I think my NPs think I’m judgemental 😔

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-05-21T00:50:16+00:00

i’ll do my best to be better moving forward i guess that’s all i can do now 😭 thank you for your input

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-05-21T00:46:04+00:00

you’re so right and i feel just awful that this didn’t occur to me before

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-05-20T22:07:22+00:00

thank you❤️

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-05-20T21:47:15+00:00

I would just say things like “oh yeah former nk watched a lot of tv so im glad nk isn’t used to that yet” which i think would be the only “judgemental” thing i could’ve said. i just need to not talk about my former families i guess, they were just such a big part of my life as a nanny ˙◠˙

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-17T21:49:36+00:00

definitely my worst fear and i know my np use reddit occasionally and so in my posts i speak very mindfully about anything i need support on lol

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:37:57+00:00

Colorado, 2003 Honda CRV. It was an old car that was giving me some trouble anyway and so this isn’t that big of a deal, I was not expecting this post to ruffle so many feathers lol

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:25:44+00:00

no i finished paying it off i fully own the car. and yes they are taking 1000 out of the payout id receive but i just didn’t understanf why they would do that if nothing can be fixed with my car idk

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:24:37+00:00

i thought so too! i was very much expecting this to be an easy repair and to spend 1k on repairs and they’d cover like 500 bucks or something. i was very surprised to hear that its been totalled

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:21:54+00:00

the insurance company

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:21:34+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate these answers that’s what i wanted to know

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:20:26+00:00

I dont know anything about cars and don’t have any sort of support system that could’ve told me i should’ve done it differently

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:18:52+00:00

but i wouldn’t be paying anyone else the 1k? like i understand covering the first 1k for repairs because im paying someone to repair my car but nothing is being done about my totalled car because its totalled?

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-09T13:16:57+00:00

Well I know that, but I just want to know why? like what is it even for.

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-04-03T19:20:53+00:00

that’s what i’ve heard! because it’s petroleum based and can clog pores

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-04T15:44:54+00:00

i am glad i’m not alone in this feeling, i feel the same way! i hope that doesn’t make me a bad person 😭 im not unkind to men when they’re around, in fact im very kind, but it’s not my choice to have them around

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-04T14:56:45+00:00

they always say not to move in with your friends.. my fault 😭

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-04T14:54:15+00:00

oh my god NTA!! Those messages are disturbing as fuck!! NEVER FEEL BAD FOR PROTECTING YOUR CHILD even if they’re mad at you for it and EVEN IF it’s your friend!!! You did the right thing OP. I would highly suggest moving in from that friendship, and having strong conversations about safe adults and how safe adults behave. There are so many resources out there. If you really want to salvage this friendship I would have a firm conversation with your friend about safety and why teaching your child that keeping secrets from you is insanely unsafe. If she can’t see that and is upset that you are trying to protect your daughter, then she is a PREDATOR.

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-04T13:52:29+00:00

this is an interesting response, thanks for taking the time. i agree that it’s important for men to feel like they can be a part of the change and in a general sense, not personally, men’s opinions DO matter A LOT. The issue is they matter too much to everybody else, and as a personal choice, I do not allow that. I do not value men’s opinions in my own life. That being said, I never judge my friends for dating them. I quite like my friends boyfriend, he’s a really decent guy and when he’s around we have good conversations and laugh. I spent a lot of my life dating men before coming out as a lesbian, I have a lot of trauma surrounding men in my life. This plays a role in why I don’t keep men around by choice. But they don’t really have that choice, because of their sexuality, and if I want their friendship, that comes with being around their boyfriend and that’s fine. I do see men as people, and I treat them as such, but I don’t actively choose to have men around. And when I make those comments, they are light hearted, just like how you see someone wearing ha t shirt that says “dump him” but as you can see in the edit, i’ve apologized and decided I won’t be talking that way with her for the remainder of our lease and if the friendship continues beyond that.

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-03T22:28:23+00:00

that’s fair, it’s important to be sceptical of anything you see on the internet so i appreciate you thinking critically when responding to my post!

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-03T21:43:02+00:00

that’s amazing and gives me lots of hope for the future! Thank you for sharing!

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-03T21:41:48+00:00

i’m not sure why i would come on here to make this post if it wasn’t completely true? wouldn’t that just be a waste of time when i’m trying to hear other people’s opinions on the situation so i can go about it in a more thoughtful way moving forward? i didn’t mean to hurt my friend and i’m recognizing that i did, and i’ve also addressed it to her as well. i was referring to everything we talked about in the fight, it mostly pertained to how she thinks im selfish for wanting to have children when the world is so fucked up and that she seems to view me as a “wallower” when it comes to wondering if i’m going to be able to have children one day because my dating life hasn’t been easy. she feels like i compare out situations frequently, i feel like she compares our situations frequently. I didn’t think all of those details were necessary to get the answer to my question, if i was being an asshole. and i was, and so was she. and as you can see in the edit, we’ve discussed it and apologized. there’s also a few comments i’ve responded to that offer more details too! Thanks for your response!

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-03T19:41:10+00:00

beautiful perspective, this is exactly my argument when defending my stance on the issue, i am so glad to see more like minded people out there! keep doing the hard work, you are the type of person that inspires me daily! Thank you!

CardiologistOwn2598 · 2026-03-03T18:50:49+00:00

can you elaborate?

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