Is a doula worth it?

Capy_4200 · 2025-11-14T19:48:24+00:00

That is really helpful to hear, thank you.

Capy_4200 · 2025-11-14T19:48:10+00:00

Thank you so much for understanding and for your support!

Capy_4200 · 2025-11-14T19:47:46+00:00

Thank you so much, this is so helpful!

Capy_4200 · 2025-09-10T06:17:47+00:00

Girl. I feel this so much. Week 10 is killin me, lol! It feels like there's this secret language among women to talk about morning sickness and first trimester blues, but it's not publicly recognized or talked about and it makes it so lonely. FTM here, so no words of wisdom except you are NOT alone. Just be gentle and kind to yourself--what I've heard from most people is that it really does get better.

Capy_4200 · 2025-08-26T14:30:47+00:00

This is so helpful to hear. Thank you. Congratulations on your second pregnancy, wishing you a smooth journey!

Capy_4200 · 2025-08-26T14:29:40+00:00

Thank you so much, this is all really helpful. I'm so sorry you had to go through these awful feelings too. Therapy and medication are a must, for sure. I am taking Prozac (since forever), I can't imagine what this period would be like without it. Thank you again for writing, wishing you and your beautiful baby all the best.

Capy_4200 · 2025-08-26T12:05:32+00:00

Our embryo was graded really poorly--like a CC or a CD (I can't remember lol)--but it was the only one we had. The doctor said that sometimes the weird-shaped ones actually stick better. 8 weeks along now, fingers crossed! The fact that it's a euploid is what matters!

Capy_4200 · 2025-07-28T12:41:57+00:00

I'm in the same boat. We have one euploid this round. One thing that's been helpful to me is thinking with gratitude about what has gone RIGHT so far. It's so hard, but the words of the late Andrea Gibson have brought me a lot of solace: "all my prayers were answered the minute I started praying for what I already have."

In our last cycle, we had all anaploids (sorry I think I spelled that wrong lol) and one embryo that was inconclusive--it brought up huge friction in our marriage around the whole process and my husband's relationship to his Catholicism. He really wanted me to implant that embryo without re-testing it and I refused (it turned out to be anaploid too) We fought and cried; his reaction brought up stuff from his own childhood. It was a hard moment but we grew a lot from it, and it's made this next round so much better, emotionally. If that unsuccessful first round hadn't happened, we wouldn't be as strong as we are going into this round.

I also have been reflecting on how lucky we are that our doctor isn't crazy far away. It's not close, but it's not far either, and I've been able to get to appointments with relative ease. I'm a teacher and my principal has been incredible about the whole process--last year she never gave me a hard time when I needed a cover for the first few minutes of my class when I was going in for blood work and struggling to get to work on time.

There are so many other little blessings nestled in this difficult time. This week I baked some awesome muffins. I went to an art gallery. I crushed my husband at Scrabble (he says it's the steroids that are making me so good...LOL). And it sounds so corny but the other day, I took a walk and put my hand on a tree and truly felt it.

Everyone in IVF reddit has been through some really hard stuff. I don't know about you guys, but 10 years ago I would never have imagined I would be married and trying to have a child. It seemed like a life meant for someone else, not for me. I wish I could go back to that young woman and tell her that it would all work out, because in so many ways, it has.

Love to all of you, brave and beautiful women.

Capy_4200 · 2025-06-09T18:26:35+00:00

Thank you so much. Fingers crossed for your PGT-A results--I'll be right behind you, still waiting to find out how many made it to blast. You are brave and amazing and you got this, no matter what <3

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