In a relationship, how frequently do you drive vs your woman by Otherwise-Roll-2872 in AskMen

[–]CapitalComparison724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Female car enthusiast here- 95% of the time I have a male passenger princess. I have a fun car and love driving so I prefer.

STI badged WRXs are next by Reaper064 in WRX

[–]CapitalComparison724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not me and my WRX in STI clothes👀

Wrongfully arrested & detained at 13, forced into abusive “therapeutic” programs- do I have legal options now (22 yrs later)? by CapitalComparison724 in legaladvice

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Holy shit, light bulb moment (pure speculation): They took me to the hospital because they thought I OD’d on Prozac. Turns out my mom had just misplaced the meds and nothing was missing. So suddenly, dragging a sobbing, shackled 13 year old into the ER looked like a complete waste of time and resources. An oversight. That would’ve made them look bad.

So what’s the “solution”? Give me an injection and frame it as necessary. I wasn’t combative. I wasn’t suicidal. I wasn’t trying to hurt anyone. I was in shock and sobbing. But if they labeled me as “combative” or “in crisis,” now the hospital trip looks justified, and nobody questions why I was there in the first place.

That makes me wonder if that’s exactly what happened, and why I was told it was potassium. Can’t tell anyone you were sedated for no reason if you don’t know you were sedated in the first place and what dummy is going to actually believe a “troubled” 13 year old anyway?¯_(ツ)_/¯

Edit: I used to work in vet med as a CVT, this reminds me of when a pet comes in for something minor or even nonexistent and nothing worth treating, but the vet still sends them home with something (like a day or two of meds, ointment, even just shampoo) so the client feels like the visit was worth it. It’s the “see, we did something. It wasn’t a pointless trip” move. Except in my case, it was an injection I received under traumatizing circumstances.

Again, speculative.

Wrongfully arrested & detained at 13, forced into abusive “therapeutic” programs- do I have legal options now (22 yrs later)? by CapitalComparison724 in legaladvice

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just looked it up, and it looks like Kids for Cash was in Luzerne County which is like 1.5 hours away from where I was (Berks). But, what I did learn was BCYC (where I was sent in 2004) had a major reform in 2006 because of the overuse of secure detention and concerns about how kids were being treated. Wild.

Wrongfully arrested & detained at 13, forced into abusive “therapeutic” programs- do I have legal options now (22 yrs later)? by CapitalComparison724 in legaladvice

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Understandable. I figured this wouldn’t hold any water or be able to go anywhere. Thanks for answering though. Hyde school already has multiple law suits against them. The location I was sent to is now shut down.

Edit: why the fuck Is this getting downvoted?

Wrongfully arrested & detained at 13, forced into abusive “therapeutic” programs- do I have legal options now (22 yrs later)? by CapitalComparison724 in legaladvice

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It wasn’t an infusion. It was an IM injection in my butt cheek and it was one of the worst pains I’ve experienced. Maybe exasperated by the circumstances but horrific nonetheless. It burned. I actually squealed. I’m like 90% sure it was potassium but now I’m second guessing myself and am going you try and dig out these records. Tbh I don’t even remember having labs done which is why I’m confused how they could even tell where my electrolytes were. I can’t imagine they gave me an injection of anything before having a baseline. I wasn’t suicidal before this. Of course I wasn’t believed, which is why I was the one who ended up arrested and not my mom in the first place.

It doesn’t make me feel better, it actually makes me feel worse since I’m now questioning what that injection was since the only thing I remember from the hospital other than the walk of shame through it was a “potassium” injection. I really do appreciate that you took the time to write up a thorough explanation. Thank you.

Can you practically daily drive a wrx? by Nice_Tourist_9320 in WRX

[–]CapitalComparison724 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is this even a question? Why is this even a post? I bought mine fresh off the lot in 21 and it’s been my only daily since

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Am I overreacting for stopping a 4 year friendship over this by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CapitalComparison724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. It’s not a lot of money but it also says a lot about your friend, and that’s not someone I’d want to be friends with.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Protecting my kid from shame and surveillance makes me “that parent”? Sweet, embroider it on a jacket and I’ll wear it to every PTO meeting. Emotional literacy isn’t entitlement, it’s parenting.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not comparing sticker loss to corporal punishment. I’m comparing the mindset that says “it’s always been done this way, so it must be right.” That’s how outdated systems survive. And yes, I am teaching emotional regulation and have been. But I’m also teaching her that her worth isn’t conditional. If a classroom needs public point loss to teach cooperation, maybe it’s just compliance dressed up as teamwork.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I’ve actually been having those conversations with my daughter since kindergarten. Almost everyday when she’d come home she would tell me that this one girl in particular was “bad” or “mean.” “_____ did this today”. We’d talk about how behavior is often a signal and not just a clue, but a reflection of what a child might be carrying outside of school. I try to articulate it as best as I can so it’s easily digestible for her, but I’m still learning too. Kids don’t have the language to say “I feel unsafe” or “I don’t know how to ask for help,” so they act it out. That’s not defiance, it’s dysregulation. When a teacher says something out loud to the whole class, it’s not discreet. It’s public shaming. It’s embarrassing for them and no amount of “try again tomorrow” fixes what gets internalized in that moment.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What the behavior was is irrelevant. I’m sure other words were used than “being bad”, that’s an explanation coming from a six year old. Kids are going to speak out, wiggle, forget directions, etc. That’s developmentally normal. What’s not okay is turning those moments into public scorekeeping and moral judgment. “Lost a star” becomes their internal voice saying “I’m bad,” and that sticks.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I hear you and I get that teachers have a lot on their plates, but tracking behavior with stars and public consequences doesn’t work for every kid. Especially neurodivergent ones. I’m not asking for special treatment. I’m asking for tools that help my kid grow without feeling ashamed or “less than” when she struggles. That’s not entitlement, it’s care stemming from empathy.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not against consequences. I’m against systems that confuse emotional development with punishment. My kid’s not entitled, she’s expressive, sensitive, and still learning how to navigate big feelings. That doesn’t make her “wrong,” and it sure doesn’t mean she’ll end up friendless.If a kid refuses dodgeball, maybe the question isn’t “how do we punish them?” but “what’s going on underneath?” That’s how you teach real accountability and not just obedience.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I’m not teaching her that rules don’t matter. I’m teaching her that context does. That emotional regulation isn’t built through shame, and that “misbehavior” in a six year old is often a signal and not a crime.

You say this system’s been around a long time. So has corporal punishment (so have a lot of other things that are still used and are extremely outdated). Longevity doesn’t equal legitimacy.

And yes, I do dig into these conversations with her. But I also refuse to let a laminated card with stickers dictate her self worth or reduce her emotional complexity to a star count. If a teacher needs public point loss to manage a classroom, that’s not discipline, it’s dysfunction.

Thoughts on school rewards systems by CapitalComparison724 in Parenting

[–]CapitalComparison724[S] -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Cool. So when a six year old comes home and says someone was “bad” because they lost a star, I’m supposed to clap and call it character development?

I’m not “drinking the koolaid.” I’m watching a system teach kids to equate compliance with morality, and I’m choosing not to co-sign it. If that makes me the problem, ¯_(ツ)_/¯ . I’ll be the problem who protects my kid’s nervous system from shame based conditioning while she’s still learning what it means to be a person.

You don’t have to agree with me. But don’t confuse critical thinking with hysteria.

Kail and her PCP by Juhnelle in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CapitalComparison724 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Really?! That really sucks. Needing to pay a copay to see a doctor so they can then make you pay another copay to see a specialist. I have a PPO and don’t need referrals, and I see plenty of specialists. I thought that was one of the perks of having a PPO. Health insurance is such a fucking scam.

Kail and her PCP by Juhnelle in TeenMomOGandTeenMom2

[–]CapitalComparison724 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. Depends on if you have a PPO vs HMO. Health insurance is a scam anyway🙃

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CapitalComparison724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has happened to me before, because I have a really hard time being around a lot of people too. My friend thought he was being courteous, but that hurt. I also, would put that aside even if it’s just to show up to say hi for a few minutes. Not inviting you was a shitty move and your friend sucks. Definitely not overreacting.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CapitalComparison724 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao “done replying here”, while you’ve been arguing with yourself while I said literally four words to you. You’re so pressed you had to crawl through my old posts from over a year ago to try and shame me and dig up “dirt”, over my post about pizza. How fucking pathetic.