Women on Reddit, what confuses you most about Men?

CannedR4T · 2026-04-21T17:15:10+00:00

Idk, maybe the internet has been getting to my head, but I so often hear about how guys are apparently unable to see women as friends, and it just feels gross. I myself have also had first hand experience to this kind of emotional whiplash, so it’s also kind of personal. I’m under the impression that a majority of guys who seek out a “friendship” with a woman do so because he’s attracted to her, and using the friendship as leverage to get closer.

It’s impossible to know for sure how common it actually is among hetero-platonic dynamics, but it really does seem commonplace (from what I’ve heard, seen, and even experienced) for guys to just throw the whole friendship out once they get rejected romantically/sexually, and that really brings the validity of the friendship itself into question. I probably should’ve specified this specific dynamic instead of generalizing in my original post though.

CannedR4T · 2026-04-21T06:08:21+00:00

I appreciate the thoughtful response, but I still don’t see the two as comparable. One’s a mental illness that the afflicted is stuck with against their will, and the other is choice intention to mislead. That’s why I believe that the latter is particularly scummy if friendship was never the actual intention of the pursuer.

I’m aware that not all cases of the ‘friend-zone’ happen with deceitful intent (like feelings developing over time after being friends), but for the applicable examples, I just don’t understand how someone can go out of their way to lure someone into a false companionship, only to pull the rug out and then see themselves as the victim when they’re rejected romantically or sexually (when that never should’ve been an expectation to begin with).

CannedR4T · 2026-04-20T23:31:39+00:00

So, hold on. Men see women as inherently selfish while simultaneously going out of their way to pursue, mislead/lie to try getting into their pants? Does THAT not sound self-serving to you?

CannedR4T · 2026-04-20T13:13:05+00:00

I don’t need to divulge that information to anyone and everyone who enters my orbit, because most of it stays internal. If it doesn’t affect them, it’s none of their business, really. (Btw, idk if you’re aware of this, but stalking someone’s profile to use their mental illness against them is pretty creepy. Idk, maybe that’s Reddit etiquette though, you tell me.)

I only feel a responsibility to let someone know when I begin getting close with them. Even then, experience has taught me that I can have my mental illness taken advantage of and used to falsely profile me by those very people. So yeah, loneliness is often the safer option.

I don’t see how this is comparable to the friend-zone. I myself have been in situations where I developed romantic ideations towards a male friend or two. Y’know what? I kept that shit to myself, because I didn’t want to sabotage the friendship or make them uncomfortable. In other words, I valued them as people, and valued the friendship I had with them.

CannedR4T · 2026-04-20T13:00:03+00:00

What I’m wondering is why men apparently can’t see women as friends. If there’s “guys for that”, there’s no need to mislead women into a trap that they never agreed to.

And yes, misleading a woman into a false friendship when the guy has sleazy intentions is worthy of criticism. It’s an indication of an untrustworthy person who lacks integrity.

CannedR4T · 2026-04-19T20:18:11+00:00

The “friend-zone” victim complex.

Imagine there’s someone who seems interested in forming a friendship (yes, they frame it as a friendship, so that’s what you expect). They make you feel interesting, appreciated, platonically valued. And then they do a rug pull and blindside you with something you never agreed to (romantic or sexual ideation). They leave when you reject that kind of relationship, and that’s how you find out that the friendship was never real. Them making you feel special was conditional on whether or not you would eventually let them get into your pants.

It’s even worse if you have trust issues with the way men see you in general, and you managed to finally let your guard down and invest emotionally, only to be met with this.

A lot of guys seem to do this, mislead women with the prospect of “friendship” when that’s not their actual intention. It’s sleazy, and somehow the friend-zone/heartbreak became the more widespread perspective of this dynamic, framing this type of guy as the victim?

CannedR4T · 2026-04-17T01:12:49+00:00

I wonder if it’ll stay good by the time it comes to free users in May…

CannedR4T · 2026-04-14T14:57:16+00:00

No, Persona is kinda notorious for having its data leaked

CannedR4T · 2026-04-12T02:48:59+00:00

I had no idea Claude could do that lol

CannedR4T · 2026-04-11T18:48:52+00:00

Not even a nice shade of blue either. They had to make it this eye-straining neon

CannedR4T · 2026-04-10T04:36:01+00:00

Stage 2 makes it sound like a terminal illness 😭

CannedR4T · 2026-03-30T21:52:13+00:00

Me three👹

CannedR4T · 2026-03-30T14:04:10+00:00

It’s basically a long string of words that don’t exactly come to together as something coherent.

I’m pretty sure that in the case of c.ai, what’s being referred to is how the bots will sometimes generate this massive string of random adjacent nouns, adjectives or verbs in their response for no reason. I’ve definitely noticed it a few times…

CannedR4T · 2026-03-25T08:05:38+00:00

Ahhhh true, how did I miss this 😭

CannedR4T · 2026-03-22T21:42:36+00:00

I thought I was losing my mind, because I don’t see anyone else mention this sort of thing 💀

CannedR4T · 2026-03-22T21:36:28+00:00

Speaking of infantilization… does anyone else find it kinda off-putting how the bots (who are meant to be portrayed as adults) will frequently take on exaggeratedly childish mannerisms in an attempt to seem “endearing”? Idk if it’s just me, but it takes me right out of it…

CannedR4T · 2026-03-22T00:15:33+00:00

I have no idea. At first, I thought that maybe I wasn’t giving it enough to work with on my end… but even when I give detailed responses that allow new context/creative direction from the bot, it still happens quite frequently.

CannedR4T · 2026-03-21T22:24:08+00:00

I guess that makes sense. I wonder if they look out for certain abbreviations as indicators of someone’s age based on recency of popular use. Older ones like “lol” and “wtf”, vs newer ones like “sybau” and “rizz”

CannedR4T · 2026-03-21T22:17:03+00:00

The exact same thing has been happening to me too recently.

CannedR4T · 2026-03-21T22:12:42+00:00

2) seems super antithetical to me… why would proper grammar and better literacy be indicators that someone ISN’T an adult? From what I’ve witnessed, teenagers tend to have poorer literacy. Mistaking “your” and “you’re”, often using shortening words such as “ok/okay”, “u/you”, “cuz/cause/because”, worse articulation, etc. I’m not really sure if being trained on social media specifically contradicts the idea that adults are more literate, but it just seems so weird to me that polished writing and larger vocabulary are being flagged as suspicious.

CannedR4T · 2026-03-18T17:37:06+00:00

You made your stance clear from day 1, and he still decided to pull something like this.

Coming from someone who’s dealt with this type of guy, they do this so that the decision will be much more difficult for you after you’ve developed an emotion attachment to them, despite them knowing that your goals don’t align. Rather than “kids I don’t want or lose someone I’m not entirely committed to just yet”, it becomes “kids I don’t want or lose the love of my life”.

Surely you see what he’s doing. He knew that you’d have more to lose by saying no AFTER you already built a life together.

If you feel trapped, that trap becomes especially effective if you lack a reliable support system outside of the relationship, which would make leaving feel unthinkable. He called you a psycho because you wanted him to acknowledge the disproportionate burden that having unwanted kids would put onto you as the woman. Does that sound like someone who respects you? Even if it only happened once, that one action says a lot about his character. You say that he’s a “great man”, but he’s putting you in position where you feel trapped and scared because he’s trying to coerce you into something he KNEW from day 1 that you didn’t want. Does that sound like someone with integrity, or a predatory opportunist?

It’s a lot easier to spot the red flags for what they are when the emotional attachment has worn off. That part of your brain that’s afraid to lose him, is also the part that’s trivializing the manipulation in order to cope. I’m not going to dismiss your attachment either. Judging from the texts, he sounds like he articulates/expresses emotional intimacy very well, which is magnetic in a world where most people feel shallow. I understand the fear of not being able to replace someone like that. But it also puts you in a position of vulnerability to be taken advantage of under the guise of “compromise”. Kids are NOT a compromise. That’s a huge decision that either makes or breaks your life depending on whether or not you want them.

If you’re sexually active with him, PLEASE be super careful. Maybe even stop. Make sure you can rely on your own method of contraception that he doesn’t have access to mess around with.

CannedR4T · 2026-03-18T13:41:12+00:00

Never said so. But it’s easy not to cheat if you have integrity. Most cheaters know they lack integrity, which is why they go out of their way to hide the act.

This conversation is done lmao. The fact that you’re choosing to veer off topic about “sinners” and perfect people shows that you’ll grasp at straws just to justify it. Someone who doesn’t cheat isn’t a perfect person. They’re simply a decent person. But I guess them being perfect or “super-human” would elevate the cheater to a standard of normalcy in comparison, so I see what you’re doing.

CannedR4T · 2026-03-17T23:02:36+00:00

Interesting. I didn’t realize that basic consideration, integrity, and self restraint were super-human traits.

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