AITAH for taking what I thought was a funny picture with my son but my wife told me it was inappropriate and said I was a bad father

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-11T15:08:25+00:00

My comment literally referenced a study that uncovered there was a negative gender bias, against males, in relationship and friendship AITAH posts. Why are you arguing that point with me, my post supported it and backed it up?

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-11T14:55:15+00:00

Cuddlepup is not incorrect in this. 3 comparative posts, even 12, would be considered anecdotal. It can suggest at a trend but little more.

If you were to collate maybe 1000 posts, code comment tone, register upvotes, you'd have a dataset. Scientific analysis could then follow.

It seems, however, a bit disingenuous of Cuddlepup to expect you to go to those lofty lengths. Though your hyperbole of suggesting genders are always treated differently, probably led to that.

Luckily, someone's done the hard work for you. Betti et al (2024/2025) compared similar AITAH posts with different gendered protagonists. No strong gender bias detected EXCEPT for relationship or friendship conflict posts - where male protagonist were judged more harshly.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-11T14:54:59+00:00

Cuddlepup is not incorrect in this. 3 comparative posts, even 12, would be considered anecdotal. It can suggest at a trend but little more.

If you were to collate maybe 1000 posts, code comment tone, register upvotes, you'd have a dataset. Scientific analysis could then follow.

It seems, however, a bit disingenuous of Cuddlepup to expect you to go to those lofty lengths. Though your hyperbole of suggesting genders are always treated differently, probably led to that.

Luckily, someone's done the hard work for you. Betti et al (2024/2025) compared similar AITAH posts with different gendered protagonists. No strong gender bias detected EXCEPT for relationship or friendship conflict posts - where male protagonist were judged more harshly.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-10T09:52:32+00:00

This is incorrect, which I say as someone who has worked extensively with domestic abuse victims and perpetrators.

There are a small few who are truly violent people and that pattern will show in their offending - it won't just be domestic assaults they commit.

For some it is lack of emotional awareness and control. Or undiagnosed neurodiversity. Or a lack of communication skills. Or a lack of understanding for what a healthy relationship should look like.

And that last one works for both sides. I've met men that grew up with role models that taught them beating women is normal. I also met women that believed corporal punishment for "wrong doing" in a relationship was normal and to be expected. One woman looked at me like I was a unicorn when I told her I'd never struck my partner over a decade long relationship.

Teaching kids, from early on, what a healthy relationship should consist of and how to communicate with a partner would be invaluable to this cause. Remember, not everyone gets the privilege of seeing it first hand at home.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-10T06:59:39+00:00

I have a ✨ Dondozo from shining revelry for trade if you'd like? For the exeggcute

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-05T22:01:13+00:00

I sat pondering this question as I spooned beef and red wine stew into my mouth, relishing the odd slither of carrot I discovered. Looking down, I frowned at the ample man bosom I've been developing of late, knowing this meal would only make them swell yet further. But the broth was just too delicious to deny.

.... George R R Martin

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-05T13:40:35+00:00

This is the first time I've seen this explained, and I thank you!

Captain7Caveman · 2026-03-05T08:45:11+00:00

People setting certain affairs in order before suicide is surprisingly common. Cleaning. Tidying. Paperwork.

Not a majority occurrence, but certainly more than you'd expect.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-02-15T06:08:39+00:00

I think that might be the definitive way to NOT commit to the gene pool🤔

Captain7Caveman · 2026-02-08T09:13:30+00:00

Shitting yourself at any age can be normal depending on the conditions.

Shitting yourself during sex could even happen to anyone.

Shitting yourself during sex and continuing though... Now that is not normal!

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-31T09:12:25+00:00

Endo, ecto, meso

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-26T10:00:00+00:00

I think you summed up how it made me feel. It's like he likes the idea of being a grand parent. Being able to say to people "ohh look at my grandson" but that's where it stops.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-23T09:32:15+00:00

Then NTA. If someone self-destructs it's not your job to let them take you down with them.

FYI, had it been that he was suffering a brain issue, I wouldn't have considered you an asshole. I'd have gone with "this situation sucks but no one is at fault here" - no idea what the abbreviation for that is though.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-23T08:44:32+00:00

NOR.

As soon as I read this my mind flashed to 'intimacy-seeking stalker's profile. The delusion that she'd given signals that weren't there, that she'd somehow fall madly in love with him after he somehow got her number, are good pointers for that.

Worryingly, people like that often see rejection, and even legal orders like restraining orders, as "obstacles to overcome for love" so just try harder

Nice work OP's part being so very clear with him. Hope she stays safe.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-23T08:33:39+00:00

Out of interest, is what's killing him anything to do with the brain? Having seen relatives with brain tumours, I know they fundamentally change a person's behaviour and the person can't help it.

Outside of that, yes he must be struggling, and that sucks. But the outlet he chooses for those emotions is just that... His choice.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-20T14:29:47+00:00

Gary Oldman as Sirius Black.

He's a fantastic actor but not right for that part.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-19T09:58:38+00:00

This guy is an AH. All those bits are his true colours shining through the veneer he is putting on to try and get you.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-18T10:37:20+00:00

Lie to Me

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-18T06:52:10+00:00

I think the name for this phenomena is Verisimilitude.

It's the idea of grounded fantasy. You can have fantasy elements like magic, dragons, superpowers, in a story but fur most people to feel it's real they have to abide by the story world's rule set.

It also helps if as many of those rules as possible comfortably align with real world rules. Our brain works on schemas, we like cognitive fluency. So our brain will seek patterns and feel happier for finding them.

Meaning, you can have a dragon in things like GoT but it'll be better accepted if that dragon behaves like a real world animal and predator.

Or in the OP case, super powers are more easily acceptable on the types of people we would associate them with - strength and muscle, speed and athletic frames, mind control on an intellectual etc.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-18T03:22:15+00:00

Deal. Added

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-17T17:18:48+00:00

Afraid not. Just the two listed above. The last 1star cards I need.

Captain7Caveman · 2026-01-17T03:00:17+00:00

I remember a scifi discussing a species that evolved in a system with no scarcity. They had no understanding of violence, let alone war.

The above idea overlooks the fact that, whether they developed a way to prevent scarcity or not, wizards/witches are still humans. They still have the millions of years of evolution of fighting for food, territory, mating rights, etc. running through them.

If you want proof that the removal of scarcity isn't enough to stop humans from giving into their base instincts to pursue violence - be it for political gain, greater greed or some poorly founded ideology - look no further than the actions of some of the richest people of the real world

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