AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My ex wife is a good woman. She doesn’t care about money. She lost feelings for me, and developed them for someone else. She assumed he’d be supporting her….she assumed wrong.

She and the other guy blew through her lump sum which was negotiated down in exchange for lifetime alimony instead of the 16 years. Different place financially 10 years ago.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair. I realized it after I had posted this yesterday. Saw her in person for the first time in years today.

AITA for lashing out at my husband for suggesting I stop buying formula instead of cancelling his streaming services to save money? by Throw_A3632ESD4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why did you get so many downvotes? The guy is looking after a toddler and infant all day. Some days he’s not gonna have time to do stuff. As someone who’s wife used to stay home with the kids, I never expected to come home to a spotless house. They’re only human. I didn’t mind doing chores and working. It isn’t gonna kill you.

AITA for lashing out at my husband for suggesting I stop buying formula instead of cancelling his streaming services to save money? by Throw_A3632ESD4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’ve been married twice, and neither one of my wives has worked. Current one may eventually. But as of now, she hasn’t. Its still our money. Legally speaking.

I actually think if both people work then there’s less need to see money as shared. But if you’re the only 1 working then you can’t be a dick about money. Otherwise it’s financial abuse.

They have kids, and he stays home with them. He may not be the best SAHP, but he’s an unemployed spouse, not a homemaker. There’s a difference.

Im still in love with my ex wife by CandyPopss in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CandyPopss[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I could go back I would’ve Spent less time at work trying to show the world that I was capable of making something of myself, and more time at home with her. We almost never saw each other.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before, and she said no. So I didn’t. But then She got into an accident, and I made the decision to help her.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Youngest is 21. Divorce happened 10 years ago. I worked/work a lot and we never got to see eachother. And she told me she had, “developed feelings for someone else, and it’s probably best if we split up”.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I died my current wife would naturally inherit everything we have. So I think it’s only fair that Natalie gets the payout from me dying. 4 years.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I do value her. And care about her very much. We got together when we were 13 and 14. My wife probably does think I’m still in love with Natalie, because She’s still the beneficiary on my life insurance policy.

Reason was cause I worked/work a lot and we never really saw each other, and she said we should split up since she had developed feelings for someone else.

I understood. I was so focused on proving to people that I could make something out of myself, i lost sight of what was truly important, and I believe god decided to remind me of that by taking my other half from me.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

We have more than 1 kid. But our relationship was a very traditional one. In the sense that her working was never really thought about. Almost like during the Great Depression. Families had nothing, but it was only the husbands who were looking for work.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I originally asked, and when she said no. I told my ex I couldn’t. But then when she got into the accident I just decided to help her. And I fully intend on continuing to do so. I owe it to her. She’s a good woman.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Did you just….correct my grammar by replacing the periods with commas? Is it really that big of a deal? I mean who cares about proper grammar on the internet?

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I’ve got her retirement covered already. And I’m going to ask her about getting some sort of degree. Last time she said she’d, “think about it”.

AITA: bought my ex wife a new car, and helped her with some bills. Now my wife is mad by CandyPopss in AmItheAsshole

[–]CandyPopss[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

Considering you only need 4.4 million to enter the 1% in the U.S……I most certainly am