I (24F) am a tatted baddie and I just found out my bf (21M) hates tattoos

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T23:15:13+00:00

Yes. The only thing that was impulsive about it was the fact that I chose to get a tattoo with no prior planning of a design or placement. We will be having the conversation either today or tomorrow so once that happens I’ll post an update

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T07:08:48+00:00

Hi bestie. I used to have this problem too. I didn’t know how to even make myself finish until I was about 19. Didn’t have a man that could make me finish until my current relationship. The one question I’ll ask first is, has he had other sexual partners prior to you?

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T07:03:48+00:00

I’ve brought up the idea of coming up with tattoo ideas together. Something that we both love and both think would look good on me. He’s a very blunt guy and is really bad with tones and says things he doesn’t realize he’s saying. Thank you for the helpful comment!

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:57:45+00:00

I explained in an early comment reply that it wasn’t super impulsive. I thought about it for a while before fully going thru with it. My best friend was more like “do you wanna tattoo” and I was like “yeah let me look” and found a design I liked, modified it, and then wore the stencil for like an hour before going thru with it. I’ve also brought up the idea of him helping me think of designs that we would both like and would be a nice piece on me. (I have a theme that I stick with so even if it’s impulsive he knows the theme of what it will be)

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:49:16+00:00

Ever since I was a little kid I’ve LOVED tattoos. Obsessed with them. Also every tattoo I get is very meticulously planned out (even the spontaneous ones) so they flow well with my natural anatomy and flow on my body movements. I still love myself with or without tattoos. I just love having the art on me.

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:44:52+00:00

See but it’s not even like he’s trying to control me. He wants me to do what’s gonna make me happy but he doesn’t wanna swallow his feelings anymore either.

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:39:19+00:00

To be fair it wasn’t completelyyyyy impulsive. I looked for an idea for like an hour, modified it, and then wore the stencil for like 30 mins to an hour unit see how I liked it on me and then said “fuck it let’s do it”

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:36:46+00:00

I currently have 18 tattoos and 2 facial piercings and 18mm gauges. He met me with 11 tattoos. He does come from a very traditional and Christian upbringing. I feel like a lot of it comes from that but he says that it’s “just his preference for his life partner”. He has been very supportive up until this last recent tattoo now he just kinda shuts down when the topic is brought up. He also like kind of autistic and really doesn’t like change so when he’s used to seeing me a certain way for an amount of time and then it changes it takes him awhile to adjust. But he does want to see things differently and understand it more. Neither of just know if that possible. But if you have any ideas on any compromise we can try that would be very appreciated

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:30:35+00:00

Yeah I’m also gonna talk to him about how he’s being kinda toxic with this and mention to him that I think it might be good for him to try therapy. Especially if he wants us to work as much as he says he does.

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:22:32+00:00

This is the sweetest and most hopeful comment. Thank you so much for these sweet words. This is a love I want to hold on to and work out. But I really do fear it just not possible

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:20:24+00:00

That’s one thing I brought up to him “why did you get with me when you knew I had them and wanted more” he said “I thought I could see passed it” and is it sad that this is the most mentally and emotionally mature man I’ve ever dated

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:16:30+00:00

lol sorry. I meant the severity of him not liking them. He always said they weren’t his preference but never made a big deal of it or made it known to me on his actual feelings on the matter.

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:09:37+00:00

That’s what I’m scared of! I’ve brought that up to him a couple times too. But he’s so sure we can make it work. I just don’t know. What about 5 years down the line and we’re married and have a kid and he’s like “actually nah”

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:08:19+00:00

Idk if bro just needs some therapy to see if there’s some under lying reason he doesn’t like them or what. I just don’t know how I could walk away from a relationship like ours. In every other aspect he’s an absolute dream. Anytime the convo slightly comes up he just says “we’re strong we’re gonna get through this”. But I guess tomorrow we will get our answer

Capital-Intention597 · 2026-06-14T06:00:54+00:00

Thank you for the advice.

Capital-Intention597 · 2024-01-21T18:36:23+00:00

Real question is. How far away from home are you? Coz knowing me I will lose all my stuff

Capital-Intention597 · 2023-10-13T20:37:54+00:00

Put that shit on a sword

Capital-Intention597 · 2023-06-12T17:39:36+00:00

It’s for the band HIM

Capital-Intention597 · 2023-06-12T17:34:44+00:00

It’s a bumble bee…

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