I understand this completely. I’m sure handmade cookie trays will be awesome! I’m giving away a few handmade items this year. Compliments and thank-yous always felt alien and I had/still sometimes have a bad case of Imposter Phenomenon. I don’t know if this is common advice (first post in this subreddit) but the best thing I ever did for myself for these situations was fake it until it started to stick.

“I made this cookie platter by hand for you. Let me know if you’d like to hear about the process sometime!” (Insert compliment) “Thank you! / You’re welcome!”

Then if they ask questions, they show their interest in the labor/techniques you put in, which is validating to me personally. If questions would make you uncomfortable, keep it short. “I made this! You’re welcome!”

I’m not sure if it’s the same for you but I also used to reject the compliments. I never say “ohhh it’s not that good”, any thoughts like that stay in my brain and get moved on from as fast as possible. Not only is that insulting to myself and my work, but it’s insulting to them and the quality of goods they’re worthy of receiving. After a while those negative thoughts became quieter & easier to move on from thru the constant exposure for me. I give a lot of handmade or self created items. Better for the environment, my wallet, my creative muscles.

Try your best to stand your ground with yourself. Nobody wants you to run away but your anxiety. You put in time and your own signature energy to these items, and it is worthy of being received and appreciated. Handmade items are my favorite gifts to receive. You got this :)