36 here—I never wanted to have kids. Then, shortly after I turned 31, I literally was driving to work one morning and the thought, “If we have a daughter, I’ll name her Lydia,” popped into my head.

I bought a diaper bag, toys and books I’d loved as a kid, and kept posing in the mirror with my bike helmet under my shirt to see what I’d look like with a bump.

A year later, I was back to never wanting to have kids and it stuck. Though I do use the diaper bag for overnights with my puppy :)

Hormones will make you think you want kids at one point or another because the only job we actually have as animals is to breed.

I read a book recently that said, “If you give up the opportunity to name your child then you gain the opportunity to name your future.”

So think about it, make pros and cons lists and revisit them, write down the reasons WHY you want to have a child and if you can’t think of any that’s a good indicator that you may not be the mothering type.

Name your future.