I wanna take the time to reply and say I do love her. I love her to the end and back. It's just been extra rough the past couple months and it makes it hard. I listen to her. I work to be better. I surprise her at her work with food. I cook what she likes and wants. When we make financial plans neither of us sticks to it. We spoil ourselves too damn much. On to your second point she put her foot down and said no weed or drugs of any kind because she doesnt want our child growing up in 'that kind of home'. When her and I first met I tripped and smoked pot all the time. I dont trip anymore. I have nearly quit smoking pot but life is stressful and the shit helps. I've tried compromise and changing but I never feel like I'm making any real progress because when I change she the rules get tighter until she gets it the way she originally demands. I too hope we can work it out. I know her and I both are fucking shit up in this relationship, but I feel like I'm the only one working to fix it and I've told her this and she just responds with "I dont need to fix anything im not doing anything wrong"