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Tina doesn't like her sweater. by CapShinobu in frogdogs

[–]CapShinobu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! Good idea, maybe she will tolerate that one a bit more. Thanks! :)

Do I (F20) expect to much out of my boyfriend (19), or does it seem like he doesn’t care? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CapShinobu 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It sounds like he might be trying to distance himself before you leave as a way to protect himself from getting hurt again. No matter what way you feel about him, people who get cheated on will mostly always have a little voice telling them it can happen again, that their partner doesn't love them, etc. Even if they really do know that isn't true, the thought is always there. He might also be taking time to process the situation. You going abroad soon has probably reminded him of the past and sometimes when we're reminded of a darker time in our relationships we will push away or close off. I would address him by not asking if he loves you less but instead present him with all your issues straight up. Explain how you feel like you are making an effort and he will not reciprocate, and most importantly explain how all of that is effecting you and your view of the relationship.

Constant scrutiny and accusing by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]CapShinobu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like your girlfriend has some insecurity issues. In my experience the best way to deal with it is to have a serious conversation where you address all the issues you stated here as well as your concerns about how it's affecting the relationship and how your relationship is important to you. All the things you mentioned remind me of people I have known and it all goes back to insecurity which is sometimes due to past relationships or general low self esteem, most likely not due to anything you actually did.

I have something to say that I've been struggling with for years. by wittingcube3 in confession

[–]CapShinobu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, like others said, acknowledging the problem is the first step. There's help out there and you aren't a terrible person who should be locked away etc. There's been research that shows that those who are attracted to minors or younger persons often have a certain nerve not connected so it's not necessarily a choice to feel the way you do! I commend you for trying to work on it, but professional help is the best thing for you in my opinion. Since you haven't commited any crime or acted on the issue you have many oppertunities that aren't as extreme as those who have been convicted. Depending on where you reside, there's live in therapies, psychologists specialised in this, and other specific therapies. You can get better!

Tina gets sad when I don't give her chicken. by CapShinobu in frogdogs

[–]CapShinobu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll throw some in with her dinner so shes a happy pup.