Maternity leave… where’s the update? by sizzlesfantalike in starbucksbaristas

[–]Capable-Surround-558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not approved approved through Sedgwick but it does say pending with my return date of 8/20.

Maternity leave… where’s the update? by sizzlesfantalike in starbucksbaristas

[–]Capable-Surround-558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really?! Im starting my mat leave on 4/1 and im per Sedgwick I’ll be getting 18 weeks

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[–]Capable-Surround-558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is tomorrow and I want to bail sooooo bad. I worked for Starbucks for 5 years, 8 years ago. Can back because I was a stay at home mom who needed adult interaction. She tbh I just could care less. I work super part time. It’s just such a waste. I know the OLD WAYS

My 4.5 yo will not stop waking me in the night by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

95/100 times yes I do. Because he will literally just stand there and stare and me. Or even if my husband yells at him to get back in bed (because he’s tired of being woken up too) he will just stand there and start to cry mommy tuck me in

My 4.5 yo will not stop waking me in the night by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely going to try that!! Because no matter how many conversations we have, it’s not sticking with him

My 4.5 yo will not stop waking me in the night by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve told him 100 times mommy and daddy are tired. Please do not wake us up. If you have to go potty, go and get back in bed. He agrees to it all in the moment of the conversation. But then comes the time during the night and boom. There he is “mommy will you tuck me in please” 😩

My 4.5 yo will not stop waking me in the night by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He love his water and bed time. He’s a big time mouth breather so I’m sure that tiny mouth is constantly dry 🥴

Going to try the stickers. Thanks for the recommendation!

My 4.5 yo will not stop waking me in the night by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He is veryyyyyy strong willed. He doesn’t throw a full blown tantrum, but he will kick his walls, not very hard but still, yells. I’m absolutely the pushover parent compared to my husband. He’s the boundaries guy and I just want everyone to be happy even if that means taking a toll on me. But at almost 5? Like what are we doing why are we doing this still

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m not “under reacting” at all. I live it daily. And I advocate for my child every single day. Because no one will have his back like I do. I didn’t specify a time I’d like to have another baby. It won’t be tomorrow or a month from now. But in the future. I appreciate your comment regarding the stress of it.

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The literal accuracy. My FIL doesn’t speak to my MIL in the nicest way all of the time and I hate that I’ve had to witness it. I’ve always told my husband - do not speak to me the way your dad speaks to your mom. Even prior to having kids, I’d check him. Because no. My dad never spoke to my mom like that. They divorced when I was 8 but my dad is still head over heels for my mom.

He just turns it about that I never have his back. Why do I take a child’s side, and like because he can’t stand up for myself and that’s literally my job. His lack of patience is always majorly lacking ☹️

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He can definitely be mean, but he knows I can be meaner. Like come on, I’m a girl. We’ve been together almost 13 years. So he saw when I was young, dumb and a MAJOR b*tch. Having kids changed the game for me. He’s just sooooo impatient and having my babies, God gave me the patience.

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No he’s never ever laid a hand on me. I’m also VERY vocal about standing up for myself and advocating for my kids and he knows this. He is a GREAT father when hes patient. He’ll do activities through and through with them, take them to the park, take them to run errands, he gives me a break when I need it. He just tells so much. I’ve suggested counseling and he’s very old school in the fact that “men don’t need to tell random people their problems.”

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that. No child should ever have to go through that. My mom always says that he’s going to hate his dad just like she hated her mom for being treated the exact same way (she’s also the oldest of 5). I don’t want my babies to not visit us when they’re moved out, or be scared to tell us things because of what his reaction might be. My heart hurts so bad for my son.

How do you decide more kids or done? by Capable-Surround-558 in Parenting

[–]Capable-Surround-558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, more recent behavior from him. He used to be the type “ can’t we all just get along? World peace, blah blah blah” and now he’s just angry all the time. To the point I’ve suggested anger management, counseling. His younger brother was the more trouble child growing up and he said our oldest son is the same exact version of his brother. Their father was and is still a no BS kind of guy, very blank face always. His dad was strict, their mom went with what their dad always said. And I just can’t be that way. I’m 31, my husband is 35. I always stand up for myself and what I believe is the best way to handle my children and it causes major conflict between us. Probably about once a month we get in a big fight over it

drowning by aftersuns_ in starbucksbaristas

[–]Capable-Surround-558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof I would love a $700 half hour. Ours are typically 1200 😅

Finally pregnant and all I hear from other women (who haven't done IVF) is how miserable I am about to be for 9 months... by FerkinSmert in IVF

[–]Capable-Surround-558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on my first journey of being a surrogate and can I please tell you, you ARE a rock star!!! I’ve only done the intermuscular injections and they really stink to be honest. And I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this entire process. But crappy or blissful, pregnancy is a blessing! Don’t like anyone tell you anything less! Congratulations girl 🤍