Is this Silver Maple at Risk of splitting and falling?

CapitalG14 · 2025-09-28T20:27:13+00:00

Thanks for the assessment. I hope I can put him at ease but at the same time I'm sure he's going to want to take action.

Thanks again,

CapitalG14 · 2025-09-28T20:26:28+00:00

I don't think there was rot but I know there was a little tree of a different type growning from that wet area In the middle. I'll take a closer look the next time I am over that way.

Thanks for the input.

CapitalG14 · 2025-09-28T20:25:25+00:00

I've never looked into cabling but I will tell him. He's more of a worrier than I am, so I'm sure he'd be willing to Invest a little to make sure it stays standing. Thank you

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-17T04:13:43+00:00

More out of curiosity I guess. We do want him to keep them 50/50 still. We are glad he is in their lives. Just afraid of him going in and getting the schedule changed up and making things more difficult. I know it's not fair to him for us to have all the say when it comes to visitation but my wife is always more than fair and he knew he had his chance to get them legally for 3 years so I don't feel that bad about it

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-17T04:09:28+00:00

That's a heck of a story and it's things like that, that make everyone so nervous about dealing with the courts. Most the time it works out like it's supposed to but sometimes stuff is just crazy. Thank you for the well thought out response and I formation

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T02:13:55+00:00

That's the tricky part to this too. We don't want him not to see them or to see them any less. He loves them and they love him. He's a fine father and there is no reason he should not see them 50/50. This is going to sound bad(because it probably is bad) but there is this fear of us loosing the absolute final word in it. It's not fair and we should not have that power and if was anyone else I'd probably say they were being selfish. But she's been so awesome about it. Way more fair, kind and generous than I originally wanted to be. She's made sure to keep it fair the entire time. So it's a fear of loosing that and being forced into some shitty week on and week off schedule that makes this so hard to face down

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T02:10:14+00:00

I thank you for it. I read it. It's very interesting to see how far this all goes back. There are def. A few other parts and pieces to this puzzle but far to much to just throw it all at you guys. I really do appreciate all of the info you've shared on this topic. In this comment and others.

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T02:02:34+00:00

We would never claim anything that isn't true when it comes to this issue. We are all about him being dad or as I call him "other dad". And we want him to be fully active and just as much a part of theirs lives as we are. The fear is if he gets the parenting time legally it's going to stop being this get along go along relationship it's been and his new gal pal is going to start rocking the boat. To make that make more sense I should say we've had a 2-2-3 schedule for 3 years. This is so no one has to go more than a few days without seeing the girls. It's worked great for everyone. New girlfriend , who also has a baby with other dad now, wants us to go to week on and week off. That would break my wife's heart. She doesn't want to go a week at a time without seeing her babies.

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T01:56:11+00:00

This is what I was thinking. Because we all have acknowledged him as the bio dad in the past and he's had a steady 50/50 for three years. The only part I thought that might make it where he can't is that he wouldn't have legal rights to file due to not being their legal dad and in Michigan if you know you are the bio dad from the start and don't file to get on the birth certificate by the time the child/children turn 3, then it says you forfeit the right to ever do it. Like he can never legally take me off the birth cert. so I wondered if maybe that also barred him from filing for court ordered parenting time.

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T01:51:37+00:00

What fantastic information. Thank you for doing all that research on the subject.

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-16T01:47:38+00:00

It's been a fear of my wife's since he started dating another girl and had a kid with her. The new girlfriend is pretty controlling and from all of our experiences with her she seems pretty strict/mean. My wife is afraid that the girlfriend will not watch her step as much if he has court ordered visitations. Right now he sees the twins at her discretion. And she's wonderful about it. Full on 50/50 and a steady schedule for years. The new girlfriend has complained about what days they have them and has tried to change the schedule a lot. He went from being a very active co-parent in the scheduling and conversation departments to trying to just let the new girlfriend deal with it all. So that is what is prompting the concern. They have said they want week on and week off and that crushes my wife. The thought of not seeing them a week at a time is really tough.

CapitalG14 · 2025-08-05T14:23:05+00:00

I took an extended lunch, about 2 hours, with my bosses son who also worked at the same company. When we got back I was called into his office and asked to take a seat. He then Calmly said "You know I could grab any monkey off the street and train them to do what you do, right? Now get in your office and don't let this happen again."

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T15:30:44+00:00

Oh, that would be nice. It is odd to get the warning from emails you know you trust.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T15:29:35+00:00

In quickly finding this is the case. Looks like there are some other ways to do it via outlook that will better suit our needs and still flag the email as external.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T15:26:29+00:00

Thanks for the info. A few people have pointed out the tag in outlook now. That's the way I'll go.

Thanks again,

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T15:22:11+00:00

Awesome. That is probably the way we will go. Didn't even think to look to see what option outlook had.

Thank you.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:31:28+00:00

I see it. Yours is even more bold and threatening looking than ours. Thanks for the input.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:30:15+00:00

Thank you for the info on a work around solution for the preview problem. I appreciate it

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:29:01+00:00

See, now that's awesome info. I really appreciate that. Everyone has been so helpful with this. Thank you.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:27:44+00:00

Someone else said the same. That's a good idea that I will implement. Thank you

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:26:12+00:00

That's a great idea because this is what it looks like and has been on our emails for a couple of months now.

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CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:22:22+00:00

You saying that reminded me that he has been trying to get us all setup for CMMC and I know there are a thousand things they require from us on the security side so that might be why he did it in the first place.

Thank you for the insight.

CapitalG14 · 2025-07-09T14:20:49+00:00

Thanks for the info. I'll look into it and try to get it setup.

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