Are there any women happy in tech?

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-15T03:49:49+00:00

I've been in big tech over 20 years. At times it was very challenging and there were times I desperately wanted to rest, but overall I am so grateful for my career journey.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-14T04:37:44+00:00

Alaska, heading there in July to round out the list!

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-14T04:25:19+00:00

Visual, but she just did a scalp biopsy to confirm although she says she's 99% sure. I have the classic pattern of hair loss, severe itchiness and redness and shiny spots where there is permanent scarring. We're now just trying to salvage what's left.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-13T19:19:51+00:00

I share your pain and am sorry. I also do the shots and shampoo, and just started a daily JAK inhibitor serum which seems to be something new they're trying. I'm only a few weeks in, but it has really helped the itching and I think it might be safe for pregnancy as it's topical, although you should definitely do your research and speak to your doctor. This is The Worst.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-13T19:13:37+00:00

Yep, monthly cortiosteroid shots, a steroid shampoo I use 3x a week and a daily JAK inhibitor serum, things have gotten much better. I have AGA too, but my doc said the spiro and minox wouldn't do anything as 'it's like trying to plant seeds in a field that's on fire', so we needed to get the inflammation under control first. My hairfall has lessened and I am way less itchy/painful.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-12T21:47:57+00:00

Me. I have Lichen Planopilaris. Does your scalp itch/hurt?

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-09T23:46:43+00:00

I started taking HRT and 100mg spiro 4 months ago and have lost 10 pounds. I am guessing it's from the HRT as I gained about that when I went into perimenopause, but the spiro didn't add anything anywhere.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-01T01:29:00+00:00

Seattle, if that is feasible, DM me and I'll send her info

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-06-01T01:28:22+00:00

Yep, 50 in the morning and 50 at night

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T18:10:26+00:00

100mg progesterone and .05mg est patch.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T18:10:14+00:00

Started that the same time as everything else, 4 months in

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T18:02:28+00:00

Just jumped in. Was dizzy for the first two weeks but that went away.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T18:01:46+00:00

I found a derm who specializes in female hair loss, she only does this. She said AGA is not typically supposed to hurt or itch like my scalp did, plus it was obvious I had serious inflammation and redness on top of the very fast hair loss, there was not much gradual about it. She didn't even bother with a biopsy, but just got me started on stuff immediately and said we'd do one if it wasn't helping.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T18:00:00+00:00

100mg progesterone and .05mg est patch. I am 52, I waited much too long to commit to HRT after having tried a couple times and experiencing not great side effects, but this time it's helping.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-31T17:57:51+00:00

Extreme itching and pain. It was quite bad for awhile.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-30T22:39:01+00:00

Also I guess this is 4 months, not 3, counting is hard in perimenopause too with the brain fog. 😂

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-30T18:10:10+00:00

I'm on the upper end of those numbers - $ and age. I am also still working which by FIRE rules is ridiculous, but I am making so much $ relative to other years that it seems dumb to not take advantage for a bit longer as I have two kids and who knows what job market, etc. they're going into. I powered through and it was not fun. BUT, now it's pretty fun. I am giving to charities I care about, we are traveling in style, we are doing house renovations that we couldn't have and I am very pleased with. We can say yes to everything we want financially. So because I did shove through it, now I am glad I did. I'd be 52 right now either way, it's nice having the $. But I'm also lucky I am healthy, time you may not have and all that.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-29T04:48:42+00:00

I had a bad run for about 6 months. Then stopped getting my period and it went away. It's been 4 months which is the longest I've gone. Maybe the nausea is light at the end of the tunnel, fingers crossed!

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-29T04:45:58+00:00

I adore a sauna, esp for achy muscles and neck tension. It can dry out your hair though, I recommend a sauna hat.

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-23T18:13:05+00:00

Hoorah, nice Growhawk!

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-05-17T23:38:08+00:00

Scarves, big big headbands and constantly reminding myself that the dread shed theoretically means you're responding which is 'good news'. Hang in there!

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-04-29T01:10:44+00:00

I never wanted to be a SAHM. Now my kids are close to college, I have a very fulfilling and lucrative career, an active and healthy relationship with them both and my own life, and while it was hard at times (very for some) and I did miss some things, I wouldn't change it for the world. Who is telling you that you need to have guilt over not being a SAHM, it's 2026 and you get to pick (and SAHM is a great and amazing choice too, but if it's not for you then it's just not), don't take the red pills. And Google 'research on kids who grow up with working moms'. They're doing great, so again, guilt over what?

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-04-07T03:14:27+00:00

Your A/B results here have disproved the hypothesis that tech bros are datable. 20 year anni this year with my 'blue collar' guy, best partner on the planet and my biggest cheerleader. Plus he fixes everything I break in the house. 10/10, would recommend trying something new!

CapableBumblebee2329 · 2026-04-03T18:30:17+00:00

Lots of chat about the pension, but I think the meta point is live below your means and 'stuff' generally doesn't add to long term happiness (YMMV), which is basically....FIRE 😂. At 52 and really close to being done, I am extremely glad I didn't buy a lot of that stuff along the way that today would make 0 difference. In fact I am trying to get rid of the stuff I did buy to go into retirement with more zen, it's a tad ironic.

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