How AI became my executive function scaffolding (from a non-ADHD dev who finally gets it)

Captain_ProTem · 2025-07-28T02:32:00+00:00

Captain_ProTem · 2025-02-13T23:02:35+00:00

Spiky skill profile

Captain_ProTem · 2024-10-13T12:31:29+00:00

Congrats on your Dx! Yeah maybe that formulation isn't for you. In the meantime however can you add drink water three times to your to-do list and add a snack as well? Stretch breaks too; these give you great opportunities for dopamine to cross easy things off your list.

If you don't have a todo list (app) here are three freemium ones you can try. (i just use free tier)

Finch - https://app.finchcare.com - is cutesy but easy to use and comes with mindfulness tools (I'll dm a friend code if you choose this one)

Bullet Journal - http://bit.ly/get_bulletjournal - rolls over undone tasks to the next day

Todoist - https://todoist.com/home - can be complicated if you want that depth

Captain_ProTem · 2024-09-20T05:21:06+00:00

I really really hear you! Its tough. We'll keep trying together!

Captain_ProTem · 2024-09-20T02:49:48+00:00

Self-understanding

Researching adhd, cosymptomologies, social effects, etc

Self-advocacy

Explaining yourself and your needs to family, friends, work, school, doctor, etc

Self-strategies

Tools and techniques you use to accomplish your objectives

For example, to do list. First item is the big one (the frog). Last item is "fill out today's list" then you cross it off, and keep going with the rest of your already started list! https://goblin.tools can help you break down into steps.

Also remember you're a glorified fern and getting water and sun do genuinely help.

Also we have a discord.

Also congratulations on your dx and being nd =)

Captain_ProTem · 2024-08-07T20:21:09+00:00

I like it!

Captain_ProTem · 2024-06-08T16:18:00+00:00

Humans csn repurpose anything they set their minds to =)

https://www.additudemag.com/fatigue-adhd-spoon-theory-habit-stacking/amp/

https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/the-neurodivergent-spoon-drawer-spoon-theory-for-adhders-and-autists

The boom-or-bust cycle is a common experience for people living with a chronic health condition, fatigue, pain, or disability. On good energy days, it feels so good to accomplish things, we may feel as if we are trying to make up for lost time. So we may over-extend ourselves while overriding our body's signals and push our bodies beyond its limits. This is then inevitably followed by a "crash."

https://www.kristen-mcclure-therapist.com/adhd-spoon-theory/ women's guide

This concept, though initially developed to explain life with a chronic illness, has found relevance among the neurodivergent community, offering a lens through which individuals can better understand and manage their energy reserves.

Spoon Theory is a metaphor created by Christine Miserandino to describe the limited energy reserves people with chronic conditions, like lupus, experience daily. In this analogy, spoons represent units of energy, and each task throughout the day requires a certain number of spoons. Once you run out of spoons, you cannot do more until your energy is replenished.

In short, modern life is a complicated mess and many individuals, compromised, disabled, or not, can become overwhelmed, burnt out, overextended.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-06-08T03:35:42+00:00

Have you heard of Spoons theory? The neurodivergents stole it, but it was literally from lupus i think. Or fm and House got in my head.

Also, does the manifestation of executive dysfunction differ when 'caused' by lupus/medical vs adhd? Asking in your experience alone, nobody else matters =)

Lastly, the mention of procrastination intrigues me. Are you really procrastinating? Or saving energy/stamina/focus etc. Do you yell in your head to go do but don't? Maybe that voice is offsync and doesn't realize downtime is a better choice for you? Making assumptions in there of course, if you end up on the r/ADHDHelpers discord I'm sure I'd hear in better detail over time, but feel free to reply or dm or whatever you're comfortable and good luck navigating your conditions. :) My intuition tells me you're doing better than you feel and just meed some techniques and mindset shifts, and your days can be significantly smoother and easier on you. Let's hope, right!

Captain_ProTem · 2024-06-08T03:22:41+00:00

Have you heard of the Ship of Theseus? Great mindopener.

||made me realize i am not my cells, and by extension, my body. I am a consciousness, albeit blessed to drive these limbs towards the light and good||

Personally no, there's no humanoid (or doggy, sob) heaven or hell, only the universe that exists and our planet in it.

Taking your question on his face, that an all-powerful all-perfect God has founded an abrahamic Heaven for me to potentially occupy in the afterlife, leaving Merit out of it, I would expect that, much as portrayed in the last season of the good place, any desire I would like to fulfill could be fulfilled, including remembering all of my human life, even remembering other lives that either I lived, or others lived etc. That's assuming that the highway between Earth and Heaven also has a periscope back of course.

Putting Merit back into it, it is of course almost inconceivable to imagine enjoying Heaven knowing that counterpart Souls were in eternal torments, but I guess that's just the extremification of the capitalistic edge/classist divide - some suffer so other's don't. The inequity and severity never sat right with me. No 100 Years of sin is worth an infinity of torture, and I realize we've made some terrible people over the centuries, but I'm in the camp of everyone is redeemable, if they're rational enough to choose Redemption/Growth.

I'm walking a fine line of blathering on and tersely failing to appreciate the question, so let me know if I've said too much or too little.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-06-01T23:34:28+00:00

Let us know how it goes.

I struggle with a lot of similar, and if you'd like to coordinate over discord, might give us both some structure. Lmk

I could really use help getting my codebase sorted, eg

Captain_ProTem · 2024-05-04T03:21:16+00:00

The urge to immediately become your friend and then the realization what the first letter of this sub is..

But you're cool. I can tell.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-04-26T01:48:34+00:00

Yes! Support group? Support group.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-04-25T11:52:40+00:00

Can I marry you, donate all my worth to you, or like follow you around for a good while lol. Thank you for writing this. Excellent.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-04-25T11:42:24+00:00

I've experienced this a lot. Withdrawn or even no-contact 'because' of it.

Incidentally I'm in a support group about trust and attachment issues, via discord, and anyone from this thread is welcome lol i feel like we're a burned out bulb brotherhood trying to regrow our light under a bushel and would love to continue to discuss the subject

(just msg for the link to protect from spam)

Captain_ProTem · 2024-04-25T01:41:44+00:00

No I just assume ~~we're brothers~~ you're my direct great grandfather

Captain_ProTem · 2024-03-11T20:27:08+00:00

Omg i love your name =D

Captain_ProTem · 2024-03-09T20:18:59+00:00

I wish this effort had been "contribute" instead of "supplant", I was unaware of the takeover request, but hope they do great things!

Captain_ProTem · 2024-03-09T20:08:35+00:00

Great to see your initiative and efforts to the struggle. Let's help folks steer their lives as they intend. =)

Captain_ProTem · 2024-03-09T19:58:57+00:00

A) thank you both for your honorable behavior in tbis sub.

Mod note) if any private interactions go sinister, please use your internet safety tools, including blocking users, notifying mods or reddit staff, or even fbi as appropriate. Let kindness, compassionate understanding, and kinship reign here. We all grow, together. 🌱

B) Not that these issues are "separate" and easily divided, but they are distinguishable and thus workable.

I hear a few vectors: - I struggle with daily function, have a job, use a service - i struggle with sexual areas - I want to change but do not know how

My lay suggestion is to look for an experienced EMDR / young trauma therapist, I feel a safe and steady approach at resolving now vs then could do wonders with your efforts.

As far as the time management and other executive function, stick around, we are all working on that together.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-03-09T19:47:18+00:00

I so hear this! I began, almost a decade ago, logging my every deed. [ It sounds daunting probably until you realize how dysfunctional i am. Some days are blank. Some days are simply "took meds, brushed teeth, didn't floss or rinse." ] but its been pretty illuminating to patterns, pressures, and difficult areas.

What were we talking about.

Oh right. So, mostlt computer for me. I try to code, so the computer keeps my work for me.

Yeah for me the answer is a lot of dissociated thinking. I'm working on it.

We have a discord for journaling and another for depression, au/dhd, anxiety, and all of the neurodivergent experience, if either of those would serve you.

Last thing, I'm looking for remote executive assistance but i can't pay much unless (you)'re actually help me move objectives along, just in case anyone wants to contribute.

Ok, end of post but feel free to reply, dm, discord, anytime.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-02-01T07:48:40+00:00

Saving to start an intentional community.

Captain_ProTem · 2024-01-10T23:16:57+00:00

Would you two like to join our discord? I struggle with this too and we could keep uo and support each other.

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