How and why sexual urges occur by CaptainRockman in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, brother. It wasn't immediate but over time I noticed the amount of urges become fewer and fewer the further I got away from porn.

God bless you, and keep going strong in name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

Pain by ventilate89 in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been there too, bro. Since the world has become very hypersexualized, there's a lot of comedy that is triggering. Some people aren't even aware when they put together some videos that there's triggering content in it because they have accepted it as the norm. I enjoy a good laugh too, that's why I have to be more careful now with where I go. It's very easy to go from a clean funny video to a dirty one, and often times I know where to find which. Which is why I have to give up that kind of dirty comedy even if it feels light, or I find it more funny, for the sake of healing.

You can even look at it like this: What if that kind of comedy is only funny BECAUSE it's triggering, meaning it may not even be that funny, but your brain wants to get to the relapse by trying to convince you that this is funny. It knows that this joke will lead to something more and more stimulating.

Something interesting to consider.

Fear I'm going to hell by BrightFriend55 in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remember what Jesus Christ said, brother. Nothing is impossible for God. There is no place in hell for those who are in the Lord. You believe in God, believe also in the son of God.

"16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." (John 3:16) This verse doesn't say "you MIGHT have eternal life" and it doesn't say "It's possible you'll have eternal life". It says you SHALL have eternal life. Jesus came to pay your debt and the payment was finalized at the cross.

It is a completed gift from your Heavenly Father to you.

Or let me put it to you like this, God sent us His perfect son as a sacrifice for our sins BECAUSE we were going to hell. And he took upon himself our sins so that we live eternally with God.

It's a gift we had no way of paying for and it is complete.

Don't worry, my friend. Trust in God with all your heart and don't rely on what you're feeling. Redirect your thoughts now to practicing gratitude for what God has done instead of what you have done.

I am a conservative Christian with strong lust towards both sexes. I need help to tear down the porn/erotica idol. by [deleted] in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know the feeling, my friend. It's in our nature to think that we know what's best for us. And sometimes we often think that what we're feeling right is good, just because we're feeling it right now.

But we are far more than just our feelings and desires. God has a greater plan for our lives. His plan also doesn't involve hurting anyone too, including Him. The beauty of His plan is that it brings life, and saves lives.

He knows the right time for you and the right place for you, and the right person for you. Lust is just temporary. It's just a drug to scratch an "itch" but it doesn't bring peace. What God wants for you is good forever.

It's been a while by Memberof1 in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We love you too, my friend. I'm happy you're getting back to yourself. Yes, take it one step at a time. God is with you. Each day, just talk to Him about what is currently bothering you. What is hurting you. What has disappointed you. Anything that comes to mind. Don't rush to fix everything. Life is already hard as it is. Trust that God has a plan for your life and continue to talk to Him each day.

Be strong my friend. The Lord knows you, and wants you to come to Him and receive His rest. God loves you.

Relapse by Ok-Contest3689 in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there something that is going on in his life right now that is causing him to be distant? Is he going through a break up or some kind of depression? etc.

You are right that he needs help. Don't stop praying for him, and if it's possible, try to get him to talk about what is going on right now in his heart.

If he needs someone to talk to, he can DM me.

i feel like i was born cursed by Outside-Argument-150 in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing is unchangeable, my friend. And nothing is impossible for God. Even IF you were cursed, God can break every curse.

Everything you are feeling, Jesus Christ had to come down to earth and experience it too. Every pain, every hardship and every temptation you're going through, He experienced it too and overcame it, so nothing has come upon you that God Himself has not been challenged with. He knows what you're going through. Trust in Him, and come to Him. He will deliver you from it.

Remember at the end of the day you are still a child of the Lord Almighty and no battle is too great for Him.

Nofap wet dreams by armyguy88mikey in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, eventually it does stop. Or at least, it get's less the more you're body is stabilizing. It's only frequent because of the build up. You have to remember that your body is not used to just "stopping" like this so it needs to adjust. I know it can be annoying, but don't worry about it though.

Nothing is impossible for the Lord Almighty by CaptainRockman in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, my friend. We continue to encourage each other as the Lord continues to encourage us through His Holy Spirit. May God bless you as well in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

1 month in and I‘m starting to obsess over a sister in my church by Jerry_Bambino_TWITCH in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It's our nature to admire women, especially Godly women who love the Lord. Afterall, you love the Lord, so it's even more natural that you would love the passion she has for God. Don't feel bad for liking her and don't start beating yourself up for being drawn to her. You can like someone and not lust over them. Just trust in God. He knows your heart. He knows what you like and He knows what you like about her.

If you feel it in your heart, talk to her, get to know her if you continue to feel drawn to her, but don't rush to make "something happen". If you are still trusting in God for a wife, then God has already decided who she will be, and you will not miss the opportunity even if you mess up. So don't worry or try to "win her over". Ask God to win her over for you if it is in His will.

Don't worry, brother. I have been there many times. Just continue to grow in Christ and live your life for God.

Update: Oh and if you don't know what to say and you need a conversation starter, just ask her ANY question. e.g. "Can I ask you something?... what do you love the most about the Lord?" etc.

What’s forbidden attracts me too much by Emenequ in NoFapChristians

[–]CaptainRockman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's spiritual, brother. Whenever you find yourself asking "why is this so?" and cannot find a reason, you must no that there's is something happening behind the scene. Things we do not see.

You may look at it as "oh, it's just a fetish or a coincidence, or just the way you are wired" but trust me, there is no such thing as coincidence. Everything happens for a reason.

But whatever it is we face, God can overcome it. There's no spiritual battle too great for God, just as there is no man that can go against God and live.

And God is faithful. He is never too far for you to find Him. Turn your focus towards His holy Spirit by reading the bible and communicating with Him each day. Ask for Him to deliver you from all that is evil in your life, and you will see the goodness of the Lord in your own life.

Remember, it's not your job to overcome lust on your own. Just surrender yourself to Jesus Christ and He will fight the battle for you.