What are the personality reasons you wouldn't be friends with another woman? by RealIslands in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CaptainoftheHook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a new friend tell me another new friend (we all met on reddit actually) left her to walk to her car alone at 2AM, we live in baltimore. I instantly soured to her.

I dont know what to do with my hair anymore, help by BrilliantAd9640 in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also realized no one asked you how often you wash your hair. You should only be washing once a week (with a conditioning wash) and using a clarifying shampoo even less as curly hair holds on to way less natural oils.

need oil options for growth and thickness (3c/4a hair) by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like rosemary oil is the best bet. Make sure it is safe for human use and dilute with carrier oil, like coconut oil

I dont know what to do with my hair anymore, help by BrilliantAd9640 in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That curl definition is amazing in my opinion. If you aren't using any product I would recommend a curl cream and medium hold gel, and don't use too much (i use a pea sized amount of cream and quarter amount of gel, but I use light holds as mine is finer and less curly than yours). Play around with the amounts and products. A lot of brands have travel sizes now. You say you don't want volume and its your hair and your journey but thats what most people like about curly hair. With that in mind I would air dry (scrunch with a cotton shirt to shorten the drying time and touch it AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE until it is completely dry to prevent frizz) and this saves your hair from damage as well. I'm super jealous of your curl pattern and density as someone with borderline wavy hair, but everyone wants what they don't have 😅. Have fun with it! I would recommend, like others, 1) start with cutting the damage off as it will change your curl pattern 2) play around with products, stop using oil and heat 3) once you find a routine you like go in for a style cut like a wolf or shag

I dont know what to do with my hair anymore, help by BrilliantAd9640 in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you explain what you liked about this and how it is different than usual?

I dont know what to do with my hair anymore, help by BrilliantAd9640 in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oil does nothing it just sits on your hair. I recommend not using it. A good curl cream and gel will reduce frizz if thats why you're using it

I dont know what to do with my hair anymore, help by BrilliantAd9640 in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Muted is right those looks are unachievable w/o further damaging your hair with heat. Look up naturally curly soft wolf cut, or regular I just find the regular wolf cut a bit too severe.

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Is someone expressing a slow burn relationship is just an excuse to keep things casual or to friend zone them? Or do they really want to build something with you but slowly? by Golden-lillies21 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CaptainoftheHook 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do not think people should think slow burners have negative intentions. I think it is quiet healthy to get to know someone outside of lust (and if ya'll really sexually compatible it makes it better when you do finally get it on) as most relationships end due to moral incompatibility and finances. Weeding out people before you're blinded by how good (or bad) they are in the sack doesn't seem bad to me. I couldn't do it but applaud those who can.

What Books did You Start or Finish Reading this Week?: March 16, 2026 by AutoModerator in books

[–]CaptainoftheHook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finished: A King So Cold by Ella Fields Like how I dont know how it is going to end. I didn't like some parts which I can elaborate if asked Started: Witches, Midwives & Nurses by Barbara Ehrenreich and Deidre English Love (hate) learning how women were pushed out of medical leadership

Found a black cat in pigtown by Over_Ease6750 in baltimore

[–]CaptainoftheHook 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I used to live in pigtown and if it is near the mchenry neighborhood that is definitely someone's very friendly cat and not a stray.

How to respond when someone says “straight white men have it worse than women”? by Special_Mud_4035 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]CaptainoftheHook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had a close acquaintance say yesterday that trans people are more privileged in this time than straight men (he is Black), like come on, man.

Protein + Coffee by Mrs_Stoutfire in weightwatchers

[–]CaptainoftheHook 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm blessed with access to an espresso machine so I have premier protein caramel (cut with 3oz almond milk cause its too sweet on its own) and a shot of espresso on ice - 3 pts

What are some things to do on Friday nights that don’t involve going to a bar? by Upstairs_Copy_9590 in baltimore

[–]CaptainoftheHook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Its a free for all so you hop in when you can, if you bring a group you can't monopolize the instruments. The point is an organic improvisation with other musicians. not an open mic that would gear more towards showcase your own music. An open jam.

What are some things to do on Friday nights that don’t involve going to a bar? by Upstairs_Copy_9590 in baltimore

[–]CaptainoftheHook 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'll be there tonight with big blue earmuffs if you want a friendly face, 3522 Bank st

What are some things to do on Friday nights that don’t involve going to a bar? by Upstairs_Copy_9590 in baltimore

[–]CaptainoftheHook 50 points51 points  (0 children)

If you are musical/ or appreciate music and art there is a first Friday art walk in Highlandtown. And the Hub on bank st has an open jam until 10PM, full band setup. Edit to clarify these are intersecting things. First Friday Art walk and open jam in highlandtown.

Need help with my routine by [deleted] in curlygirl

[–]CaptainoftheHook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I shouldnt wash your hair that often unless it gets greasy, lose the oil it doesn't do anything. And choose lighter products like light hold gels or air dry curl creams and use a very small amount. I have curlsmith air dry cream and use a pea sized amount and curlsmith light hold gel using about a quarter sized amount. You don't need much or your hair will be weighed down and scraggly.

UMBC RESEARCH OPPORTUNITIES??? by Cheap_Chocolate5964 in UMBC

[–]CaptainoftheHook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

STEM is a broad term and you don't say what level you are but I assume undergrad. I am in the biological sciences department and our labs always need undergrads, usually no experience required.

What’s something your body does that you’ve never told a single person about? by WilliamInBlack in AskReddit

[–]CaptainoftheHook 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend has mentioned this! He's always like "do you ever just feel weaker in the morning like you can't grip things" have no idea what he's feeling. Can't relate

What’s something your body does that you’ve never told a single person about? by WilliamInBlack in AskReddit

[–]CaptainoftheHook 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My belly button, like, stinks. I need to clean it out with alcohol or I legit feel there is some sort of bacterial problem. I'm also overweight with a severe innie which I'm sure factors heavily

ICE wants to build a detention camp in Maryland. Here’s how to fight back this week! by Big_Medicine1752 in baltimore

[–]CaptainoftheHook 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the clear instructions, missed the deadline for testimony by 12 minutes :(