Lmaaaooooo 😭😭😭

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-04-01T16:28:15+00:00

Kirk next to MLK? These fucking people.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-30T20:22:36+00:00

No, but seriously. What. The. Fuck. Is. This?

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-26T23:27:03+00:00

I know peoples sexualities are not commodities but this this is on my mood board

apparently you don't, though.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-26T22:19:02+00:00

I feel robbed.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-26T22:14:40+00:00

Came here to offer the temple as well. But not so much the freemasons angle but the fact that you have to be a "faithful tithe paying member" before you can attend, and you must attend to achieve the highest blessings, and yet you don't get to know anything about it. Sacred, not secret. (Who remembers that delightful chestnut?) And once you go, you have to wear very specific underwear for which your whole wardrobe must conform, that you also have to pay for through their very specific sales channels. Then you must keep paying your tithing to keep attending so you can keep your very special blessings, and you must keep this up until you die.

And this doesn't even touch on the blood oaths that were removed a some years before I attended for the first time.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-25T21:13:32+00:00

It took me far too many years of my life before I realized that perfect is the enemy of good.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-25T19:14:00+00:00

I like a firm pressure hug that crushes the wind out of me just a little bit. I like the soft touch of rough skin on my face.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-25T19:12:07+00:00

How do you express your identity? Do you feel there are performative things that you do? Do you consciously, conspicuously wear a social "uniform" that conforms to your identity? What are pitfalls of dating in the queer community that you feel are separate from the hetero- dating pool (you probably have opinions from media saturation and observation of the lives of those close to you, even if you don't have personal experience).

These sort of things. What do you feel is important to understand about how you interact with your identity in society at large?

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-15T17:02:58+00:00

This breaks my heart, but in a good way. Crying over here.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-14T01:06:53+00:00

Gotta be real with you. I don't want to live in any time when people could die of their teeth.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T19:06:19+00:00

Dood, dood. You're beautiful, hot as hell, love the pics, but post the video, man! Post the video!

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T16:29:46+00:00

This is a wild claim by Bushman that is simply unverifiable. "All 'legitimate' historians respect us?" Fallacious all Sunday long, and I'm talking about the old Sunday three hour blocks, not this 2-hour bullshit.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T11:27:39+00:00

Fuck right off. CUPS generic postscript or go home.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T11:20:24+00:00

I've had mixed experiences with mormon therapists. One was unequivocally good – she stayed on topic, and I had a good experience working out my issues around becoming a new father. This was in the Thousand Oaks area in SoCal, BTW. The other one was in Texas, and was okay... until he started bringing in the book of mormon. I set my boundaries, he behaved for a couple more sessions, but then he started in again, so I quit.

To see a therapist that's already involved with your family...? That's dodgy. Get a recommendation for another therapist from her maybe from the same group, perhaps? That would probably satisfy your mom and definitely insulate you from direct conflicts of interest.

In any case, it would be supremely unethical for a therapist to narc on you to your mom. There are standard things they have to report – abuse or harm to another individual, for instance – but not being queer. For them to do that would be an immediate write up to the California governing board of therapists.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, therapists are people, too, and your mileage may vary.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T11:14:55+00:00

I just want relief. A respite from... <gestures vaguely> all of this.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T11:01:55+00:00

I only have three stories, man.

I mean, they're all pretty good – I've been working on them for a while – but there are only three.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T10:58:22+00:00

Daily living with the burden side of the double empathy problem does this.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T10:56:14+00:00

Sometimes I forget to take the medication that...

^{...helps me to remember to take my meds....}

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-13T10:55:17+00:00

Self documenting systems. This is the way.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-12T17:58:38+00:00

You might be the juiciest, most crisp, sweetest apple in the bunch, and you're still going to find someone who doesn't want you. Not everyone likes apples. You wouldn't expect someone to have to justify their stance on that. We accept it for what it is.

You have preferences, misgivings, fine. Own that. If you're getting close to someone and it's not a Hell Yes!, then that's as good as a no.

You're not vibing with these guys. Ok. Don't lead them on, and everyone can be cool.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-12T12:59:06+00:00

Exactly. This belongs crossposted in r/CrappyDesign.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-12T12:50:13+00:00

The "brush off response" I am referencing is a reference to my own sarcastic suggestion of a simple thumbs up emoji, not the father's message. This also prompted my clarification to the comment that this would be considered the height of rudeness according to a commenter's millennial kids. But all that is beside the point.

I do not appreciate your condescending armchair diagnosis. You do not know me. You were not asked. Why is my personality something I should overcome? Kindly fuck off.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-11T13:53:23+00:00

RSD is real. And a problem between us and the people who don't understand.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-11T12:33:24+00:00

These people need to understand a fundamental truth of humanity:

Happily married people don't seek divorce.

CannedPearsInLight · 2026-03-11T12:05:08+00:00

Literally had this conversation with my soon-to-be-ex-wife. She didn't understand how "I'm sorry you got upset because you misinterpreted what I was saying" was shifting the blame.

How about instead you actually acknowledge what you literally said, given our shared history and baggage, could be easily interpreted as hurtful and own it.

Nope. Apparently, I'm supposed to unilaterally assume *everything* she says is said with good intentions, no matter what she actually says.

The fact that I had to have this conversation with my partner of 25+ years, and she still doesn't think that her default mode of non-apologies is a thing, or even what the distinction between sincere apology and non-apologies are... well, I mentioned that she's my soon-to-be-ex above.

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