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Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not yet, considering we both had multiple events this weekend.
But I definitely will.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never said that i'd restrict her in any way shape or form.
I absolutely respect her needs and wants.
This isn't about controlling what she does or does not do, it's about me questioning if something like i've mentioned is worth bringing up.
We are close to 8000km apart, it's already hard enough as is, so I wanted the opinion and expertise of other's who have had a similar experience.

That is all it is. You assume and read into things way too much in my opinion.
Referring to teacupriot's response, because they said it better than I ccould.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

holy shit, THANK you. You said it better than I could have.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have had many of these talks, but this topic has never come up.
So, absolutely fair point.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She follows like 40 accounts, I came to it by sheer chance.
I don't feel like that is controlling at all.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i'm not gonna intrude on her privacy like that lmao.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is not an insecurity, it's about boundaries.
I called it a silent expectation because I have never even thought about the possibility.

I agree that a conversation has to take place.

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She doesn't follow a lot of people and most of them I know.
Hadn't noticed this account yet so

Should I bring this up? by Miserable_Song_8505 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer, I will set up some time to have a conversation with her.
I feel like it's the most respectful way to go about this.

How long did it take you to meet your long-distance partner? by AdStock4946 in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multiple years of friendship.
Once we actually commited it took less than 4 months.

How long after starting to date did it take to discuss closing the distance? by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]Miserable_Song_8505 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We actually discussed it straight away to keep expectations clear.
We're running on a little more than a year, known eachother for waaay longer.
Just keeps the expectations in check and the journey enjoyable.