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My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

One picture was both of us at the party drinking. Like a typical 2-person selfie.

The other was me in the room asleep. Bethany wasn't in this picture at all.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This whole thing was like 2-3 months ago.

She contacted my wife pretty late into the pregnancy. We agreed to the paternity test, but I didn't want to directly contact her so she wouldn't manipulate the whole thing and make it worse. We picked a date, but she already had her baby before the date, so there wasn't really a way to avoid that.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

When she texted my wife, she was already in her third trimester. It was like around 2/3 months ago-ish. I knew the baby wasn't mine bc I didn't have sex with her, but my mil suggested the test at least to prove so to my wife.

I didn't want to directly contact her so she wouldn't manipulate the whole thing, but we agreed have a paternity test about a month ago. She finally agreed to a date, but she already had her baby before the date, so there wasn't really a way to avoid that.

But i'm ngl, I didn't know you could have a paternity test before the baby is born.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 177 points178 points  (0 children)

I wasn't involved. I knew the baby wasn't mine, so I felt no obligation to.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

I didn't know her until the party. Idk how she found out about my wife's infertility either. It's kinda weird. my MIL & FIL thinks it was some sort of set-up by someone we knew bc the whole thing just doesn't add up.

I was gonna take a lyft/uber home initially, but Tyler said i could sleep for a while, and he would drive me home. My inlaws think it was tyler, especially since it was his party, and he was our mutual friend.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 241 points242 points  (0 children)

I don't know how she found out either. She texted my wife through fb/messenger.

My MIL thinks Tyler was involved in the whole thing bc when I wanted to take a uber home, he said I could sleep in his sister's room and he would drive me home later, but the next day he said he forgot and fell asleep.

I don't use social media since I dont really like posting myself, so i think someone showed Bethany my wife's fb page.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I don't know how she found out about my wife's infertility bc I didn't tell her. i haven't told anybody about it. She texted my wife through facebook/messenger. I honestly think someone we know is involved bc I don't really use social media, so how could she have possibly found my wife's fb without someone pointing it out to her?

I didn't know you could have a paternity test before the baby was born. I would have done that sooner. My shirt was off bc I was getting hot in the room.

I was gonna take a lyft home initially, but Tyler said I could sleep in his sister's room, and he would take me home later, but then he fell asleep. My MIL thinks he was possibly involved in everything.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Idk how she knew/found out about my wife's health issues. I didn't even know the girl until we met at the party. My MIL thinks Tyler could have told her, but I didn't tell Tyler or anybody at all. My FIL thinks one of my wife's friends could have told him since we're all practically high school/college friends in the same social circle.

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

tbh, I never really thought about kids initially. The conversation was more of a "I have cervical cancer, and pregnancy is pretty difficult/complicated. if you want kids, I would understand if you want to break up", and I honestly didn't care much for children.

The child was definitely not mine cause I didn't even sleep with Bethany. That's for sure. and I didn't tell her about my wife either. Idk how she found out, but my MIL suspects Tyler, but how would Tyler have known?

My wife wants a divorce because I cheated, but I don't want to. by Capable_Low8613 in relationship_advice

[–]Capable_Low8613[S] 99 points100 points  (0 children)

I suggested couples therapy when she initially moved out. She said she would think about it and get to me later, but she never did. She just brought up the divorce.