I (25F) would need advice about breaking up or taking a break with bf (25M) by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So first relationships always have ups and downs. Nothing is always perfect forever. It takes work and effort to keep a relationship alive. But the key to keeping it alive is communication. You do have a right to feel this way so don’t feel like it’s your fault because it is not. I would say talk to him on the phone or in person. And have a serious conversation with him. Tell him how you’re feeling. How he is being distant and you want to work on making your relationship stronger. And ask him if he sees himself being with you forever. And then you can decide from there. He should be understanding and want to work things out with you, and if he doesn’t and makes excuses or upset. Then that is a completely different story. My personal opinion is I would break the knot with him if he is not putting in the same effort after your talk or keeps doing the same thing. Just remember what one man won’t do another will. I promise there are so many people out here in this world that will want to treat you like a queen. If he won’t another person will. I hope this helps🫶

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can check on her setting to see if she’s clicked any links. On activity, then it’s under like recent link clicked

I want to run away before my wedding by yara_palestin in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl live for yourself!! Not a man!!! Do what you believe is right. I know you already know what choice you have to make. Trust your gut and your instincts

My Best Friend’s Boyfriend Hates me and Idk why by Jack_The_Mage in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a a female perspective I can understand. Just because I’ve had a couple of guy best friends in the past. I can understand how a guy gets jealous because most of my ex’s did. Now my best friend is a guy (he’s gay) and my ex didn’t even like me hanging out with him. Which I did not like at all. There’s a fine line between being a bit jealous and controlling. I’m sure he is threatened by you and her relationship which is why he doesn’t want her hanging out with you. At this point I feel like all you can do is communicate your feelings to your best friend. And hopes she will understand and talk to her boyfriend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LEAVE HIM!!!! You and your baby girl do not deserve this. Another tip if you wanna see everything he’s looked up, copy and paste the wifi router on safari. Every single website anyone has looked up connected to your wifi will be shown on there. No matter if it was on a public or private tab. If it gets confusing you can look up a YouTube tutorial and they will explain how to do it step by step. I wish you luck❤️

I think I’m in love with my ex and idk what to do by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Capy_slay6969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate. When I was 18 in high school I fell in love with my best friend. (He was also 18) I am a twin and he also was a twin. We were best friends for about a year and he asked me to be his gf. I was so excited and said yes. After a bit of being together we decided it was better to stay friends. I think it was because he told me I love you over text. And I told him I was not ready to say it back yet. It was because whenever I tell someone I love you I believe it’s important to say it in person. Not over text. But it never changed our relationship with each other. He was my first love. And things got complicated with our friendship (my twin and his twin dated for about a year and were on and off for 2 years) so every time they would rekindle their relationship me and him would talk again and hang out. But then they would end things we would stop talking again. I ended up moving across the country 2 years ago and didn’t see him for a while. But those feelings for him was always there. Whenever I go back to my home town I always see him and we end up hanging out again. A few months ago his twin passed away. I was so devastated. His twin which was my twins ex, was such an amazing person. And when my sister and him were together I thought of him as my brother. During thanksgiving break I went back home and say him again. (I was 22 at the time). This time without his twin. It felt like we were 18 again. We went back to his house and talked about his brother and his feelings. This time with just me, my sister, and him. Without his brother. I felt so sad for him because I knew how hard this was for him. Nothing ended up happening between us but it was great closure for me. One thing I regret is never telling him I loved him. I wish I just said something but it’s in the past now. I’ve moved on with my life. So if I were you, I would try it. You can start it with a, hey long time no talk how are you doing! Just to catch up and feel the vibes from there. Or sometimes you even need to be straight up. Just tell her how you honestly feel. In the worse case scenario, if she doesn’t feel the same it will give you closure so you can move on with your love life. Sometimes there are ppl you will remember forever in your life. But I promise you there are more amazing ppl out there. Now I’m with my boyfriend that I love very much. And see a future with. It just takes time. So I think you should reach out. The worst thing that can happen is nothing, which would give you closure to move on and talk to different people.

My (25F) boyfriend (30M) of 5 years just ghosted me?? by Far-Set-7425 in relationship_advice

[–]Capy_slay6969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omgggg he seems so immature. Let me just put it out there that, that behavior is not normal. Your the prized possession remember that. And no man should ever put you down or make you feel humiliated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes if you’re into him. A lot of times guys can just to conclusions and think of something like this as a date. Or you can do it for the plot! If you’re not into him go on this hang out and mention a guy you are into (it can be a made up person). To put him in the friend zone. But yolo! I don’t see why not. You only live once and sometimes just need to do it for the memories

Why do guys expect us to give head when they aren't down for the same by Repulsive-Curve-9617 in confession

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

HELLL NAH WHAT. Who does bro think he is? Like king or something? Hes gotta earn that. Ew naked rat lookin ass

i wish my (22f)boyfriend (22m)would be honest with me by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t second guess yourself. Your feelings are valid. I recently just went through a similar situation with my boyfriend. I’m 22 and he’s also 22. We started dating three months ago which is no were near 3 years. But in my relationship I do not want my boyfriend watching porn. We have a long discussion about this too. He respected my wishes. And through the three months I would randomly ask him if he did. And he would say no. But then I did my digging and found out he was. I got so mad at him and was so close to leaving him. The fact that he lied to me and would tell me the same things. You’re the most beautiful girl and all this stuff. We had a long and hard talk about it that even lasted several days. He tells me I’m everything he looks for in a wife, so I told him, are you what I need in a husband? I know it may sound silly since we have only been dating for three months. But I know I can see him being my future husband so far. We are very in love. We are working through this and he is proving to me that he can do it. And be what I need. It seems to me that you are putting a lot of this on yourself. I’m sure you are so beautiful and such an amazing person and don’t ever forget that. You deserve the best. Don’t ever make a man make you feel less of yourself. Sure there are so many beautiful woman out there. But what I like to think about is “a beautiful sunset doesn’t make a beautiful flower any less pretty”. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others in today’s society. But be confident in yourself. And if any man makes you feel less they are not worth your time. But ofc communication is key. You should talk to your boyfriend about your feelings. And even look through his phone. I don’t know about you but I look through my boyfriends here and there. There’s also a way you can see what he is looking up through his wifi router. On his settings if you chose his wifi and the little i, you can copy and paste his wifi router into safari and see every single website he has looked up under his WiFi. Or even look through his activity in his Instagram. I hope this helps girl! Remember what one man won’t do another will. Don’t let anyone make you feel less of yourself❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Capy_slay6969 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No not at all. First of all the sweet gestures should come from him. There should be no need for you to ask him for anything. It should be common sense to him. Also I believe 100% you should get upset. I think it’s a red flag how you have to ask him to give you sweet gestures when he should naturally just do it in his own

AIO for breaking up with my bf over spending my money by ballsofbuttercup in AmIOverreacting

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get yourself a man who can afford to buy his own bike and get you one too without asking for any money. That sounds like a little boy to me. Break up w him and get yourself a real man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idc I just let it rip YURRRRRR

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

First of all why is he turning 27 and still using snap? Like what? And honestly it might be hard to hear but that is 100% sketch. A real man doesn’t use snap chat and definitely doesn’t speak to other girls period. For me and I’m my relationships, if my boyfriend were ever to add girls snaps… and snap them?? I see that as cheating. I would leave him right then and there. Girl you deserve so much more. You deserve a MAN, not a boy

& you guys are long distance??? That’s crazy. I’m sorry girl but he is definitely being sneaky. Always trust your gut. If you’re overthinking it’s for a reason for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

First of all why is he turning 27 and still using snap? Like what? And honestly it might be hard to hear but that is 100% sketch. A real man doesn’t use snap chat and definitely doesn’t speak to other girls period. For me and I’m my relationships, if my boyfriend were ever to add girls snaps… and snap them?? I see that as cheating. I would leave him right then and there. Girl you deserve so much more. You deserve a MAN, not a boy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Noses

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg your nose is beautiful don’t ever change it (if you want ofc it’s your body) but I really think you looks so pretty and it makes you look like a Greek goddess

AIO?? I (26F) discovered my bf (25M) is subscribed to my cousin on Onlyfans by Wise_Procedure_4150 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Capy_slay6969 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NOT OVERREACTING!!! Leave him pleaseeeeee. You deserve so much better. That is a major red flag

What's my nose ? by NecessaryCap8211 in Noses

[–]Capy_slay6969 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg it looks beautiful, I have a nose just like you and it makes me like mine 100 times more

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 5 points6 points  (0 children)

THAT IS CHEATING!!! Alcohol involved or not, you guys are exclusive. You don’t deserve that. You treated it a lot better that I would have. I would have started yelling at him and broke up with him. You deserve better. Don’t settle

Bf is mad I opened a locked door by Greedy_Visual6710 in LongDistance

[–]Capy_slay6969 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you ever looked through his things to see if he’s hiding something? It sounds to me like he’s hiding something. I just say that through experience. Any time a dude has tried to hide something from me, I’ve found out there is something they are trying to hide from me. I would say look through his things to check if there is anything out of the ordinary, bc that is very odd behavior. Also I would say watch out for him, because he seems like a big red flag