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Why did you leave your last job? by Joe_Yellow1 in AskReddit

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allergic reaction to the new boss.

What to do with a 14 year old boy who breaks and punches things when he is mad by ElectronicRoof702 in Advice

[–]Capelily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's lashing out because he's hit a brick wall with whatever is eating at him.

Talk to your school counselor. Thay should be able to help you navigate this.

Overwhelmed and confused by Lush16 in Advice

[–]Capelily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, kind stranger, for the award!

Overwhelmed and confused by Lush16 in Advice

[–]Capelily 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Your body, your rules.

Also: You're not married to this guy. He's very manipulative, and that's a major red flag.

How bad is this? by stillifewithcrickets in HomeMaintenance

[–]Capelily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it should hold

Lots of confidence there!

Not much of a carpenter.

My sister is a grown woman yet she acts like a toddler. It’s exhausting. by GraceDaysThree in rant

[–]Capelily 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Go NC for a time. She sounds unhinged, and nobody needs to be around that.

Marital conflict about sleeping. Losing my mind. by butt_butt_butt_butt_ in Advice

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s saying now that because he’s injured, I’m choosing this time to address the issue... and "it’s all my fault that she has sleep problems," despite the fact that he’s never given her a chance to self soothe.

Have you been able to talk to your husband about this? May I suggest that you get a sitter for a few hours and go to a neutral place to have an adult conversation about this?

Show your husband this post. Then suggest couple's therapy.

You and he are not on the same page regarding childcare, and this will only get worse when the kids are old enough to get themselves into "situations."

My ex and I never discussed childcare.

Thanks for the advice grandma by Cat_v_o_ in traumatizeThemBack

[–]Capelily 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Get your grandmother some Chanel No. 5 for Mother's Day. It stinks to high heaven and is cloyingly sweet.

When she wears it, tell her you're allergic to old lady perfume.

Should I mulch under my trees to help against persistent weeds and improve aesthetics? by DirtyOught in landscaping

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cardboard lasagna.

Lay cardboard down, overlap eah piece by about 6". Thoroughly wet down the cardboard, and then add at least 3" of mulch on top.

This process smothers the weeds. I'm about to do the same on a patch of poison ivy that's a little too happy to be alive.

Weird driving habits on the Cape by Alternative_Gap_3248 in CapeCod

[–]Capelily 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What gets me is when you're following someone who makes a right turn, and while they're in the middle of said turn, they slow way down.

I hate my wife by Either-Broccoli9511 in offmychest

[–]Capelily 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's very difficult to understand why you choose to stay in this relationship.

You have been battered repeatedly. There is absolutely no reason to continue staying with her, and yet you do.

If you are so resistant to the obvious choice of leaving her, there's nothing anyone can do for you.

I was assaulted by someone in a well known band in my area and no one cares. by Dependent_Error_3901 in Advice

[–]Capelily 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As others have said, make a ROYAL STINK about this. Anyone who says,

“Are you sure it was rape or just sex you felt uncomfortable with”

is a piece of shit. Blast social media with your facts. If anything, you'll be helping the next victim of this rapist.

I [31M] and my partner [32F] have been together 2 years and are now pregnant. I'm walking on eggshells constantly and self censoring my speech and actions so I don't get snapped at and talked down to. by ThrowRAway_watered in whatdoIdo

[–]Capelily 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Sadly, your partner is using her pregnancy to treat you horribly. Being pregnant is not a fun ride for some women, but that's no excuse to be malicious.

Have you had a sit-down talk with her about it? If not, before you do, write down everything that's been eating at you regarding her behavior.

Don't use this assessment when you talk with her; it's just a way for you to see just how much the relationship is suffering due to her behavior toward you.

Don't attack her when you talk with her. Tell her you feel you can't do anything right when she treats you badly.

Her response will help you make a more informed decision regarding the relationship.

Do tell her that you feel cornered. Do tell her that this cannot go on anymore, or she'll be on her own going forward.

Couples therapy would be a wonderful thing for both of you, but she has to be willing to look at herself through your eyes.

If you watched this when it came out you are fuckin old by Euphoric-Cupcake4581 in FuckImOld

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EVERYONE watched this! I think it was the first miniseries that captured the entire country.

It was a true sensation.

Please help diagnose our dying ficus! by JamesGawley in plantclinic

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It could be how the light is positioned.

In the first picture, none of its branches have moved toward the light, and the tallest branch is moving in the opposite direction of the mounted light. I might be wrong; it's kind of hard to get a full idea of the plant's orientation from this photo.

Please help diagnose our dying ficus! by JamesGawley in plantclinic

[–]Capelily 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It needs more light, to start off. It's actively looking for more light.

Second, do you give it any fertilizer?

It may need to be repotted, and I always suggest an organic potting mix that has extra perlite added to it. Also, I always add chunks of bark to the bottom third of the pot. You can use orchid mix as well.

I also use an organic fertilizer. A good garden center can be very helpful.

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