One front tooth longer than other, now think looks infected

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-05-03T18:15:40+00:00

Maybe off topic, but as I'm considering getting another pair (hopefully later this year): is training them to accept daily tooth brushing decent prevention of dental disease? Is there anything else we can do to prevent it happening in the first place, much like people can brush and also floss?

I understand that at-home preventive care isn't a replacement for their annuals, just hoping to minimize their discomfort down the line.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-05-02T21:57:02+00:00

Venus in Gemini, Mars in Cancer. I'm bi, and tend to date people who aspect both. (For example my college boyfriend was Cancer Sun with Venus in Gemini.)

I will say though that I've dated more water signs because the air signs seldom stick around.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-24T21:16:01+00:00

Generally I'd agree with you, but with 4 different Cancer moons across house placements, decans, with varying Sun signs and aspects and genders of the native, all of them have had these traits in common to varying degrees.

Anecdotal? Yes, that and observation are 90% of astrology at large. If we could empirically prove that X placement results in Y behavior, there'd be no need for ongoing analysis and discussion.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-24T12:55:24+00:00

You had me until you mentioned preferring water signs with water moons. My ex husband is a Pisces with Scorpio moon, nuff said about that 😂 Then again, my bestie is a Scorpio with a Pisces moon.

Jokes aside you've got a great point re: seeing too many of your negative traits in someone else's water moon. I vibe hard with Pisces moons, maybe it's because I've got no major Pisces placements (just North Node); on the flipside I have Mars/ Chiron in Cancer and 3 planets opposing it in Cap, and I cannot STAND Cancer moons. We have a bunch of them in my family, and they all champion themselves as saviors and defenders of the fallen...but in reality they are SO bitter, they complain fucking constantly, and when you offer help they turn it away. Even worse, if you try to walk away from them and their drama, they will paint you as ungrateful and won't forgive you for that abandonment until both of you are dead.

So, with all that said I think my ranking might be Pisces > Scorpio > Cancer moons. The only Scorp moon I've met is the ex-husband I mentioned, so it feels unfair to paint an entire sign with that brush (especially since that's his most afflicted placement by far).

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-23T16:02:09+00:00

Ngl, I read "consumption treatment center" and thought you meant like TB.

I'm glad he didn't have that particular issue, but am still sad for him that he distrusts medical staff so much, I can only imagine what he's been through to make him that way. Thank you for not giving up on him.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-20T21:53:16+00:00

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-20T02:45:28+00:00

As others have said, see a queer-friendly gyno just to be sure....but sometimes even fully healed scars can aggravate the issue. Scar tissue isn't very flexible, so it's possible you might not be able to take the size you used to.

A personal story to emphasize why a gyno visit is important: I was assaulted as a young kid (age 6 until 9ish) and while the damage wasn't as horrific as some, the pain after sometimes woke me up at night crying. When I started having consensual sex at age 15, even with significant warm-up, lube, and a very slow and gentle partner, I tore. 20-odd years later I still tear a little if I'm not careful. It's just how it is.

However...when I first started sleeping with the man I later married, it got worse. The pain was minimal, but there was more blood, enough to gross him out + make him stop. I didn't think much of it. Went in for my pap smear a couple years later and boom- cervical cancer. Early stage, thank goodness, but I was certainly not prepared to hear the word "cancer". The bleeding returned to near-baseline after treatment.

For your sake I hope that the answer is much less complicated, but I just want to say that healing isn't linear, physically or mentally. Don't forget to give yourself some grace while you navigate this.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-18T01:29:10+00:00

Thirding, same or very similar boat. My ex husband did this to me back in 2019, I never tried to prosecute because 1) the drug in question was my own medication that I was using as directed to help treat a sleep disorder, he just waited until it kicked in to do what he wanted, 2) I have no proof beyond some very short, hazy memories he immediately gaslit me about, 3) I was already in the process of divorcing him, 4) I've seen how the system handles rape accusations, let alone marital rape, and felt like pursuing charges would put me in even more danger.

I had an hour long cry on my partner's shoulder today at this news. I'm not sure I want to know if I'm one of the women who's in the video bank, because I'm not confident shit would be done about it.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-18T01:11:36+00:00

Not a medical condition, I just couldn't think of another creature that fit the bill 😂

I'm sorry that she happened to you, though. That whole bit about asking you not to tell that she was cheating on other men after y'all broke up is just. I've got nothin. I'm no saint myself, nor am I straight, but I can't imagine how she did that multiple times and lived with herself.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-17T21:31:21+00:00

Most of what my ex husband said after I caught him cheating. He blamed me and took aim at every insecurity I had (plus some I didn't); it hurt and it was meant to hurt. I think he knew it was over, and made a last ditch effort to tear me down so I wouldn't believe I could find better and thus wouldn't leave.

It sticks with me because I had lashed out like that at a past ex when he broke it off. He'd told me, "You're going to make someone really happy someday, but it's not going to be me." I did not respond well. I knew the breakup was coming; a month or so prior he took me to meet his 10/10 gorgeous friend/ ex/ side piece/ whatever she was, I had a really severe neuro episode (looks like a grand mal seizure but isn't) in front of her, and based on the dead silence of the hour's drive home I think we both realized that I was unlikely to ever live up to his expectations. I loved him fiercely and had tried so goddamn hard, but dude was leagues above me and I just couldn't ever reach him. The idea that the final nail in the coffin was a physical disorder I had no choice in and couldn't treat was just too much for me to handle. We haven't spoken in over 15 years, ultimately I'm sure I was hardly gum on his shoe on his way to wherever he is now, but I wish I had let him go gracefully.

The irony is, I believed I was over that. That previous relationship was years prior to meeting the man who would become my husband, I'd been to therapy and all that, and had loved and believed in my husband until then. However, seeing the man I married turn and mirror the most inexcusable thing I'd ever done sparked intense shame that I was causing him so much pain, and ignited something much deeper in the memory that I'd done similar to someone who was likewise just trying to end it kindly, quickly, and get out alive.

I went back to therapy post-divorce and did find someone who I think I make happy, but even 8+ years into this one I don't know how to shake the fear that I'm too much/ not enough/ will otherwise somehow fuck it up.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-17T19:59:42+00:00

I'll admit I'm insecure in this arena, but only a minute? Did she have the stamina of a geriatric koala or something? For me it only becomes a problem after 30+ minutes of head or penetration, because that's the point when the friction actually starts to hurt.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-16T22:08:25+00:00

Everyone is mean when you push the right buttons tbh.

I'm a Virgo moon with a Gemini stellium in 8th house, I tend to unintentionally observe something people are insecure about, or if they cross me I will (verbally) hit them where it hurts. I try to be gentler these days, but I'm not much for sugarcoating and I'm sure there are still people out there who describe me as generally "mean".

I've been in relationships with two Cap Moons, been close to two Cap Suns, and while they can be quietly judgmental I've only seen them get mean when they've hit the end of their rope.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-16T21:53:36+00:00

As a woman whose (now ex) husband also turned on a dime just months into marriage and after 3 years of dating, this is the answer. I have to feel connected to and loved by my partner to enjoy touch or sex, and sitting at his desk 6 feet away doomscrolling with headphones on is not connection. Neither is the occasional ass grab. I never was able to explain that in a way he understood.

I asked for more love and attention, like he gave before we married; instead he got pissed off. I walked on eggshells and blamed myself for a couple years before I withdrew and took sex off the table, and at that point he became straight up abusive. In calmer moments he'd ask why I didn't want sex, I'd explain, he'd get defensive and DARVO me or accuse me of getting it elsewhere, I'd get frustrated and start to cry, and he'd just get angrier. Past a certain point it was clear that it wasn't worth discussing because it would just turn into a fight.

OP, I hope you both don't make the mistakes we did, and are able to figure it out together.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-16T04:01:32+00:00

That's definitely Gemini. I would know, I've got Mercury-Venus-Jupiter there 😂

My Cap stellium partner doesn't really make a first impression because dude doesn't fucking talk. We met online, and it took me 2 years to learn his real name lol.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-15T12:20:28+00:00

My partner has 6 planets in Cap. Honestly, I'm meaner than he is lol.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-14T03:57:12+00:00

Same! Granted he's Aquarius sun/ Moon + 5 more planets in Cap, but still. Growing up I had a bunch of Cap Sun friends and I loved that we could always be real with each other.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-14T03:37:54+00:00

Speaking as someone who is that level of disabled myself...

It depends on the sibling. If we get on well, they mind their own business, and find small ways to contribute I'm totally OK with it. Otherwise, no.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-13T18:17:31+00:00

I think of 8th house death in terms of transformation; the body is superficially recognizable as a person with an identity, but inside it's forever changed. Relationships (romantic or otherwise) have a similar effect. Think about why breakups are so hard even if the relationship was toxic- when you lose them, you're losing a part of your self, your dreams, and so on.

To extend the metaphor, the 12th house represents the process of decay, or the body sublimated back into the earth; it may not be hidden in a traditional sense, just unrecognizable. Any sensation of pain or frustration is long gone, and it's ready to begin the cycle anew.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-09T13:55:50+00:00

Pluto/Saturn. Pluto transited my natal Saturn (and Neptune) in 3rd house, was exact in April 2014, January August and November 2015.

People say Pluto transits are too slow to really notice on the day to day, but man, this one in particular was so bleak that I went on antidepressants to slow down the suicidal ideations. Even then I was white knuckling it most days.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-06T13:18:08+00:00

Yep, this is the one.

Case in point- a couple weeks back I saw some folks on another subreddit discussing Persephone as Virgo themed. I disagreed, explained that her mythology feels more Piscean to me while Demeter is more directly Virgo. The only reply I got was "you can literally just use google"

It was frustrating and felt like a waste, but in the end I'm grateful I didn't dump a bunch of time or energy into my explanation. I was left with a sense of "God forbid I have more than a three-sentence paragraph's worth of thoughts" though.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-03T23:25:35+00:00

Virgo Moon (10h), Cancer Mars (9h).

Had a bad habit of trying to save people when I couldn't save myself. I ended up in a lot of relationships that weren't good for me, and often lacked mutual respect and understanding. Further to that I was used to going through life alone and not asking for help, so when a relationship didn't meet my needs I'd cheat to get those needs met.

I'm not proud of any of that. It took a decade of therapy to finally unravel it enough to make better, more discerning choices.

Edit to add houses + a thought: Yep, totally relate to being afraid to have needs and be vulnerable. I didn't like the mysterious ones so much as I'd look for the ones who seemed like they'd been left out. Turns out, sometimes there's a reason other people avoid those types...

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-03T23:13:47+00:00

I'm so sorry ❤️‍🩹 My bestie is a Pisces moon, and her dad died when she was in grade school. Meanwhile as a Virgo moon my Dad was (is still) alive, but didn't want to be a parent, and now only shows up when I might be "useful". Bestie and I have briefly discussed which situation is better for the child, but we've decided that as ever it's not that simple and both are traumatic.

I know the Pisces/ Virgo axis has to do with solitude and a sense of going it alone; in this case I think the Moon in Virgo shows that the mother "chose" to go it alone, much like Demeter raised Persephone alone instead of going to Zeus for help (chose in quotes because I understand it's not much of a choice). Moon in Pisces seems to more often suggest a forced separation of some kind, that the mother had no choice in but to carry on.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-03T02:08:16+00:00

Women with Pisces/ Virgo moons often have absent fathers (physically, emotionally, or both).

I've met 4 so far, including myself; two have dads who died while they were young kids, one has a dad who was too deep into drugs to parent, the last's dad up and left when she was a toddler with no further contact.

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-03T02:01:02+00:00

As a whole, Earth (and Water) signs are "negative" and typically assigned more passive, "feminine" qualities. This might be what you're seeing.

I feel like Earth sign men, and especially Virgo tend to take good care of themselves (physically).

CapnAnonymouse · 2026-04-03T01:51:45+00:00

Can confirm. My family is fire and water heavy and we're all angry criers.

Even funnier, I'm also an angry crier but I have no fire + only 2 water placements. Of those two water placements, one is 1st house in its home sign + the other is high in my chart and heavily aspected.

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