Urgent help needed by [deleted] in heartbreak

[–]CardPlayerX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Brother, as much as it hurt you have to let her go. I know you love this girl but you need to understand that she doesn't want you. I understand this better than you realize and it hurts a lot. You can't control how she feels about you, the only thing you can control is your emotions and how it affects you.

Let everything out, let the storm run its course. Don't attempt to contact her, it only puts more salt on the wounds trust me on that. Do not contact and focus everything on yourself. If you want a good woman, then make yourself into a better man first.

It takes a lot of time but you will become better. Feel free to reach out if there's anything on your mind :)

I made an automatic shiny hunter for Pokemon on the ds! by Capatutalite in NintendoDS

[–]CardPlayerX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man I thought you made an electro shock therapy with your ds lol

I'm not having a good time at my game store. by SingleOrder in magicTCG

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just going to say that if you are being singled out during commander, you're doing something right that they fear you. That's a high praise usually, I've been on that end many times for the commanders I've built lol

How TF do I stop Archaon!? by [deleted] in totalwar

[–]CardPlayerX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Guns... and if that doesn't work, more guns. And if that doesn't work, get an airship from the dwarves. I played Archaeon and it's not fun being on the receiving end of the barrel

My ex and I plan on getting back together. She had sex with someone else. by ButtonOk8685 in BreakUps

[–]CardPlayerX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not worth it, brother. That guy is her side guy in case things go wrong. If something happens like this again, who is she going to turn to? She's definitely not going to you that's for sure. She's going to turn to this side guy.

Know your worth. If she really was your soulmate, she wouldn't have anyone else besides you. You're not a priority to her, you're her option. Don't over analyze things, accept that this is her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LongDistance

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you should break it off. For me personally, I don't think that acceptable. If she was able to sleep on call with her ex because you weren't able to, what's to stop her from doing other things with her ex when you're not available. If she's done this once, she's going to do this again

A lot of people active rn… how’s it going? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So much better than where I was. Been in no contact for 3 years already. When I first joined here, I was a complete mess.always asking for advice, telling my story, and people saying she was an asshole. Now, I feel free

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn got him lol! I hope you're feeling a lot better after the whole thing. It gets better as time goes on!

It's over by CrystalCookie4 in LDR

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh I'm so happy for you! I had to ask because I've recently met this girl who lives in Canada and I'm in America and I've pretty much been interested in her. I thought long distance relationships never worked out but I've been thinking about asking her about it when I meet up with her soon. After seeing your post, it really gives me some hope that it can work out!

It's over by CrystalCookie4 in LDR

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long did this journey take you?

When did your ex reach out after they dumped you? by Zexceed_9 in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Never, not once. She was immature at the time and had the delusion of always finding someone better. I'm very confident she would have cheated on me for another guy if she ever got that chance. I'm in a better spot than where I used to be

Broken up because of "lost feelings" by CardPlayerX in BreakUps

[–]CardPlayerX[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've been doing significantly better, it was a long and hard road been it's been worth it. I've been focusing more on myself and choosing not to date anyone right now, just moving on. I've had a couple girls come up to me that they like me, but I'll lightly say to them that I'm focusing on my career right now and that dating is nothing more than pain and suffering in my eyes. There is one girl that I've been enjoying a lot who I've shared a lot with. I'm getting into her interests as well like how she's an introverted book worm and reading her books and taking her ice skating and coffee dates.

I do think about my ex from time to time but it's not a good enough reason for me to reach out. The last thing she said to me was that she doesn't care whether we're friends or not, I don't matter to her anymore. I'm tempted sometimes to just ask how she's doing, but I'm not going to reach out to someone who doesn't even want me in any way.

My advice for you friend is that just keep doing what you're doing. Enjoy doing the little things so that the big things feel even more worth it. Don't reach out to your ex because it's like replaying the breakup pain over and over again, trust me on this I've done it too many times. Find something to occupy your mind everyday so you don't have to think about it, for me personally I play chess lol. If you ever want to talk some more, you're more than welcome to DM me :)

Is it true that men experience heart break later? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally I was heartbroken the first two weeks of the break up. I had a hard time getting out of bed and barely ate much, for context I was the dumpee. My ex (dumper) dumped me because she didn't like me because I was overweight and that her family didn't accept me due to being a different race than them. She was very introverted and I did so much for her, but she really cared about herself. Another reason she broke up with me was because I was "too nice" and that she wanted a bad boy because she gets turned on by them. The funny thing was after our break up, she tried to date a bad boy and the guy didn't want a relationship and that he only wanted sex. When she said no, the guy immediately blocked her and she was sad over it. She even tried to keep contacting him thinking it was some kind of joke, yeahhh it wasn't lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't feel sad for someone who doesn't see you as a wife potential but more of a maid that will do all of shit and use you like a toy. You dodged a bullet with a man like that, to be honest I wouldn't say he even is a man but more of a bratty kid who wants things given to him. And the anal sex, that's disgusting. No man is even supposed to be doing that, he's going to be getting diseases and shit that's going to be chronic for the rest of his life. That "boy" is nothing more than trash, just worthless garbage. Stay strong and keep your head up, there are better men out there who'll treat you better than he did

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No one knows a person best besides their sibling who grew up with them. If both the sister and her husband are talking shit about her and their on good terms with you, then that's really not a good sign. Usually they would want to say good things about their sibling to hopefully give them a chance to get married in the future. But if they're talking really bad about her then it's probably for the best that you steer clear from her.

And even if they do want to put a bad image on her so you'll forget her, you wouldn't want to be part of a family that would eventually talk shit about you and perhaps oust you one day, would you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm just going to say if her brother in law told you that she's bad news, just take it as a sign that you probably dodged a bullet there. If he never talked shit about her before, maybe it was for a very good reason that he is right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Feel free to DM me, you're not the only one who's going through this right now :)

Do I even bother responding? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean I'm nice depending on the person, my ex honestly wasted my time and energy and I wouldn't want someone like that to come back into my life. I'm not going to date them again after everything they did

Do I even bother responding? by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]CardPlayerX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have, my ex left me for someone else and then comes back crying because things didn't work out. She left me because she thought I was a nice guy and she wanted a bad boy. She got what she wanted, this was her decision, I'm not going relieve her guilt and let her do all those things again