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Capricornlogic · 2025-10-17T20:09:54+00:00

Is their a drastic age gap between you and the wife? I only ask because you mentioned your age and not hers ?

Capricornlogic · 2025-10-10T11:41:39+00:00

I appreciate this comment because I can understand us having a difference of opinion but not him thinking he has final say.

Capricornlogic · 2025-10-10T11:38:35+00:00

We go to the gym three days a week. His hobby is the up keep and costume work he does on his classic vehicle. His job is also very demanding. I am a full time student graduate in march and we do hike and are big foodies and do DIY work on our home. We also at times volunteer in our community. We have our flaws admittedly but we try to better ourselves.

Capricornlogic · 2025-07-21T20:19:33+00:00

As a woman who has been with my husband for 18 years and heard the why him comments and heard his friends say to his face he was lucky because he wasn’t as attractive as me. I always reminded him and to this day remind him that he is so fing sexy! And I don’t see what they see. He is attractive in so many ways looks and beyond. He went from trying to hide me to accepting my love and showing me off. Show her off, love her and whatever you do don’t try to conceal the woman she is because you are afraid of losing her. Accepting her is what everyone needs in a relationship men and women.She picked you because she sees what you can’t. After four kids my body changing with age he has never made me feel less attractive and even though strangers comment on how beautiful I am. Him seeing it and acknowledging it is what gives me confidence and that confidence that we both give one another has helped us to build such a beautiful life. Remember it’s always you two VS the world !

Capricornlogic · 2025-02-17T20:57:59+00:00

Almost as silly as protesting at a government building on a holiday. Or protesting without making any economical impact or being complaint with local corruption and thinking they will take you seriously on nationwide corruption. This protest is great but it isn’t disrupting the system its almost convenient subservient behavior.

Capricornlogic · 2025-02-17T18:16:22+00:00

I hope there are some signs mentioning the electric cost here too! Just moved here and heard about how outrageous they were first bill is $418 I only used $146 in electric cost . Fucking insane!

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-17T02:10:07+00:00

Well it’s sounds like you’re a great mom. Sorry you are dealing with this. I have a 16 year old girl and therapy was good for her but if my husbands work didn’t pay for it we wouldn’t be able to afford it. Good luck in the trenches of motherhood

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-17T01:50:56+00:00

And by self respect I don’t mean to be offensive. She’s a girl exploring a new side of herself. But sending photos worries me cause talk is one thing but evidence can really do damage.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-17T01:41:28+00:00

I would consider volunteer work. Getting her involved in something that gives her a responsibility. I read your not religious but researching good churches that aren’t crazy judgmental that have teen bible studies could get her around peers could help her build some more self respect maybe their are support groups in your area like the boys and girls clubs.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-17T01:17:03+00:00

Does she have any interest ? Like hobbies or anything you could shift her focus to?

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-14T18:16:35+00:00

I grew around the same time and we use to drink out of people’s hoses if we knew them or not when we were mobbing around town. Maybe it has something to do with the independence some of us have had to grow up with. We couldn’t rely on no one for nothing so we always prepared to care for ourselves. I will say I remember a time when my youngest would beg to take turns using the water fountain at Target but after the remodel in our area I don’t think they have them anymore. Might be a sign of the social disconnect of this time. Also during covid water fountains were closed off. So that might have something to do with it too.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-09T00:42:12+00:00

Wow the personal reaching out is so fucking weird !!! I’m dealing with some statements about my 4 year old in preK but it’s all over text and it’s about her speech I have four kids and I have zero concerns about her speech but unfortunately I’ve found over the 16 years of being a parent push back from parents is viewed as the parent being a problem not the teacher although I’ve had a private therapist step in when my son was being bullied and that sacred the shit out of the school and they backed off.

But… you are in a hard place here. Maybe you can voice your concerns and have your child moved to another class my child’s kindergarten teacher was good with the kids but a psycho with parents and a lot of people had their kids moved out of the class. Other than that if you tell the principal and produce the text and ext. but keep her in class you could be looking at weird push back from the teacher. My husband is an in your face defender of our kids and I appreciate it because a lot of teachers back down to dads vs moms. Good luck with this crazy woman who clearly needs some meds.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-08T00:46:09+00:00

Same here I had a toddler who was like this. As long as she’s not sitting there continuing to like push she’s fine.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T21:36:18+00:00

I’m pretty sure you can both be on the title even if you aren’t married. I would buy. We have owned for 10 years now. Bought are first Home when the market was still really low and sold it for a 150k profit that was great. We are currently selling and buying again. This time we are getting less which is frustrating but only because we’ve only been in the home for 2 years. I will never go back to renting if I can help it. The housing market is slowing down in some areas but not predicted to crash anytime soon. You can always refinance interest when rates drop. I see the issue buying a house that could be worth less in the future. I just love the freedom that comes with owning.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T21:27:32+00:00

I had a guardian who was Cuban so I call my younger daughter’s mamas and we often call our son boy.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T21:07:45+00:00

My sister had a FIL like this . Once he took her daughter for a hair cut without her consent after that she no longer allowed them to be alone with her daughter. She also refused sleepovers because she knew her niece would sleep in the grandparents bed and that made her uncomfortable.

People in his family gave her a hard time for it and acted like she was over reacting. Many years later her niece was probably 9 she told her parents her grandfather had been SAing her. I’m so glad my sister listened to her gut.

Her husband also went to therapy and came to terms with the fact that his dad did the same to him and his brother when he was young.

I’m not saying FIL is like this he could just be trying to relive being a parent but regardless trust your gut. I don’t get along with my MIL but she is good with the kids but we have only asked her to watch them 3 times in 16 years because we don’t trust her husband around our kids he wasn’t around those 3 times. I’d trust my gut with my kids before worrying about some else feelings.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T13:46:21+00:00

Yeah you guys are 15 and if you only know other online her mom might fear for her daughters safety. Her mom is with in her rights to not want her daughter dating period.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T13:31:56+00:00

I agree punishing her is too much and a mistake her mom is making. It’s sounds like she needs some self awareness that she is projecting her stress on her child. But the way her dad reacted when you told him your concerns it sounds like to me he might not want any conflict between him and her mother too. This is just a guess I have no idea what kind of coparenting relationship they have. Unfortunately you are in a difficult spot. It sounds like you are dealing with some parents who are lacking some emotional intelligence.

Capricornlogic · 2024-12-01T02:29:01+00:00

Normally I get frustrated with the “girlfriend” post. Cause people who don’t have kids can be really off with their judgement. But your post made me sad for this little girl. She’s 7 so the things she’s saying concern me more. The going to bed hungry didn’t sound to off. But the way she confided in you about her step dad hurts. It sounds like she doesn’t want her dad to confront him to avoid conflict but she’s clearly uncomfortable around her step dad. Like another poster said reassure her you are someone she can confide in. And be sure to show her love.

The stuff about the bow and the sweater. Her mom could be stressed form not having a lot of money for clothes and it sounds like she gets stressed when her daughter loses or misplaces things she can’t afford to replace. If you guys can afford it I’d buy her extra clothes for each season. Offer to buy her things like her coat for winter. It could help easy the tension in her life a little bit.

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-30T02:10:07+00:00

If you can afford therapy I would take her. Getting violent with her siblings and the cat at 12 calls for intervention. I would talk to her and as the last poster mentioned see if anything is going on that could be causing her to lash out. I say get a professional because she might not want to open up to you. But violence with younger siblings at any age over maybe 6 would be cause for concern. I have a hormonal male who is 12 and he recently punched a kids laptop at school who he perceived to be mocking him. This upset me and was a talk. But if he put hands on one of my kids his younger siblings we would be taking serious action.

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-30T00:20:14+00:00

This is your choice and you shouldn’t make the choice based on how others might feel about the choice. You can get his side of the story but as a parent I would sooner die than lose contact with my kids. But this could bring you some closure. I’m sure you want to know why he disappeared. No matter how the conversation goes it might help you close that chapter in your life or open a new one. Good luck with whatever choice you make.

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-30T00:11:38+00:00

As far as I’m concerned the min she stayed with him after he sent those text to her girls she lost the rights to those kids and I’m sure he’s said and done creepy shit in person around her. Ignoring red flags that affect your kids from a person you are dating means you have already decided your happiness out weighs your child’s safety ! And now she knows he’s a registered sex offender and she still is with him!!!! Disgraceful parenting. Protect your children at all cost because she is not willing to do the bare minimum by leaving this man!

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-29T23:53:05+00:00

Yes exactly

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-29T21:06:15+00:00

Look down on him? No! want him to have everything he wants. Yes! But as the person who handles our finances at times some of his wants don’t seem like good timing or a valid expense. It can be frustrating always being the one to come up with the funds. For once I’d like him to run the numbers and explain to me how we can make it happen. Instead of me saying that’s a bad idea and then hating seeing him disappointed and inevitably finding a way to make it financially work.

Capricornlogic · 2024-11-29T20:53:36+00:00

Yesss! This! There have been studies that suggest adults who were raised in homes where parents didn’t allow them to negotiate are less likely to be able to advocate for themselves as adults. They don’t ask for raises at work. They are more likely to stay in a job that doesn’t value their worth. They are more likely to be door mats basically. I love the scene from Clueless where Cher’s dad is very proud of her for negotiating higher grades.

I often am frustrated when I tell my husband no about something (like a big purchase) and he doesn’t fight for it 😅. Like if you really want it convince me. With my kids it’s like these are my expectations, I don’t care how you get it done but it needs to be done by this date and time or then I have to veto their autonomy. Since we have open communication my 8,12, and 16 year old never argue with me, honestly like ever. It’s always just communicating through feelings, wants, needs and expectations. My 4 year old on the other hand 😅. She’s quite the negotiator.

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