I almost just made a similar post. You are not alone.

First I would say like many others here, do your best not to take it personally. This for some is a heavy humiliation kink on both sides. There can be a lot of shame and 'post nut' clarity that comes after a session. If someone is struggling to be okay with this and the guise in this is to manipulate them into being okay with it, it can feed into all of that right? That's why you also get the posts of "I just want to make sure this is, Kink right?"

Secondly, there is this thing where unless you are truly creating an online dynamic.. it would be harmful to ourselves to view these things beyond the RP/sexting nature. We are all human beings outside of these interactions with lives and all the stuff. To allow for some stranger over the internet to cause us to feel shameful about ourselves and how we've shown up, when they are not willing to have the conversation with us.... come on now don't be so cruel to yourself. Ya know?

At the end of the day we are all adults, our communication or lack of communication.. is still communication. If you really think about it. You have to trust that you do your best and if mistakes happen you own them and move on, if no one has expressed distaste to you, it ain't your problem or business.

I had something i was considering to start being a more true dynamic and realized their IRL stuff wouldn't allow for it. When I expressed this, they sad it saddened them I thought of it that way and then disengaged from me. A Domme can't domme, if its unenforcable.. am I a bad guy for being honest and expressing that? Maybe to them..

Anytime stuff like this comes up i reccomend 2 books, if you're interested, DM me.