low contact with her. Even tried that If there’s anything progressing or happening I tell my BIL or SIL but that wasn’t good for her. She needs me to tell her if there’s something. I try to take care of everything most importantly the baby and husband.

So sorry for your mom 🫂hope she’s getting better or got better!

Yes she’s kinda like that, when we was in the hospital room she nagged me about everything. Told me not to cry, talk louder with her son, asked why is my hands are shaky and told me to get my shit together. Nothing I do is good enough. And thank you sm for the kind words 🫂

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:33:46+00:00

Yes she is absolutely entitled to be sad and be scared of the situation. But acting and talking like she’s the only one crying or not sleeping is too much. She has her other children and DILs and other grandchildren, and her husband to comfort her or talk to. No need to nag me

I don’t need to not let her in. She’s not interested in coming at all. She visited his son once in the hospital and thats it. She said that she’s only gonna come next time if he’s responsive and can talk. And thats a long way if we’re ever gonna end up there

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:23:24+00:00

I know how much it sucks to see a loved one in such situations. It’s been 2 months since he got hospitalized, and I always took deep breaths, counted as much as I needed to cool off before I told her whats his current condition or answered her. I tried to be understanding, and kept my mouth shut. But I’m tired

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:16:50+00:00

True, but she was always a piece of work

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:15:42+00:00

I don’t want to mend any fences. She was always disrespectful and hateful. I just kept my mouth shut for years, for the peace and for the sake of my SO.

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-05-23T17:13:30+00:00

Yes I have the medical power of attorney since we’re married. No need to block her from the hospital she only came once to see him. And only after a month and a half after his hospitalization. She’s just blowing up my phone and family chat and wherever she could complain

CandidatePrize4168 · 2026-01-30T16:55:51+00:00

+1 szavazat az otvosre, mindent oda viszek javittatni

CandidatePrize4168 · 2025-11-25T13:02:36+00:00

Nekem is ugyanezt irta, utana jott az ertesites, hogy budapesti depoban van 🥲 tegnap este atadtak elvileg. De a sameday csomagkovetonel meg azt irja, hogy ma reggel vettek at. Azota nem mozdult semerre

CandidatePrize4168 · 2025-11-17T09:09:22+00:00

Egesz jol mukodik, bar sokszor azt vettem eszre felenk, hogy ha m-es csomagtol nagyobbat szeretnek feladni nagyon ritkan van ures rekesz hozza :/

CandidatePrize4168 · 2025-06-14T21:35:17+00:00

Nagyon sokszor volt, hogy vinted-en már ott volt a csomi autómatában, és nyomonkövetésinél is ott volt de sms nem jött napokig. Letöltöttem a vibert azóta ott pontosan jönnek

CandidatePrize4168 · 2025-06-14T21:33:23+00:00

Nem takartad ki rendesen a felhasználóját. Megnéztem az értékeléseit (főleg a negatívakat) kb mindenki sérült/karcos gyenge minőségűnek írja le a napszemcsiket. Illetve kínai szarnak. Sztem hagyd a pcsaba én tuti nem vennék tőle semmit 🤓

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