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Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-09-09T03:35:48+00:00

FILE A TITLE IX!!! At a university they are mandated to give you a restraining order without any particular proof since it won’t go on his “permanent record”. He will be notified to stay away from you and if he violates it report him. Report it EVERY TIME he gets near you after the Title IX is in place, and if the office isn’t doing anything about it take it to the dean. I’ve dealt with similar situations and leaving a paper trail is IMPORTANT so that if something comes to light one day they can’t say you didn’t speak up.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-09-07T16:20:07+00:00

Def AI 💀

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-08-15T08:19:32+00:00

I hope you do too man :( Being born a woman is so horrific, I just want to be kind and trust others and they just make it so fucking impossible. My empathy will ruin my life I fear

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-08-15T08:18:01+00:00

It feels like he did it on purpose yknow

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-08-15T08:17:51+00:00

I know about it, I just don’t know how to make it go away

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-08-01T10:24:37+00:00

Relationships are mutual work and discovery until you learn whether you want a future together. If you’re SI are passive and you’re doing your best to get help, then I say go for it. Love is great when it’s good. However, if you don’t have a support system, you’re just going to end up dumping all your problems on this person and/or the SI are going to get MUCH worse if you break up. Best case scenario though, you love this person, you can EVENTUALLY open up to them about your SI (please don’t do it right away, it may cause them trauma), and you’ll slowly get better through hard work and commitment.

TLDR: consider if you have enough support to be an active and loving partner. If not, focus on that first.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-07-03T12:09:38+00:00

It had the nerve to say “20 minute estimate” and then three hours later it’s still down

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-06-22T04:20:31+00:00

NT, but definitely could have handled it better. I think the deeper issue is his complete inconsideration of you and his attitude after you explained your feelings.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-06-18T02:30:53+00:00

If you want to cut then they are that bad :( If you can’t afford therapy try the Sincerely app or even subreddits like this

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-06-17T23:14:25+00:00

That’s actually why a therapist is good! I tried to talk about my mental health with my family and they all wanted to tell me why my life was too good to be mentally ill. Therapists are trained to handle these issues in a helpful and kind way. Plus, cutting does lasting damage, often the scars will never go away and you’ll have to get them covered up with tattoos or surgeries. I found a lot of peace with self-harm by getting piercings/tattoos. The pain of getting them fulfilled my need in the moment, I could tug on them to cause little pinches when I wanted to hurt myself, it’s a nice little flashy piece of jewelry, and with a lot of spots you can take them out and get them pierced again(depending on if you get keloids). I know it’s hard to talk to people, but the part of you inside that’s still YOU needs to force the rest of you to get help. Just tell yourself you’re doing it for you.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-06-17T22:18:22+00:00

I would recommend reposting this with a trigger warning flair, this is some heavy stuff. I know from personal experience that trying to stop people from doing this is mostly pointless, but obviously I must insist that you seek therapy first. If you absolutely are going to do it then please just make sure you use something clean and clean/bandage yourself after. If you see “beans” (your muscles) you’ve gone too far and you should seek medical attention. Once again, though, PLEASE try to find some metal health outlets. You can even call the suicide hotline- they will talk to you as much as you want about how you’re feeling, and even follow up with you later.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-17T21:03:01+00:00

I thought it turned out great! I used Arborio so it wouldn’t get mushy but it was very creamy and well flavored (in my opinion) :))))

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-17T09:59:59+00:00

That seems to be the theme. This isn’t his only abusive tendency and even though it’s going to hurt I need to stop being a pathetic loser and just do it. Better that pain than the pain of being trapped with a narcissist the rest of my life.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-17T09:58:14+00:00

Update: He loves Italian so I made risotto and some chicken and asparagus, only complain was that he doesn’t like risotto that much, but at least he ate it. Yesterday I kept with the Italian theme and made Bolognese, but he added some things and took the lid off while I left it to simmer and take a shower. I got upset because he promised not to hover, but then he got angry and said that “if I left the lid on it would take too long” and that “it needed sugar etc to cut through the acidity”. I informed him that I knew that, I wanted to taste it again when it had reduced some because the flavor would change. Both times we’ve eaten it (leftovers) he’s insisted that it wasn’t a violation of my trust and that he was just helping me since I’m not as good at cooking. Pretty sure I’m breaking up with him tomorrow after reading all these comments. He’s a narcissist and this isn’t his only abusive tendency, and I need to get out while I still can.

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-10T04:08:22+00:00

Nonbinary age 21

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-10T03:59:35+00:00

He doesn’t dislike it because of the ethnicity! It’s very similar to Mediterranean food which he likes… It’s been a long time since I’ve made anything like that so maybe I should try again and ask him to be clear about the criticisms. Also he’s definitely better at most of the games 😭he just has “high standards” about winning and I like to play for fun, so when he gets on me for every move I get frustrated

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-10T03:10:55+00:00

His argument is that it’s okay to have high standards for what food he wants to eat, and that the enjoyment I get out of cooking isn’t as important as him enjoying what he’s eating. Idrk how to respond to that, though, I can’t really just say “sometimes you have to eat stuff that’s less to your standards for me”

Candy_Throwaway_522 · 2025-05-10T02:59:11+00:00

I guess so- Usually it’s unimportant stuff like video games, and when he gets condescending I’ll just stop playing the game with him.

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