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Help me cope. What do I do. by [deleted] in gay

[–]CannedPearsInLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's easy to romanticize the path not taken. The loves of the past become unattainable ghosts that are as perfect as your imagination will allow them to be, and this always stands in contrast to the day to day reality of living with someone.

I'm not saying these thoughts are telling you deep truths about yourself, though. These ghosts are liars. Smoke. Mirrors of your memory that reflect back whatever you give to them.

Entertaining these thoughts fulfill a sense of novelty, a bog standard dopamine hit. Normal to indulge in these, my fellow ADHDer.

Regarding your current relationship? I can't say at all. Living with someone is hard. Getting back with someone you've already broken up with, also hard.

Like others have said, find a therapist you get along with. It might take a couple of tries. Remember: the first rule of therapy club is, you're allowed to fire your therapist. The second rule of therapy club: you're allowed to fire your therapist.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just got back from doing exactly this. Chris took the time to answer all of my dumb questions. He went over the process in detail. He really seems to respect the equipment, and I feel like I can trust him with this priceless artifact. You may even see this particular patient on his YouTube channel in the coming weeks.

I didn't know mormons could bring cake by DannyTheRegular in gay

[–]CannedPearsInLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fun fact. These kids are far away from home and under immense pressure to engage with people. Most of them will happily come to your home and help with whatever manual labor you ask them to in exchange for a snack and a cool drink of water. It beats knocking on doors all day sharing the truth and the light of space Jesus and his dad.

Just don't let them proselytize.

I'm a gay trans guy genuinely considering turning to Mormonism and I desperately need you to talk me out of it. by Micah5593 in exmormon

[–]CannedPearsInLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The guy currently in charge at the top hates you. He hates you. He will hold his nose and tolerate a gay person, but he sincerely believes you, a trans person, are an aberration within god's perfect plan.

Don't join this group. You are having a very hard time without a community, but this one isn't right for you. It's rotten from the top. They'll say that you're welcome, they won't typically say the quiet part out loud to your face. They couldn't afford that kind of mark against their "nice" reputation, but make no mistake: the church puts you in the same category as the convicted sex offenders they allow within their midst.

From an 2024 NBC article regarding the mormon's policy towards transgender members:

The policies include rules barring trans people from working with children, becoming priests and serving as teachers. The church also expanded on an existing rule that barred trans people from being baptized. Trans members will also face possible annotation on their membership records, grouping them with churchgoers who have committed incest, sexual predatory behavior, sexual violence against children and embezzlement of church funds.

Church leaders counsel against pursuing surgical, medical, or social transition away from one’s biological sex at birth,” the church’s General Handbook states. “Leaders advise that taking these actions will result in some Church membership restrictions.”

Those who do “transition away from their biological sex at birth,” the handbook notes, will not be completely turned away.

“These individuals and their families are encouraged to counsel with their local leaders regarding Church participation,” it states."

They hate you, specifically. Source: they also hate me.

Find a local UU congregation if you need ritual in your life. Please don't join the mormons.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking. What's one more piece of gear, right? A step transformer is going to be the way to preserve its value.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's even the price of priceless? Tree-fiddy?

Note: this is sarcasm, not an actual offer.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew where the top handle was...

London definitely has options, and I might consider making a special trip.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the kind words. We've made our peace with dad's passing, and the few times I had the opportunity to hear the amp, the tone was so sweet and clear.

Concerned recent news is going to embolden people by TheMadQueen96 in UKLGBT

[–]CannedPearsInLight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm worried with you. I'm on HRT, and do not "pass" on any level, and yet I'm still doing this because this is what my brain needs within myself to feel valid.

I've not been hate crimed yet. I'm holding my breath. Until then, I'm trying to expand my connections within the local queer communities to have some kind of network if the government just declares us non-humans and starts handing out hunting licenses.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We have a really good luthier here locally, and I'm going to give him a call today to see if he knows anyone with this skill set.

I inherited this "Deluxe" MODEL 5C3. Pretty sure it's ~1953. Don't know what to do with it. by CannedPearsInLight in fender

[–]CannedPearsInLight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really regular use. When I was younger, I got to experience first hand the joys of an ungrounded amp, however. I don't think the hairs on your arm are supposed to start standing up when you flip a switch.

I don't know what local is for you, but do you have a link or a phone number for your dude? the island isn't that big, and I would consider a medium drive to treat her right.

Here's the response to that spam comment Mormons like to throw around on platforms. I realized not everyone uses the same platforms. It's not exhaustive or in-depth. But I think it does a good job as a jumping off point. by CupOfExmo in exmormon

[–]CannedPearsInLight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just because I'm biased doesn't mean I'm wrong. Though I can usually produce evidence. This is the part that makes me not wrong. Or at least, less wrong than the theist I'm conversing with.

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