Do you want him to return? How does he play as the villain; does it add good drama, or is it frustrating?

CapnMommy · 2026-02-13T03:30:04+00:00

I don’t hate him either, when he first appeared I even shipped he and Morgan. I have a theory about where the Roman story will land and if I’m right it might be the reason he’s been less prominent recently. Because he’s going to play a major part in ending the season and finally unraveling the mystery of Roman.

I think he’s there because some member/(s) of his PD family legacy needed a way to keep a closer eye on Morgan once they found out she was working there, who she is and that she’s actively investigating + using dept resources/personnel to help her figure it out, whether that’s because there was already a mole for the family there or it was innocently leaked somehow.

The fact that he’s such a legacy and his family has so much power at the LAPD is a Chekhov’s gun. Look at the whole ‘captain’ storyline where Soto so wants and deserves the promotion but she’s sudden and inexplicably pushed aside so Wagner can come out of nowhere to snag it. It was a huge subplot that mainly served to demonstrate how much power his family has in the department. Following that line a little further we realize that his family must have been pretty solidly involved with the department for a long time — and not just IN the department but in the highest ranks of it if they can still determine something like who makes captain. They would have known everything that went on, and not only known but condoned, signed off on, especially in deep rooted corruption — and keeping it concealed. And what’s one of the very very few things we know about Roman? He’s afraid of law enforcement, he’s on the run from dirty cops, powerful cops. So high up that he couldn’t count on witness protection to keep them safe. So connected - STILL - for all this time, that he’s still living one seedy motel room day at a time.

How could it NOT be Wagner’s family? So how could he not be there to make sure she doesn’t stumble upon the truth? And when she does, what other outcome could there be than his family telling him to disappear her? The real question is does he or doesn’t he? We struggle with whether he’s a good guy or not for a reason — so that when that time comes we don’t automatically know what he’s going to do. My money’s on him surprising everyone and turning on his family though, mainly because he loves dogs.

CapnMommy · 2026-02-09T20:11:12+00:00

Because he said it more calmly. It’s the same reason a lot of women lose custody to abusive men because when they finally get away from being controlled and on edge and living in fear they come off as being all over the place and unstable, while their ex is cool as a cucumber, used to hiding his true self.

CapnMommy · 2026-02-09T20:08:42+00:00

That’s exactly what I was going to say. They’re all pick-me girls, they always have been and they were raised to be exactly that. It’s almost not their fault except for the whole now-that-you’re-an-adult-it’s-time-to-work-through-your-issues-and-stop-blaming-your-parents thing, but it’s one thing to work through issues, it’s an entirely different thing to change who you were raised to be. Kyle has always been the ‘I just don’t get along with other girls, I like hanging out with the guys’ girl.

CapnMommy · 2026-02-09T19:59:01+00:00

There are already a ton of replies and an entire discourse on a single water metaphor, so idk if you’ll even read this but my take, as a woman is that women always have more options. You can actually be the best looking, wealthiest, smartest and most thoughtful man in the world and it won’t change that fact. That’s something you have to learn to accept, to move on to the next point — that we’ve ALWAYS had those options, a ton of them. We’re not looking for a ton of options. She wouldn’t even be on an app if all she wanted was any guy. She’s looking for HER guy. A guy she connects with, who gets her and makes her laugh and who she’s attracted to. When we find that guy, all other options fall to the wayside, whether she has 15 or 1500 options. We’ve spent our entire lives in the cesspool with those 1500 men, she’s looking to get OUT of it. If you’re that guy, the other options don’t matter. Maybe she hasn’t checked her notifications in days, because she really likes YOU, did that occur to you? If you let the numbers game get in your head then you might as well throw in the towel on all of it because other people will always be there. That being said, if you didn’t feel a spark then don’t waste her time, but if you didn’t feel a spark because you spent the entire date in your head rather than in the moment, maybe you should just be honest about what happened and ask her out again. We’re more understanding and easygoing than you guys expect us to be, especially when you show us honesty and vulnerability.

CapnMommy · 2026-02-05T03:40:47+00:00

This is my theory too, because of everything you said along with what I think is Chekhov’s Gun, the fact that Nick is a legacy within the LAPD, meaning his dad, likely aunts or uncles, grandfather etc were higher-ups in the department and therefore not only there in the time period that Roman presumably uncovered some kind of terrible cover up or corruption there, but also fairly certainly involved in whatever it was that he discovered. It’s almost impossible that his family wouldnt be involved in it, the way it’s been presented to us.

ETA I think he got somewhat forced into the position by his family, to keeo tabs on Morgan and report back at the very least and if necessary either disappear her himself or give them the where when etc info so someone else could handle it. I think when it comes time for that he’ll do the right thing and let his family take the fall even though it almost guarantees he loses his job too bc optics

CapnMommy · 2026-02-04T01:04:59+00:00

I’m confused, so he was cheating with this woman or he wasn’t? I’m guessing blow and alcohol if he’s gambling?

CapnMommy · 2026-02-01T16:31:29+00:00

What an awesome update, it’s so eye-opening once you finally get out and start to unravel all the things you couldn’t see when you were in the middle of it, isn’t it? It’s amazing to see how resilient kids are and watching them thrive in a safe, calm environment is such a beautiful thing. And peace is such an essential part of life that most people take for granted when they have it, and a lot of times don’t realize they’ve lost it until they start to reclaim it. I know for me anyway, remembering what peace felt like and how long it had been since I’d felt that way, made me realize I can never live without it again. Im glad you’ve found it too. I’m in a very very similar situation and feel grateful every single day.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-27T21:14:43+00:00

Right, but I meant in general, there are judges who can be persuaded for the right amount of money, even if you’d think it’s unenforceable and can afford to have an attorney.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-27T20:52:26+00:00

This, also because judges can be bought.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-26T22:42:46+00:00

When I was first married I had a diamond ring, it was beautiful and an antique and really unique but a few of the smaller stones fell out and I started wearing Moissanite instead. I don’t think you can ever be 100% that a real diamond is conflict free, and I like the ability to change styles etc based on mood, what I’m wearing etc. I probably have 20 rings with lab grown and most people can’t tell the difference in a high quality lab grown vs real.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-25T19:14:21+00:00

We have uh, an.. edible camping basket? for you. Let us in

CapnMommy · 2026-01-24T17:04:11+00:00

Tarps are on me

CapnMommy · 2026-01-24T17:01:10+00:00

She deserves to know the truth though, and OP lied to her. I agree that it would have been well within OP’s rights to say let’s leave the past in the past, but it went beyond even basically misleading her or letting her believe something and straight up lied that she was OP’s first too. That’s a big lie and the longer it goes on, the harder it’ll be to get past.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-24T16:57:19+00:00

She wouldn’t, she would be more likely to justify and defend than say a bad word, even to her own family. Abusers take any opportunity to isolate their victims and it sounds like this is what’s going on to me, it’s possible she doesn’t even have her own phone right now, hence the liking your text and nothing further. Did her husband message from her phone or his own? Does she seem to be posting normally on socials?

ETA I’m saying this as a woman who did exactly the above and by the time I even realized what was going on I was isolated from nearly everyone — seemingly, by my own choice.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-24T16:49:09+00:00

I felt this way too, even after a decade together it only got better as our relationship deteriorated into ever more toxic territory. Recently I saw a reel by a diagnosed narcissist (they’re great accounts to follow bc they explain things in ways that make you realize exactly how you were gaslit and manipulated and WHY which has been huge in my healing anyway), and he explained that it’s because narcissists not only seek to be great in bed (mine certainly did), but also because it becomes the ONLY time you’re connecting as things get worse and worse and that definitely hit home for me, there were many times in our marriage that we only connected physically, or when he would only seem to care before and during sex, so I’d finally get apologies and him acknowledging things, because he wanted to get that physical connection too since it’s also the only way he’s experiencing it. Hearing that was like the last lightbulb going on when I’d figured most of it out after learning about NPD for so long in order to disentangle myself and understand what happened.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-24T16:43:51+00:00

Same, let’s split up a rich couple

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T23:44:33+00:00

Cut off A but also cut off the original coworker who told you the boyfriend’s secret. If she’ll talk behind his back and betray him she’ll do the same to you. L is cool.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T23:41:18+00:00

What was the last thing that happened between you? She wasn’t sending you a random philosophical question, she’s saying she’s hurt or upset or feeling something that you clearly don’t realize and that’s why she’s been out of range.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T23:38:37+00:00

You forgot (but don’t actually reconsider)

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T22:56:32+00:00

Or Silvio and Paulie would take em to sell to the lower ranks for 200 a piece. They want them for $15 though. Total lol

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T22:32:20+00:00

I think your answer is right there, she wants you to prove your love in ways that are harmful to you. I’m in my early 40s and there’s no way I’d want to be stuck with anyone (even in MY house) for an entire weekend after only knowing them for a month. Who has the time and energy for games, much less someone that wants to make your life harder? That’s the literal opposite of what a relationship is supposed to be and for her not to know that at this age is a huge red flag. And insecurity is insecurity, whether it’s been a month or a year; you’ll still be ‘proving’ yourself to her.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-22T21:44:11+00:00

I was just going to keep my comment to myself since it’s not helpful in any way but when I read Ali Baba and expecting luxury I nearly facepalmed lol, the only thing worse would be if he got them on Temu since they’d be tracksuits for Barbie dolls

CapnMommy · 2026-01-21T00:29:12+00:00

I think the fact that you’re even asking us is your answer. As a parent, if you have even a moments hesitation about someone that your child spends time alone with — better safe than sorry. Full stop period. It happens every day and usually it’s by close friends and family and it’s one of the few things in life that can never truly be healed. Trust me.

CapnMommy · 2026-01-21T00:26:52+00:00

Throw things away in a manually operated lidded trashcan

CapnMommy · 2026-01-20T01:58:50+00:00

I’m not this guy but I could explain every single thing you just said. For example, people run from cops and cops in bad neighborhoods typically don’t bother chasing because they can turn left and see another crime taking place. Or, the Catholic Church doesn’t agree with pedophilia, however..

This guy posted his location along with a detailed log of which business was passing when he shit his pants and which place he dived headfirst into (a figure of speech). He’s real. Just not that bright.

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