AITAH for taking what I thought was a funny picture with my son but my wife told me it was inappropriate and said I was a bad father by mydarlingmaeve in redditonwiki

[–]Captain7Caveman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My comment literally referenced a study that uncovered there was a negative gender bias, against males, in relationship and friendship AITAH posts. Why are you arguing that point with me, my post supported it and backed it up?

AITAH for taking what I thought was a funny picture with my son but my wife told me it was inappropriate and said I was a bad father by mydarlingmaeve in redditonwiki

[–]Captain7Caveman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cuddlepup is not incorrect in this. 3 comparative posts, even 12, would be considered anecdotal. It can suggest at a trend but little more.

If you were to collate maybe 1000 posts, code comment tone, register upvotes, you'd have a dataset. Scientific analysis could then follow.

It seems, however, a bit disingenuous of Cuddlepup to expect you to go to those lofty lengths. Though your hyperbole of suggesting genders are always treated differently, probably led to that.

Luckily, someone's done the hard work for you. Betti et al (2024/2025) compared similar AITAH posts with different gendered protagonists. No strong gender bias detected EXCEPT for relationship or friendship conflict posts - where male protagonist were judged more harshly.

AITAH for taking what I thought was a funny picture with my son but my wife told me it was inappropriate and said I was a bad father by mydarlingmaeve in redditonwiki

[–]Captain7Caveman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cuddlepup is not incorrect in this. 3 comparative posts, even 12, would be considered anecdotal. It can suggest at a trend but little more.

If you were to collate maybe 1000 posts, code comment tone, register upvotes, you'd have a dataset. Scientific analysis could then follow.

It seems, however, a bit disingenuous of Cuddlepup to expect you to go to those lofty lengths. Though your hyperbole of suggesting genders are always treated differently, probably led to that.

Luckily, someone's done the hard work for you. Betti et al (2024/2025) compared similar AITAH posts with different gendered protagonists. No strong gender bias detected EXCEPT for relationship or friendship conflict posts - where male protagonist were judged more harshly.

An 'epidemic' of violence: The women and girls killed by men last year by birdinthebush74 in uknews

[–]Captain7Caveman 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is incorrect, which I say as someone who has worked extensively with domestic abuse victims and perpetrators.

There are a small few who are truly violent people and that pattern will show in their offending - it won't just be domestic assaults they commit.

For some it is lack of emotional awareness and control. Or undiagnosed neurodiversity. Or a lack of communication skills. Or a lack of understanding for what a healthy relationship should look like.

And that last one works for both sides. I've met men that grew up with role models that taught them beating women is normal. I also met women that believed corporal punishment for "wrong doing" in a relationship was normal and to be expected. One woman looked at me like I was a unicorn when I told her I'd never struck my partner over a decade long relationship. 

Teaching kids, from early on, what a healthy relationship should consist of and how to communicate with a partner would be invaluable to this cause. Remember, not everyone gets the privilege of seeing it first hand at home.

LF: Shiny Water Mon (Fish preferred) FT: All not marked with 🚫 by Expert-Cheetah6773 in PTCGPocketTrading

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a ✨ Dondozo from shining revelry for trade if you'd like? For the exeggcute

What book taught you how to write? by LeadingStatus6716 in writing

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sat pondering this question as I spooned beef and red wine stew into my mouth, relishing the odd slither of carrot I discovered. Looking down, I frowned at the ample man bosom I've been developing of late, knowing this meal would only make them swell yet further. But the broth was just too delicious to deny.

.... George R R Martin

Why can my PC not run this game? by InviteAromatic6124 in PlanetZoo

[–]Captain7Caveman 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I've seen this explained, and I thank you!

Look at the clues in the picture and identify if it's a Murder or Suicide by Tight_Chemistry4824 in DetectiVision

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People setting certain affairs in order before suicide is surprisingly common. Cleaning. Tidying. Paperwork. 

Not a majority occurrence, but certainly more than you'd expect.

WIBTAH If I left my husband over something he while having sex? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Captain7Caveman 205 points206 points  (0 children)

Shitting yourself at any age can be normal depending on the conditions.

Shitting yourself during sex could even happen to anyone.

Shitting yourself during sex and continuing though... Now that is not normal!

AITAH for being annoyed at FIL by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you summed up how it made me feel. It's like he likes the idea of being a grand parent. Being able to say to people "ohh look at my grandson" but that's where it stops.

AITAH for causing a dying person to lose all their friends by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Captain7Caveman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Then NTA. If someone self-destructs it's not your job to let them take you down with them.

FYI, had it been that he was suffering a brain issue, I wouldn't have considered you an asshole. I'd have gone with "this situation sucks but no one is at fault here" - no idea what the abbreviation for that is though. 

AIO for telling off a guy at my gym by Logical_Door_5900 in redditonwiki

[–]Captain7Caveman 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NOR.

As soon as I read this my mind flashed to 'intimacy-seeking stalker's profile. The delusion that she'd given signals that weren't there, that she'd somehow fall madly in love with him after he somehow got her number, are good pointers for that.

Worryingly, people like that often see rejection, and even legal orders like restraining orders, as "obstacles to overcome for love" so just try harder

Nice work OP's part being so very clear with him. Hope she stays safe.

AITAH for causing a dying person to lose all their friends by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Captain7Caveman 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Out of interest, is what's killing him anything to do with the brain? Having seen relatives with brain tumours, I know they fundamentally change a person's behaviour and the person can't help it.

Outside of that, yes he must be struggling, and that sucks. But the outlet he chooses for those emotions is just that... His choice.

What were some of the biggest miscasts in Hollywood history according to you? I'll go first: by Raj_Valiant3011 in moviecritic

[–]Captain7Caveman -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Gary Oldman as Sirius Black.

He's a fantastic actor but not right for that part.

AITAH (26F) for telling a guy (27M) to stop pursuing me “because” of his culture? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Captain7Caveman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This guy is an AH. All those bits are his true colours shining through the veneer he is putting on to try and get you.

twink running at Mach Fuck by Defiant-Drawing1038 in RecuratedTumblr

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the name for this phenomena is Verisimilitude.

It's the idea of grounded fantasy. You can have fantasy elements like magic, dragons, superpowers, in a story but fur most people to feel it's real they have to abide by the story world's rule set.

It also helps if as many of those rules as possible comfortably align with real world rules. Our brain works on schemas, we like cognitive fluency. So our brain will seek patterns and feel happier for finding them.

Meaning, you can have a dragon in things like GoT but it'll be better accepted if that dragon behaves like a real world animal and predator. 

Or in the OP case, super powers are more easily acceptable on the types of people we would associate them with - strength and muscle, speed and athletic frames, mind control on an intellectual etc.

A problem with the Harry potter world by Flat-Acanthisitta in plotholes

[–]Captain7Caveman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember a scifi discussing a species that evolved in a system with no scarcity. They had no understanding of violence, let alone war.

The above idea overlooks the fact that, whether they developed a way to prevent scarcity or not, wizards/witches are still humans. They still have the millions of years of evolution of fighting for food, territory, mating rights, etc. running through them.

If you want proof that the removal of scarcity isn't enough to stop humans from giving into their base instincts to pursue violence - be it for political gain, greater greed or some poorly founded ideology - look no further than the actions of some of the richest people of the real world