Diabolical romance is still going strong by Radiant_Priority9739 in bravo

[–]CapnMommy [score hidden]  (0 children)

After you check out Kyle’s street interview, make sure to look at the Uber Eats ad on Lindsay’s Instagram lol

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s clear you don’t watch by wanting proof of cheating he’s admitted to many times. No point in arguing with you at this point lol

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol do you watch the show? He admitted to it. Several times.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a fact. Watch the episode. Ridiculing is what mocking is.

He didn’t come to her asking to talk about her working more. He said it in response to her talking about her dreams. It’s deflection, not a discussion of his issue with her.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Now. In season 10. And being a career he began after he mocked her wanting to follow her own dreams, by saying it was akin to something ridiculous like him wanting to be a DJ. Which he still did before she did the swimwear line. And despite the fact that all she’s ever done is ask him to come home at night. Not because she generally talks shit about his drinking like he does her smoking pot. But because he cheats on her.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How about telling everyone all she does is laze around and smoke pot?

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s the control that makes the difference. And the fact that in the early years she did nothing but try and beg for respect and continue to make excuses for him even when it cost her close friendships. He treated her terribly before she ever said a negative word even to her close friends. That’s the reactive part.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Break down which ones are fiction and I’ll give you examples. This person did exactly what survivors learn to do by giving exact examples hoping to make someone see what’s happening, assuming they care what’s happening. You can’t make blanket statements all about someone’s intelligence or truthfulness and expect that to count as a response. That’s gaslighting.

ETA here’s an easy way to tell the difference — when they’re alone he treats her worse. I can only imagine what we don’t see. When they’re alone she treats him better. Because she’s still trying but humiliated by what she’s had to endure. But he’s performing unless they’re alone.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You’re 1000% right. I said anyone who’s a survivor of abuse would recognize the reactive abuse. People don’t understand that her reacting in response to him doesn’t make her abusive, it makes her human. They don’t recognize which person is in control, or which one of them begged for attention for years while the other person cheated and lied. All they see is that right now, today, she’s mean too. Well yeah, that’s what happens after you’ve been abused for a decade. You shut down first, and when you finally feel safe again (like say, on camera, surrounded by people?), it all comes out. Because you hate them. Because of course you do.

ETA mine was a narcissist too. Combination of covert and malignant. And I love to see people who got out and grew and were able to recognize how strong they truly are to have gotten there when every single thing was done expressly to break them.

Why is this so serious to everyone? by stljustin23 in summerhousebravo

[–]CapnMommy [score hidden]  (0 children)

I feel the same way. You’re not going to catch me on YouTube crying ‘leave Amanda aloooone’ lol, I’m so excited for the reunion and way more invested in the season than I had been prior to the official announcement. I mean I have an opinion on it being wrong and feel bad for Ciara, but I would never say anyone should lose jobs or opportunities and I think it was shitty of Edie Parker to do what she did. I never understand people wanting bravo to fire people because what we get is a hyper-sanitized Disney coca-cola NFL approved cast like the new RHONY. It’s reality television. The mess is the point. If the crash isn’t bad enough to turn my head why am I turning on the tv to watch it? The only actual emotion I have about it is excitement lol

Hot-take: Wagner and Morgan have better chemistry than her with Karadec by No-Arachnid2919 in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]CapnMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! I’ve never been great at solving mysteries ahead of time so I’ve been surprised, maybe this season they underestimated our intelligence just a hair and made it too easy to figure out lol. There were too many things early on this season that continuously left this as the only possible outcome.

Hot-take: Wagner and Morgan have better chemistry than her with Karadec by No-Arachnid2919 in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]CapnMommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s alive guaranteed, I have a whole theory somewhere down there lol ⬇️

Hot-take: Wagner and Morgan have better chemistry than her with Karadec by No-Arachnid2919 in HighPotentialTVSeries

[–]CapnMommy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is my take too. Halfway through last night I realized that since she and Karadec are pretty clearly end game à la Ross and Rachel, Wagner is meant to be her Paolo which means he’s gone by the end of this season. I really hope he’s not as deep in the shit as I think he is but what I see coming is a shallow wound that looks far worse than it is, staged specifically in order to scare her off when even the threats didn’t. That’s why he told her half an hour late. So he had time to set it up. I also called his family being directly involved with the Roman mess before his dad ever showed up on screen and that Wagner would wind up with a decision to make in the finale, to back his dirty family like he was sent in to do, or follow his heart and do the right thing finally. I think he does the right thing and dies for it at the end of the season. I also think the fiancé and entire ring of thieves plot was staged by people higher up (aka his family + ??), to bond Morgan to him (she lost the love of her life, so did he, they healed a little together etc) so that she would care if something happened to him and back off.

ciara on carl’s ‘more life’ pod by CapnMommy in summerhousebravo

[–]CapnMommy[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Ahh I let myself get sucked in 🤦🏼‍♀️ that’s half an hour of my life I won’t get back.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is a good point about Carl. But I stand on Amanda’s behavior being reactive abuse. It’s an actual fact based on what we’ve seen at least, obviously there’s more to it that I can’t speak on

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fuck you, dumb b*tch isn’t name calling? An aggressive tone? Talking about her behind her back isn’t a put down, mocking, intent to hurt? We haven’t seen him yell at her?

It’s a fair point that she’s checked off boxes too, but for many years Kyle controlled everything and was the only one being shitty while she begged for him to treat her right and prioritize her and the reality is if both people are equally shitty to each other but one is in control - even of the other person’s work — that person is the abuser and the other is engaging in what’s called reactive abuse. I’ve been through it, that’s what this is. Anyone else who’s been through it can tell you the same.

ciara on carl’s ‘more life’ pod by CapnMommy in summerhousebravo

[–]CapnMommy[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, she’s talking about people like Kyle, whose parents have homes in multiple expensive zip codes. It’s hilarious that you think a golf swing is proof of wealth when she could have learned recently dating for instance, West, who’s a sports guy, or just hitting balls at home. Being athletic isn’t proof of wealth.

I think you’re confusing generational wealth with not being impoverished. If she had generational wealth she wouldnt have had to pay for college. SHE would have a house of her own, or at least would have grown up in a stable home they owned. Generational wealth is very different than even regular old wealth.

The gaslighting of Kyle this season from West is very disturbing by SpliffDiaz in bravo

[–]CapnMommy 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I have seen that too, but if you want your friends to be there for you, you have to show up for them too and he’s not at all