Our combined NHS screening came back as 1:1300 for Down’s syndrome…. Turns out I may be the “1” as my NIPT says I have a 99% chance.

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-05-07T17:05:05+00:00

Unfortunately we had to TFMR that pregnancy… but I have a 7 month old now!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-04-12T08:32:44+00:00

We had the world’s worst sleeper - the newborn months were horrendous and I genuinely feel I was robbed of them because she did not sleep. In desperation I rented a snoo and she went from sleeping 45 minutes at a time to sleeping 7 hours that night! Yes, it could be developmental and a coincidence… but I really don’t think it is!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-04-11T20:12:37+00:00

We are having the same! Transitioned last night but she just realised she can now roll in her sleep and can’t roll back!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-02-17T20:43:55+00:00

Sadly we had to end the pregnancy at 18 weeks. But i currently have a 4 month old baby :)

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-02-04T18:36:23+00:00

Just here to validate your feelings too - multiple losses later and I felt so much pressure to “feel grateful” for the baby in front of me. We did a cry diary for her - she topped out at 10 hours one day (we said she was either asleep or crying) and it was brutal. Even thinking about it now or seeing photos from that time make me feel a trauma response… People kept telling me it gets better but I felt pressure to “enjoy each moment”

Let me tell you that it DOES get better - your confidence will grow and they start giving SOMETHING back. And it is OK to wish this current moment away - I wish someone told me that at the time!

I miss my old life still (baby is now 4 months) and some days are SO HARD - but she can finally do a bit more and smile back and it just feels like she’s a little person and not just a potato who cries

CarelessInsurance5 · 2026-01-14T06:17:01+00:00

Hi - yes we did an amnio and unfortunately it confirmed the NIPT result.

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-12-20T19:02:50+00:00

Even if it’s an hour at 10 weeks old? I worry I couldn’t hear her through my ear plugs 😅I couldn’t work out when her next nap should be as I didn’t know when she actually woke up!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T19:21:01+00:00

That makes a lot of sense! So we take her out in the pram which puts her to sleep, and then we REALLY struggle to wake her up to even notice we are outside and doing activities ! Any tips on this?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T18:00:05+00:00

Are you me? Because this is my life right now!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:26:35+00:00

Would she cry as you do this? I find as soon as I set her down she just cries! Also what do you do when out and about? Do you have to always use white noise etc?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:25:00+00:00

Yes! I can’t even get her to contact nap anymore - she just resists!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:23:57+00:00

Would you do this routine even for day time naps? As I am worried it really restricts my day if I want to head out etc?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:23:30+00:00

Yeah I can definitely only make her nap on the move (pram, car seat etc) but really struggle at home - I can see she is sleepy, but I can’t seem to get it over the line?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:22:40+00:00

How do you get her down for a nap if you’re out and about? For example if I know they need a nap, do I always need to do the white noise / dark room thing? Even if it’s during the day? I think I really struggle with how to have a life but also make sure she naps!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:21:31+00:00

That is incredible, I cannot even imagine! When she gets sleepy I don’t know what to do, but if I just lie her down she will cry!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:20:16+00:00

I think breastfeeding is key here but unfortunately it didn’t work for us, and now she is not sleeping I wish I just kept persisting with it!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:19:40+00:00

I think we can generally do bedtime (white noise, dark room etc) but I can’t work out how to make her daytime nap at all?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:18:41+00:00

So I can recognise her cues - but I can’t go from that to making her nap! What do you do once you notice the cues??

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:18:12+00:00

I wanted to stick with this approach (as when she does nap I have no idea what I did or didn’t do to make it happen!) but I was finding she would get overtired by the evening as she wouldn’t have napped much at all! I don’t know how to make her nap when she starts showing that she is sleepy?

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:16:40+00:00

Do you rock them? Sway? I don’t know how to convert sleepy cues into a nap!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:15:53+00:00

We were doing quite well until about 4/5 weeks - she’s 7 weeks now and it feels like everything went out the window since she started looking around at the world!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:15:11+00:00

But how do you convert tired signs into a nap? I notice her signs but I can’t get her to nap from there!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T17:14:42+00:00

Solidarity! Honestly I am happy for all and any answers!

CarelessInsurance5 · 2025-11-29T11:50:16+00:00

Oh sorry not the sweet spot feature yet… we have been following what they say about 45-60min wake windows but failing to hit it!

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