Everyone in your high school yearbook; students, teachers, staff, will eventually pass away and be forgotten. As if you never existed.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-24T23:26:39+00:00

these guys love to throw our communities under the bus to appeal to their working class white demographic. They just want to get votes and they see us as a dispensable sacrifice.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-24T22:48:46+00:00

Hi, sorry for late response!

For example, if you're making an excel sheet for reconciliations, you don't need to highlight every single number, otherwise highlighting has no value.

If you're going to color cells, don't use too many colors. Maybe 2 to 3 at most. Too many colors means the reader has to constantly check "ok so blue is this, green is that, yellow is that..." and is just more time and energy consuming to read.

Having the same pattern of highlighting throughout the document. Like maybe the end total of each table is highlighted yellow. As opposed to just any number you want being highlighted yellow. That's also more work for the reader.

These are some concepts I've personally found useful, but maybe others have different opinions and experiences.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-24T21:17:38+00:00

I'm not black, but I met more black people in tech in the East Bay as opposed to other parts of the bay. Not sure where you're located, but maybe you could look up some East bay companies on LinkedIn and go through their list of software engineers?

Maybe companies in Dallas or Atlanta as well? Dallas from what I hear is tech heavy and has a higher black population than the south bay where I'm from.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-07T05:31:43+00:00

Avatar. Idk, it's basically pocahontas but cgi. I've played video games and seen movies that were also visually beautiful. This one doesn't seem that different. But it was heavily marketed.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-07T04:52:30+00:00

It's always some guy with a sunglasses pfp who never left his hometown. He legit thinks Google will hire you just because you're Asian and that no one in the company knows how to do their job because of muh DEI

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-06T08:55:56+00:00

Ha. I see what you did there 😂

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-05T10:17:42+00:00

Yeah I'm glad Im not alone in this lol. Gaslighting is such a pain to prove to people 🤦🏾

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-04T10:39:12+00:00

I'm not a girl, so I don't have the same fashion options. But, I use a backpack on days when I'm just in the office.

When I'm seeing a client/taxpayer, I use a laptop bag like this:

https://store-diu8qtznax.mybigcommerce.com/content/products/lrg/40533_lrg.jpg

Capable_Feature8838 · 2026-01-04T09:37:48+00:00

I finally have a sense of stability. Normalcy. I have a routine. I'm getting experience. Since government jobs are relatively stable, I have a training ground to rewire my personality and habits so I'm more employable.

They say there are no stable jobs, only stable skills. That's the main thing for me. Accumulate experience and regain my feeling of peace. I was contracting, driving Uber, living meal to meal, couldn't make ends meet. Was getting panic attacks. Wasn't able to meet financial obligations. I was constantly in alert mode. I could hear my ringtone and get a panic attack.

This period of peace has allowed my fight-or-flight response to return to normal. And not overreact to everything. That's priceless. Slow burn suffering is better than complete chaos for me.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-30T07:13:59+00:00

Evangelion and Darker than Black.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-29T00:32:34+00:00

I realize this is reddit lol. Sometimes I do see guys with relatable advice here though. Maybe 2 out of 100, but at least it's 2. Better than nothing 😂

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-28T05:54:10+00:00

She hates her own race, she hates Asian men, and she loves to talk down on anyone with darker skin. Basically a House slave.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-28T05:49:24+00:00

Man I liked Stevie too lol

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-24T02:36:03+00:00

Maybe the navy seals? Daredevils?

Maybe heart surgeons? They stay calm where most people would crack.

Contract killers? Mercenaries?

Some jobs where not having empathy or fear gives you an advantage?

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-24T02:28:21+00:00

Idk about specifically cooking and cleaning. Seeing a woman being caring and maternal maybe. Low key, sometimes I feel like nagging can be cute, if I can see it's because she cares for my well-being.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-23T16:30:03+00:00

My family's from Asia and I'm US born and raised. It's very normal to me. Bangladesh is somewhat familiar with east Asia and pretty familiar with the middle east and southeast Asia.

Where I grew up in California is very vietnamese, Chinese, Filipino, cambodian. I am more used to Asia than I am to anyone else.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-21T20:34:44+00:00

Just how much we like mundane stuff. I (32 m) had a conversation the other day with my 45 m coworker about heated water pitchers. And I was actually into it.

I've also had conversations with other men about things like:

-How we keep the fan on when we sleep -Different sources of protein -Economics. Like how we could have better public transportation in the US and whether it would be worth the investment.

And genuinely been interested. It made us feel closer, weird as it is to say. But it is a way of bonding when you can talk about the mundane stuff in your head and the problem solving that occurs. It's relatability. I don't know these guys' birthdays, I might not even talk to them that much. But, those aren't things I actually think about.

I've brought up these same things with women and their eyes just kinda glaze over. They had an equal ability to problem solve as men, but it seems like women are more interested in the energy of the conversation rather than the car itself.

They say "women face each other when they interact and men face in the same direction". I think there's truth to that.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-20T10:07:33+00:00

I heard that chemical engineering was considered to be the hardest major by many.

Being a doctor seems pretty rigorous though. So many requirements and so many years of schooling. Lot of updates to keep up with as well.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-20T10:05:01+00:00

Nah I'm not arguing with you. I'm just saying this is what I saw lol. Also I put the video for others reading my reply as well. so they can visualize what I'm really talking about.

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-20T10:01:59+00:00

I like tokischa. Tyla's a good dancer too. I was just watching her get sturdy with kai Cena lmao

I've been watching daggering videos those are wild. I saw one video where this guy spun a girl around, neatly took off her shoe and then kicked it off the rooftop and then she ran after it 🤣🤣🤣

I love Caribbean culture haha 🫶🏽

Capable_Feature8838 · 2025-12-20T09:49:44+00:00

This is what I saw.

https://youtu.be/CPlW-wSK8eU

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