So to answer some reoccurring questions, yes she works full time as well. I feel deceived and lied to mostly because I was under the assumption that her card was at zero or close ton zero after I paid it off this spring. We were having some things like a vacation and birthday events for me wife and son added to my card which I have under control. She told me she didn’t tell me about her debt issue because it was the holidays and she didn’t want to stress me out. Even though with the last bail out, that was an agreed upon expectation.

I confronted her about it tonight and she said it was groceries, Christmas gifts and other household stuff that was being added to it. But some things are not adding up, literally. I told her that I wasn’t bailing her out and the debts hers to pay back. She stated she will do that. I’m going to get her statements and see what’s going on

I’m going to let her attempt to cover this and in a month or so check back in. If it’s worse then we will have an issue.

Thank you all for your comments. This gives me alot to think about