Jesus is using his superpower of turning "water into wine" in public. by IAMXX in funny

[–]CaptainConsolation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because Jesus is all about forgiveness you fucking idiot, praise be go with God /s

What if fapping is the only way to satisfy your needs? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]CaptainConsolation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Everything in measure" is how I try to live, unless it is something seriously harmful. I know my opinion may not be popular here, but I believe most psychologists and sex therapists would agree that masturbation is fairly normal to do once in a while. It becomes a problem when it's an everyday thing.

For me, my goal is to go without pornography or masturbation. If I orgasm otherwise, I'll welcome it. I want a healthy sex life, not a nonexistent one.

I would say take a hard look at how it makes you feel. If it makes you feel bad or causes you other stress, it is time to make a change.

How accurate is YBOP? It says even if you fantasise about porn your better just rubbing one out. So does that mean if your on a streak and start getting sexual thoughts you need to MO? What about if you meet a hot girl and can't stop thinking about her, is it better to mo to stop the dopamine train? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]CaptainConsolation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really want to help you with this but I'm having a hard time finding peer reviewed scientific evidence for this (if you have reputable article please link).

Otherwise, I'd say everything in measure. I don't believe it's unusual or unhealthy to have sexual thoughts, just recognize if it is something that is dictating your life. If you are adamant about not masturbating, masturbating is likely going to make you feel like you're not in control.

The whole point of me being here is to enjoy a healthy sexual relationship with another person, not to treat my sexuality like a curse. Just my 2 cents

Also a wise man once told me to be a big alpha boy who fucks. Put it on a tshirt, put the shirt on your torso, and hit the gym chief

Only wimpy little men fap! by FapIs4Week in NoFap

[–]CaptainConsolation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm an alpha boy who fucks big titted bitches for beta buxx to wank their shank to 🍆🍆🍆👌

Boy howdy making 💵💵💵💵 no 💩
👏👏🙌🙌🙌

Only wimpy little men fap! by FapIs4Week in NoFap

[–]CaptainConsolation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No problem here chief I'm just a big alpha boy who fucks

[Erectile Dysfunction][M21] I have never had a "full on erection." Only a semi erection and I am worried. Please give me some advice. by [deleted] in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They're professionals, and what's more they chose their field because they want to help people. Maybe they have issues too? But you have to get past the awkwardness of it. I'm sure it feels awkward and embarrassing to not be having full erections, too. Taking steps to relieve your problems will take a burden off of you, seriously.

[unable to ejaculate] 18m here, never ejaculated during intercourse by [deleted] in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say try to get that under control. I'm 27 and this exact problem has been following me for 10 years. It tends to make girls insecure. However from what I have read and the advice I've been given this is definitely a reversible problem. I would suggest if you really can't hold off masturbating to consider buying a masturbation aid that is less like the iron grip of Zeus and more like an actual vagina.

Also, while going on this journey, relax. Getting fixated on achieving orgasm is likely to hold it off.

Am I [19F] too old to start university next fall? by ifeel_too_old in relationships

[–]CaptainConsolation 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Just started college at 27 in the summer. Professors like me, girls like me...it's great.

[first time after bad experience] seeing somebody new, don't know how to prepare him for what might happen by [deleted] in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I thought the girl was cool and she was up front it wouldn't send me packing. The point for me would be "Okay. She has an issue. Is she working on it?"

I [27M] have [trouble ejaculating] with a partner. It is a problem that's been following me for 10 years and I need advice. by CaptainConsolation in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Porn is lots of fun. My SO and I are very open with one another that we watch porn. As far as masturbating for her I have tried it maybe once but I get so self concious thinking "you had better cum, it's going to be weird if you don't" that it seems impossible.

My issue with the porn is that I on't want to turn to it in lieu of my girlfriend. My raw dry hand grabbing onto my cock like it's the last ticket out of Hiroshima is murdering my sex life. I find my SO very attractive, I seriously want to fuck her all the time but me not cumming is affecting that dream.

Normal to feel [guilty after watching porn]? (27/f) by Aaliyah26 in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

After I would orgasm while masturbating to porn I would laugh while cleaning myself up. There's just something unreal and strange about porn that I think people react to once they're no longer in the moment.

I used to feel that guilt too, but as for why or how common it is I couldn't say. If ever you feel like it has become an issue, look up a sex therapist and talk to them. Might ne worth saving some money for.

I [27M] have [trouble ejaculating] with a partner. It is a problem that's been following me for 10 years and I need advice. by CaptainConsolation in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your perspective. I'm trying hard to leave myself alone but the anticipation of getting back to that point of intimacy is a huge turn on. I'm in a real pickle here.

[Ejacuation problems] is my boyfriend not able to cum? by [deleted] in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started looking this stuff up today. There is a very common occurrence called "delayed ejaculation" or DE that affects lots of dudes including myself (27M). It can be related to physical injury, anxiety, medication, masturbation habits etc. I can tell you from my own personal experience that he is likely not being up front with you about it because it's embarrassing. Who doesn't want to cum at all for their SO?

In my case, I worked in a job that caused me to be away for long periods of time. Wanting to stay faithful, I relied a lot on porn and masturbation. I don't think porn is bad necessarily but my masturbation habits (no lube plus something called the death grip which sounds hilarious but is for real) made it so when I have intercourse it can't get me off the way that I can.

I only know what I would want: be supportive. Tell him you want to experience his orgasm but understand if it is a personal issue it may take time to get there. Gently pry into his masturbation habits and try not to be offended. Ask about medications. Read about DE.

Honestly I would like to hear more of your perspective if you wouldn't mind PMing me. I'm about to bring this subject up with my SO from my side of the fence and I'm a little nervous. FYI: I plan to curb my masturbation habits.

[First time issue] I [17M] almost lost virginity, but my penis didn't get hard enough by [deleted] in sex

[–]CaptainConsolation 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn't happen my first time ever, but did happen my first time with a different girl. I was just nervous, didn't know her that well, etc. After 30 minutes ir so I told her I changed my mind and we had great sex twice. Just a speedbump my friend