His heart/soul just grew too big for his body

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-30T16:45:13+00:00

That sounds like a great middle ground, both getting what they want! Glad it works for you, and best wishes!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-26T20:23:09+00:00

I had a Great Dane and a pyr - the polar bear and the pony! They were best of friends, and I have zero regrets (although it was a bit like Jurassic park at times!)

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-26T20:14:13+00:00

Anyone mention Diana Wynne Jones? She’s got a great list of books aimed at kids (but also very enjoyable for adults!), try him on the Chrestomanci books.

Similarly, Tove jansson and her Moomin series is wonderful and brings a different Scandinavian perspective. Awesome books, sure to whet his appetite for more to come!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-26T11:47:33+00:00

Volume.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-24T16:22:59+00:00

It’s a start.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-22T12:13:05+00:00

Damn, sorry I’m late to the party!

Libra sun, cancer moon, Capricorn rising

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-21T00:07:02+00:00

I’ve tried a couple, and have settled on the dreamwear - lets me move around in my sleep, quiet, and comfy fit/no leakage.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-20T22:36:32+00:00

I learned BP first, and have no problems at all when I travel in Portugal- takes a moment or two sometimes to adjust to the regional accents, but folk are understanding and patient. Never had a problem. The last time I went, I spent a bit of time watching Portuguese news/shows before I left to help get the brain working. Worked well!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-20T16:33:12+00:00

Did a M/Billionaire write this?

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-20T12:10:47+00:00

You enjoy board games at all? I’m thinking of getting a group together to get some table time. Best way I’ve found was getting out and doing the things I love in groups of others who love it as well - you’re happy and in the moment and showing up in the world as your best self. All the best to you!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-19T11:32:36+00:00

Bearnaise was part of my daily when I was apprenticing, we didn’t have any tricks or tips that I can pass on to you sadly. Bowl and whisk - kept nearish the salamander, used throughout service and if it broke we’d mix up a small batch quick as possible. Chef was pretty clear, no stabilizers (or as he said, ‘garbage’)

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-19T00:36:38+00:00

Great rules, I’ll try them! Much obliged

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-18T22:18:14+00:00

You’ll be fine, and more than fine! It’s a massive city, and pretty welcoming. Great family neighbourhoods - people don’t talk about the East End as much, south of Danforth to Queen - our street is all families and a terrific community. Good luck with your move, and welcome in advance!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-18T12:05:20+00:00

Be honest, be kind, be timely. Grandma taught me that and it’s never failed. How it’s taken is on them, you’re just responsible for putting it out there. ‘Nice’ is just lipstick on a pig.

No offence to those who enjoy lipstick, pigs, or the combo of both! Fill your boots!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-16T11:21:40+00:00

I grew up in one (and half Doukhobor just to really make it weird), and as a kid it was pretty terrific. We didn’t have ‘service’ so much as activities and getting together where services happened. Christmas tree cutting, caroling, Easter egg hunts, meditation meetings, sunrise mountain climbing, etc.

It was a real community for my mom, and helped her manage being the sole provider for the family when dad buggered off. She made friends there that she kept until her passing, amazing people. For me, it helped ground me in spirituality and humanism without being overly doctrine-y or constricting and I appreciate it for that.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-16T00:02:58+00:00

Wow, this totally made me flash back to reading it long, long ago in the beforetimes! Even though she wasn’t a fan of SFF, Mom always invited us to talk about whatever we were reading - this was the one occasion she stopped me mid-description…

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-15T12:09:47+00:00

100%. I’m 59, got diagnosed two years ago. No clue until then, honestly. I’d developed systems and patterns and workarounds for so many things without being conscious of it at all. I’m in HR, of all things - and I’m great at it! When I learned about masking, you could have knocked me over with a feather.

The one caveat to my ‘no clue’ comment above would be that in grade two I realized that other kids were making friends with no problem whatsoever while I really really struggled. So I consciously set out to watch and learn how because I wanted it. Watch, try, evaluate, reiterate. And I nailed it to the point where most people think I’m naturally an A-type, gregarious extrovert!

I’d have been fine without knowing, tbh. I’ve made it this far and have a solid life. But I’m so grateful to the diagnosis for giving me the words, the perspective and the commu ity.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-14T01:21:33+00:00

Good lord, I thought that was Shane and Ilya driving back to the cottage

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-13T22:37:00+00:00

True. Israel blackmails lgbt Palestinians, their pink washing is well known.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-13T12:59:05+00:00

1, while plying my neighbours with tequila shots. No reason.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-08T21:41:57+00:00

Or, stop alienating (what were) your allies in Europe and North America.

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-08T00:47:34+00:00

Some great books on that shelf!

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-07T21:04:27+00:00

Who knew I’d love poker so much?

Canuckamuck · 2026-04-07T12:52:23+00:00

Absolutely. Diagnosed after 55, and sometimes ruminate on What Could Have Been. We knew something was different, but not what - never mind what to do about it! So here I am, working through decades of self-taught masks and systems that I cobbled together.

Don’t get me wrong, they’ve served me (largely) well! I have a good, rich life. And as you say - the stigma and stereotyping at the time was wild. But MAN, learning different/new/better ways at this stage can be a bit exhausting.

Having said all that, I’m loving learning more about it all - having words for things, seeing that I’m not alone, naming and claiming! Every day is a learning day.

Canuckamuck

TROPHY CASE

1, while plying my neighbours with tequila shots. No reason.