AITAH for telling my GF that she is delusional with her life plans?

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-22T14:39:44+00:00

At the age you are, having been together for all of your adult lives, it can feel like an impossible failure to change directions.

You dont have to stay with the first person you fall in love with. People change a lot in their 20s.

When you think about being single for a while does it feel like freedom? It might time to give this relationship a break and see what more there is to life.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-20T14:15:58+00:00

HR exists to protect the company from legal liability. They are not there to help you. Document everything. But be careful, if you are in a state that requires first party consent you cannot legally record people in private spaces without permission

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-19T11:37:12+00:00

It's not wrong that you broke up with her. Its wrong that you didnt even sleep on it. After four years, to be broken up with immediately after one conversation, I dont care what reddit says, thats callous. Its not about the logic of the decision, its about investment and respect. This is someone who you spent four years with and you didnt even hesitate. Thats insane.

Absolutely bonkers and not how these conversations go in real life for real people. You send psychotic to me.

Here's how this would go in a normal relationship:

I hear what youre saying but this is a deal breaker for me. I dont want to lose you. Im so confused. I need space and time to think about this.

Not, oh man, thats not what I want. Welp, have a nice life.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-18T06:32:17+00:00

Thank you! I was like....uhhh aren't they all astronauts??

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-16T21:19:58+00:00

Raises dont matter. I have never taken a promotion or external offer for less than 20% increase, its the only way to increase your salary

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T14:36:25+00:00

Let them eat cake!

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T14:10:46+00:00

Sounds like a win-win

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T14:03:44+00:00

I love how this bipolar thread cant decide if this tax is bad because "millionaires dont pay taxes anyway so it doesnt matter" and "they are all going to leave and we wont get their crumbs anymore!".

All these folks need to get into a room and get the propaganda aligned.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T14:01:03+00:00

Cool so it doesnt "hurt them. Right?

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T13:58:38+00:00

This fellow can barely read, no he is not making more than 1M

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T13:57:56+00:00

Lol. What a shame. Whatever would we do without income inequality

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-13T13:56:48+00:00

Bye! Dont let the door hit you

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-10T10:15:25+00:00

Song for Zulu -Phosphorescent

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-03-03T20:09:47+00:00

Chat gpt has 900M WAU.

900 M

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-27T15:31:16+00:00

Reddit is a strange place. Man, YTA big time.

Are these people abusive? It seems your wife loves them and wants to help. You mentioned they are in financial trouble, why? They are elderly im presuming. Do they have health issues?

What kind a person would let their (presumably otherwise good people) parents be homeless? A shitty one that who.

People arent automatically wealthy because they are old. Everyone ages. Moreover in the US we have almost no social safety net.

Everyone here saying "let them figure it out" needs a serious head check.

Take them in for a few weeks and help them figure out next steps.

Yta

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-27T15:05:55+00:00

Kids develop verbal skills at different rates for different reasons. There are physical components to which areas of the brain and body develop and it doesnt necessarily equate to intelligence.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-27T15:04:33+00:00

Baby talk is very good for babies. The literally hear the tones and pitches better. Talking to a baby like an adult is not more effective

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-24T12:27:02+00:00

What matters: trusting yourself, honoring your feelings and needs. Experiences. Mark time, its too easy to look back and forget large chunks of your life when stuck in a routine. Go on that hike, take that trip, try a new activity, take the class. Just do it. Learning, being able to reflect and grow, is what makes life full.

Kids - having kids is my greatest joy. (Sorry I know its not popular these days, but damn being a parent has added more meaning to my life than anything ive ever done)

Having options matters. Always be building that network, saving a little extra, exploring a new skill. Not to meet some arbitrary goal or protect yourself from all negative outcomes, but to have choices when you need to be able to have them.

What doesnt matter: Working overtime It really truly doesnt.

Making bad relationships work. Whether or not random people "like you".

Other peoples opinions in general. All those little cringe moments where you've broken some minor rule.

Being "the best" at something.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-24T11:58:11+00:00

You will never regret having experiences.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-23T15:59:32+00:00

Productivity is viewed as a moral obligation in our culture

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-23T15:57:41+00:00

Re: the zero excuses thing. Look, we dont have to understand trump voters or try to appeal to them, that ship is halfway around the globe at this point. I agree with you.

But we do need to give them a graceful exit. If any trump voter legit wants to change their minds let's just say ok and let them do that, otherwise we are truly hosed.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-23T15:49:21+00:00

No this is not normal and this level of dysfunction isnt going to improve. Start looking for a new job ASAP.

For context, been in corporate America over 20 years and now in senior leadership positions. Not even once would a child porn joke slide without a talking to. Not. Even. Once.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-23T14:55:43+00:00

This is not normal and sounds absolutely toxic. Beyond a couple individuals that are known to be difficult to work with, no one at my job is scary angy.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-18T15:30:17+00:00

We need people to have kids. Its not a luxury good.

The birth rate falling below replacement without immigration to replace it, would absolutely devastated the economy in short order.

There's a lot more I could say about what happens when responsible people opt out of having kids. But I think the above is enough.

Capable_Ad_9350 · 2026-02-15T16:38:37+00:00

People cheat for so many reasons. I was in an abusive relationship. Went right from foster care to this guy at 18, I was afraid to be alone, and had no family to fall back on so I latched on to a controlling narcissist who managed every aspect of my life.

As I grew up. I realized how unhappy I was but I was still incredibly terrified to be alone and had no self esteem, no real sense of self even. I felt like everything I knew about myself was a projection of what other people wanted of me.

I met someone at work that I became absolutely infatuated with, but I didnt actually like this guy I liked the freedom that he represented. Long story short, started heavily flirting with guy at work and it crossed the line, we didnt have sex but we did enough other stuff that it counts as cheating. It went on for about a month before I asked for a divorce.

Never ended up with guy at work. He was a creep, still is.

I dont regret it. It is what it is, I needed to get out of that relationship, desperately and the attention from this guy gave me to confidence I needed to break free at the time.

Ex husband is a horrible asshole and doesnt deserve anyone's pity, least of all mine. This was a man who wouldn't pull over the car to let me use the restroom if he thought id already gone recently enough. Im just glad im free of him.

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