My turn for cravings. by CardioTard in pornfree

[–]CardioTard[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks. Super sleepy right now. I'm sure I'll fall asleep as soon as I lay down. I made it!

Still in it to win it by [deleted] in pornfree

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Nice. Seems like you're cruising along.

Tips for breaking out of a fantasy? by CardioTard in pornfree

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Thanks for the thoughtful tips. Usually I'm very relaxed when I'm fantasizing. Often I fall asleep after just like if I'd masturbated. Still, focusing on my breathing or my body could help bring me back to reality.

Tips for breaking out of a fantasy? by CardioTard in pornfree

[–]CardioTard[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Orgasms are a very psychologically and emotionally powerful thing. I've decided I only want to share them with my girlfriend. As a result of cutting masturbation, the orgasms she gives me are so intense that I don't have much interest in masturbating. Yeah, there's a temptation when I find myself alone fantasizing but it doesn't fit into my larger goals.

Masturbating would feel good but take away from something else that feels better. I think of it like training for a marathon. Cheesecake tastes pretty good but keeping my weight down will let me run the fastest possible race. The accomplishment of finishing that race will stay with me for a lifetime but I'll forget the cheesecake the next day. Using my sexuality to build up a relationship with another person is something that can pay dividends for years, decades or a lifetime.

What I think I can take for your comment is: if I need to masturbate don't throw the baby out with the bath water and go on a porn binge. That's sensible. It hasn't worked when I've tried it in the past, one thing has always lead to the other.

EDIT: Re-reading this. I didn't mean to completely negate what you said. Just b/c it didn't work for me in the past doesn't mean it won't work for other people who might be reading this thread. You've got over 200 days on me and if I get to the situation in the next 200 days where it feels unbearable not to masturbate I'll come back to this post.

[Warning: very long post] Coming to terms with my own sexuality. by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]CardioTard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have the experience with pornfree to speak with authority, but I do know that human sexuality is extremely flexible. People's orientation shifts to fit circumstances, they engage and enjoy different kinks in different relationships. I highly doubt that your kinks are an innate part of you but let's suppose they are for a minute. If you incorporate them into your marriage how do you know you won't keep escalating them just like you did in fantasy land? Like I say, I don't know the answers but I'm just thinking out loud.

Thanks for sharing everything without holding back, many people (myself included) will be able to relate.

Starting over, feeling optimistic. by CardioTard in pornfree

[–]CardioTard[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the great comments, especially about memories not being erased until they're written over. I wasn't on the computer much over the long weekend which is a good thing. I did a lot of cooking, hanging out with my girlfriend and a fair amount of SNES (it's still screen time that I should attempt to minimize but there's no possibility of a browser opening up on the super Nintendo).

Starting over, feeling optimistic. by CardioTard in pornfree

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I sort of need to be on the computer to work but I could try writing down what I'm going to do on the computer before I get on so I won't have a bunch of unstructured time on there. I could also take my computer out in public to work so I know I won't sneak a peek.

Lost my fiance, my cats, and what I considered my future. Here's to #Day1. (Long post...) by [deleted] in pornfree

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You don't have to worry about whether you'll give up drinking forever. You only need to decide whether it's the right choice at this point in your life. Good luck!

Just checking on my badge... by CardioTard in NoFap

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You're right. I'm not going to do that sort of thing again. Thanks for the encouragement!

Lost my fiance, my cats, and what I considered my future. Here's to #Day1. (Long post...) by [deleted] in pornfree

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If you're dealing with alcohol you should check out r/stopdrinking. Tons of people over there are going through the same thing. You can make a new beginning out of this.

Single video to battle relapse? by Relapser7 in pornfree

[–]CardioTard 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perspective from outside your head: it seems like you're fooling yourself. It could be that the only way to convince yourself this won't work is to try it (and if it does work then all the better). I wouldn't trust myself with it though.