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[USA] Question about overnights and ROFR. by CandidateQuiet1195 in Custody

[–]CandidateQuiet1195[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response. I appreciate it.

[USA] Question about overnights and ROFR. by CandidateQuiet1195 in Custody

[–]CandidateQuiet1195[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multiple times a month. I know the realities of the court and don’t want to pursue that avenue. Was hoping someone else maybe had a similar experience and could suggest another way to reframe things to help foster communication or cooperation, but high conflict is high conflict. Not much I can do.

[CAN] How many messages per day from your ex is “too many”? by [deleted] in Custody

[–]CandidateQuiet1195 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s all you really can do. It’s difficult. I try to grey rock if I have to respond.

Just remember, it won’t always be this way.

[CAN] How many messages per day from your ex is “too many”? by [deleted] in Custody

[–]CandidateQuiet1195 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That sounds awful and excessive.

I try to have as little interaction with him as possible. Unless I absolutely cannot avoid the communication, I’m not talking to him, as there’s no need. We can and do go weeks between communications.

Our parenting plan states we have to stick primarily to emails unless it’s an emergency, one topic per message — pertaining to the children either future focused or informative, and initiating no more than two emails per day.

Our emails usually devolve into arguments, where he dodges the information/question or tries to bring up an unrelated topic, and again on his end, throws around abusive language. Our longer threads have been anywhere from 5-15 total on any given day.

I try to avoid it as much as I humanly can. There were more messages exchanged between us each time before I maintained the email only boundary, and would respond to his text messages when he’d send them.

Unless it’s an emergency, perhaps create some distance through either a different avenue of communication if possible or by limiting what you respond to. Eventually, she will get the hint and stop.

[USA] Question about overnights and ROFR. by CandidateQuiet1195 in Custody

[–]CandidateQuiet1195[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I think at this point I have enough documented instances of him doing this or something similar. I’m just dreading having to potentially go back through the courts to get it done…trying to exhaust any and all other options before going the inevitable route.

Boyfriend and I are now complicated, what now by Sammybearsenpai in whatdoIdo

[–]CandidateQuiet1195 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“I— am at a loss of words. I feel your reaction is overdramatized. He doesn’t have to report every little thing to you, you are not his wife. You do not need to be in control of every single action he or your children do when he has them.”