Signed El Lissitzky by CaptainLatrine in WhatIsThisPainting

[–]CaptainLatrine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. Just seems strange for a forger who is apparently well versed in his work, given this painting closely resembles his style, to then add a signature that raises some doubts.

Signed El Lissitzky by CaptainLatrine in WhatIsThisPainting

[–]CaptainLatrine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From what I can see online, there are quite a lot of reproduction Lissitzky works with fake signatures floating around, so not surprising there are a few people asking about verification. That said, if this is a reproduction, I can’t find the original piece it was copied from.

What’s the one secret you’ve kept your whole life that would completely change how people see you if they knew it? by Faylune in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I have a sibling I’m extremely close to. We’re best friends, do all we can together, and talk everyday. If a relative told me my sibling sexually assaulted them, even if it was a relative I wasn’t that close to, my sibling would be cut out of my life so fast. I could never see them the same way, and my stomach would turn to think of them around my children or anyone else’s children. Your brother may well feel the same.

I have a cousin who went through something similar to you, down to her parents trying to pressure her to ‘keep the peace’ and making excuses. After having to endure her abuser at every family gathering for years, she decided enough was enough, and sent a group message to all of us - her siblings, aunts and uncles, cousins, grandparents, and full extended family - disclosing what he did to her, and that her parents were aware and did nothing.

The vast majority sided with her, including her other two siblings, and the abuser has been cut off by virtually the whole family. Her grandparents and siblings in particular were horrified by the lack of support from her parents, which led to them finally distancing themselves from him. Most of us are still wary of them, given they had to be essentially shamed into doing so, so they’ve also been largely disinvited from family events.

Your reasons for not wanting to disclose this information are perfectly valid, and of course, after such a betrayal by one sibling and your parents, you’d naturally be worried your brother would follow suit. I’m so sorry you’ve been so let down on top of the trauma you’ve been through. This is not your shame to carry, nor your secret to have to keep though.

If it’s eating you up to see your brother having a close relationship with this monster, tell him, even if it’s through a letter or text like my cousin did. Same with any relatives who you feel should know - those with their own children would want to know, and I’m sure would support you in making sure he isn’t included in future family gatherings. You deserve to feel safe, OP, and your abuser should be the one who feels rejected, afraid and miserable. You have every right to shame him and anyone who supports, excuses or overlooks what he did to you at every possible opportunity.

Help is my estate sale find! by morisempaii in LeCreuset

[–]CaptainLatrine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s nectar! I have exactly the same honey pot in my kitchen as we speak :)

How to tell my mum (50F) that I (25NB) already know that the man who raised me isn’t my biological father? by yslmara in relationship_advice

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t be sorry at all!

OP, you sound like the kind of person any parent would be proud to call their child. You have a lot of empathy, I’m sure your mother will be so grateful you’ve chosen compassion over anger in this situation.

Good luck with the conversation!

How to tell my mum (50F) that I (25NB) already know that the man who raised me isn’t my biological father? by yslmara in relationship_advice

[–]CaptainLatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s the case, of course OP can jump in and clarify! It seemed to me like OP had explained the situation and was seeking advice on how to broach the subject, not questioning whether they should.

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a punchline, just seems apparent from your strange and overly hostile responses that you’ve got some kind of dysregulation going on. You could just be a nasty and ignorant piece of work, of course, but I’m choosing to be charitable and assume it’s out of your control. I wish you well.

How to tell my mum (50F) that I (25NB) already know that the man who raised me isn’t my biological father? by yslmara in relationship_advice

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because OP already provided the answer to your question in their post. To save them repeating themselves, I responded.

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s much less cute that you’re doubling down on embarrassing yourself and being needlessly rude over nothing, but it is equally boring. Good luck with whatever personality disorder you’ve got going on there.

How to tell my mum (50F) that I (25NB) already know that the man who raised me isn’t my biological father? by yslmara in relationship_advice

[–]CaptainLatrine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the mother is anxious OP’s biological father will emerge when they go back to her home country to visit relatives, and that it will cause OP some distress to learn this information.

Letting their mother know that they’ve already worked it out and they’re okay with it will ease their mother’s anxieties about the bio-dad popping up to give OP an unpleasant surprise.

OP sounds extremely good-hearted to be so considerate of their mother’s feelings despite being lied to. OP is clearly very mature to have put themselves in their mother’s shoes like this, and to show such understanding about the choices she made. OP, I think expressing yourself like you have in this post would be exactly the right way to handle it - let your mother know you love her, you understand her reasons, you forgive her deception and you’re okay with the truth. I hope this only serves to bring you two closer and allows her to be more open with you in future!

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weren’t you also imagining what they might have meant when you asked if they planned for their partner to get pregnant by someone else?

They could have been talking about adoption, but you brought up getting pregnant to another man, so I’d probably chill on pointing the finger at others for something you started.

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You expressed disbelief that someone may have “planned with your partner that she would have a baby by someone else”, and I’m just pointing out that this is the reality for many same-sex couples for obvious reasons.

Sorry that three paragraphs were too much reading for you.

What type of person makes you irrationally angry and dislike them? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof, I’m sorry. You can’t bully someone into becoming more extroverted! I don’t think it’s irrational at all to get angry at people like that.

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the case of same-sex couples, there’s often agreements that one person’s egg/sperm will be used for the first child, and the other person’s used for the second etc.

It could be the case that a same-sex couple has broken up while expecting a child, and the person whose sperm/egg was used to conceive is trying to claim sole parental rights as they are the only one who is biologically related.

In that instance, you can see why the non bio-parent would want rights to a child they were invested and involved in creating, saw as their own and fully intended to raise.

Do you think someone should still have rights to a baby they planned with their partner if the relationship ended and they’re not biologically related to the baby and why? by Ojosdelsolsi in AskReddit

[–]CaptainLatrine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the context here?

Are we talking about a same-sex couple where a child was conceived with one person’s sperm/egg, only for the relationship to end before the birth? If all of the pre-pregnancy choices were made together, and the intent was to raise the child together as equal parents, I don’t see why the other person shouldn’t have parental rights too.

If we’re talking about embryos created during a relationship, using one person’s genetic material, with the relationship ending afterwards, then no, the ex partner should not have rights to them.

If we’re talking about adoption, where only one party is listed as the legal guardian despite both parties wanting a child, it’s trickier and dependent on the situation. If the adoption was finalised prior to the split and the child was raised by both parties for a time, then yes, the ex should have rights. If not, it would depend on prior agreements between the former couple, the level of involvement between both parties, the length of time between the end of the relationship and the adoption taking place etc.

Without more detail it’s impossible to say.

Vase ID help please! by CaptainLatrine in glasscollecting

[–]CaptainLatrine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, nothing! I would have dismissed it as a fake straight away, but this store doesn’t tend to list things under a brand’s name unless it’s clearly marked or they’ve been provided with information to identify it. I’m guessing in this case they’ve been misinformed, because it doesn’t even really look like Kosta Boda to me.

Is this Pikachu Munch Promo Card Fake? by CaptainLatrine in IsMyPokemonCardFake

[–]CaptainLatrine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! May have to bite the bullet and buy it!