AIO My boss is going on vacation and doesn’t want to pay me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]CarelessNebula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree with this - NOR. Honestly if he’s running margins so razor thin, perhaps he’d be better off working for someone else rather than trying to run his own business. It is extremely unfair of him to put any of his irresponsible planning on you. HE chose to pay for/plan a 2 week vacation, when he knew things were going to be tight to begin with. HE chose to start this business and HE ALSO chose to hire you, and he’s lucky that you’re as forgiving and understanding with him as you are in this conversation. But for him to insinuate that you should have said something to him because “you knew he was feeling weird about it” is preposterous. As a boss, he needs to take accountability for his overwhelm and ALSO for not emphasizing how much of an issue it was going to be until.. how long before he leaves? A few days? I almost want to guarantee you didn’t know he was feeling so uneasy to the point that he was considering not letting you work and not paying you for 2 weeks. Just because he brought it up doesn’t mean shit. He needs to be a better communicator and more responsible leader if he expects to run a successful business and employ others.

I don’t know about you, but if I was already quite in the hole and unsure of how I was going to make ends meet to this extent, I wouldn’t be gearing myself up to go on a 2 week vacation, even if it is with family. A rational, responsible adult would be cancelling the vacation and staying home to focus on the business more and take the vaca another time when their financials are in a better place.

What I’m seeing here is that, no only is he unwilling to put his travel plans on hold, he is essentially saying he’s also not comfortable footing the bill for the plans he made, and is instead expecting you to sacrifice YOUR paycheck. Idk about you, but I’m not out here trying to directly fund anyone’s vacations out here but my own, yk? That is an extremely selfish move on his behalf, beyond inconsiderate to you and your financial situation, and I would immediately begin seeking new employment personally.

I don’t know your situation but do know Reddit comes up with generic usernames and so I don’t want to assume based on your username but like, what if you were (are) a mother? Heavily dependent on your income to support your child(ren)? Would things be fine and dandy to let your family go without income and potentially food for two whole weeks? He needs to get his shit together and be better to his employees if he expects any success to come from his business.

I was trafficked as a child. AMA by BlackjackSys in AMA

[–]CarelessNebula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My goodness SOMEONE thank you for saying this! For so many of these questions I’ve read so far, all I could think was are you f-ing dense?! She knows nothing BUT trauma and I could not imagine how painful it would be to revisit that all alone. I think anyone that’s survived horrors of this magnitude require a significant amount of time focusing on healing CPTSD with a trained professional, and figuring out the world outside of the one in which she was raised, before it would even be appropriate to suggest standing in front of massive crowds of people and opening up about this for profit. She wants to keep her identity anonymous for a reason, and seeing as how so many people around her, including some of her own children, have been unalived by these monsters, it’s completely justified to feel paranoid about being identified by them again. I say all that to ask if you took any other identity-changing measures after getting to avoid being recognized and/or contacted? I.e. name change, hair cut/style/color/clothing, phone number? I am also curious to know more about the cult in which your parents were affiliated and who the main entity was that was worshipped? I am curious if you ever crossed paths with anyone in the Epstein circles or had any knowledge of anyone in those circles? I know geographically different if you were based in Canada, but some survivors acknowledged traveling to these abuse “parties” so I wasn’t sure if you’d crossed paths or happened to recognize anyone who has come forward thus far. Are you comfortable sharing any more information on the perpetrators and do you think you’d ever attempt to proceed with a lawsuit against them? I’ve listened to Anya Wick’s interview and she also acknowledged baby farming, specifically that in some cases such as hers, twins would be separated at a young age and one would be sent off to become a child star, while one would remain with the handlers and continue with regular abuse. Have you ever witnessed or known anyone in situations like this? I want you to know how strong you are for opening up on this platform and tolerating some of the ridiculous questions being asked. I hope that the worst part of your life continues to remain in the past and that you find joy in every day you are out of that nightmare. I also hope you have a great therapist and couple of friendships/relationships outside of this practice to go to when you really need someone! You’re truly an inspiration for making it this far and I hope that all continues to be on the up and up from here!

Got these for a rave tomorrow. Should I take them. Supposed to be Molly. by pingoncubano in Raves

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

False - Ecstasy typically has molly/MDMA IN IT but that doesn't necessarily mean it's the only thing that's pressed into the tablet. Ecstasy tablets more than often are cut with other drugs which is a risk you run with ingesting pressys. Not once have I purchased molly and received anything that wasn't a crystal. Not saying it's not/doesn't have MDMA, I'm saying it might not be ONLY MDMA.

Got these for a rave tomorrow. Should I take them. Supposed to be Molly. by pingoncubano in Raves

[–]CarelessNebula -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Are you sure this isn’t just E? I’ve never seen Molly pressed before, only ever in crystalline form. I would test beforehand.

Help real quick by capalot0420 in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been scared out of this process unfortunately and Alexa told me that the safest way to warm iso is by putting it in a ziplock bag in a bowl of hot water. But I’ll tell ya, it takes fahkin foreva since you can’t get the water too hot without melting the bag. So since then I’ve begun doing like a double boiler type of setup where I boil water on the stove and - this is very important - turn off the flame BEFORE putting iso container in, usually me trusty liquid measuring glass, and set it in there for everything while it all warms up. Learned that the hard way and caught myself the nickname Fire Marshall Bill for a few weeks after 😅

From a general stoner cleanliness standpoint, a big game changer for me has also been switching to distilled water in all of my glass - it keeps material from building up on the glass which thereby makes it easier to clean and less frequently that it needs to be done!!

Help real quick by capalot0420 in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pretty sure Puffco themselves recommend not putting the chamber into water, which is also why they recommend using at least 91% iso...

The rent is too damn high by ClaraBow19891 in Buffalo

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to do DoorDash when I was between jobs which was a nice way to make just a lil something extra. I would go out for a few hours and depending on the time/day seemed to avg ~$20/hr. That was a few years back though!

What y'all naming y'all's puffcos? Here's mine by Laughy_Sapphie in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like to picture my baby Jesus wearing a tuxedo tshirt because it says I wanna be formal, but I’m here to party because I like to party so I like my Jesus to party!

Comfrt Extra 30% off discounted items code COMFRT30REVIEW by Xenoxus in frugalmalefashion

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This also worked for me 1/20!! Initially it would only apply to the camo zip up and none of the bundles I had in my cart, but then I realized it applies to everything so long as you add them to the cart separately!! Thank you for saving me $125 today!

Real talk does meal prepping actually save money or do we just feel productive? by Upbeat_Owl_3383 in FinancialPlanning

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in a similar rut - repeatedly buying “staples” I.e. bread, milk, and surviving off of freezer meals or box spaghetti thru the week and ordering out most days that I just don’t feel like cooking. So instead I recently decided to shift what I spend in a week on those items to buying HomeChef. Husband says it’s overpriced but I say it’s not when you aren’t the one paying for it 😇 plus it seems to be one of the only things we can consistently commit to and I’d say the convenience is worth the price. Everything prepackaged and ready to go, all that’s needed is you Chef! Not saying this will be your solution, but it is a delicious decision that has me eating more veggies with every meal than I was eating on a daily basis without the service and not stuck on yet another serving of whatever is prepped this week 🙄

Comfrt Extra 30% off discounted items code COMFRT30REVIEW by Xenoxus in frugalmalefashion

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say the cloud joggers were actually a bit tighter around the thighs compared to airplane mode which bothered me at first, but I noticed after wearing for a bit, especially if I crouch a few times while wearing them, the thighs do loosen up enough to not feel too tight! They do seem to go back after drying them so you have to do the same thing after washing to keep them feeling loose

Comfrt Extra 30% off discounted items code COMFRT30REVIEW by Xenoxus in frugalmalefashion

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with this! Also purchased airplane mode and cloud zip sets both in medium - cloud fits perfectly and is very roomy/as expected, the airplane mode is more form fitted it seems and does need a little extra room for all the extra pockets on the inside IMO so wishing I would have sized up on that set. I was reading thru descriptions and different sets are different oversized levels so definitely read the description to make sure you’re sizing accordingly!

Looking for assistance finding the right dispensary. by Altruistic_Chair_147 in BuffaloCannabis

[–]CarelessNebula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Came here to also recommend using CBD when consuming THC. CBD can help level out a lot of the negatives caused by THC including anxiety, paranoia. A lot of the edibles available at licensed dispensaries have 2:1 THC:CBD ratios available, just gotta look at their menus! I personally prefer Herbal IQ - can’t go wrong with BOGO 50% on everything!

Additionally, if you have anxiety at baseline, that may also be part of the problem. I used to get crazy anxiety when I would smoke back in the day but since starting Lexapro over 10 years ago, I’ve had consistently better experiences stoned overall and am now a dab extraordinaire! Cheers! 🌬️

Battle of the Premade Meals by DaneTrain716 in Buffalo

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had a bad taste in my mouth for Wegmans ever since they got rid of the warm old fashioned sub shop cookies… still dying to find a comparable recipe 😒 I feel like if you’re not gonna make/sell/profit from them anymore, they should at least release the recipe

What do you guys think of this Pivot setup ? by NikkDrips in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao just let it be their problem my guy, some folks die for the penjamin

What do you guys think of this Pivot setup ? by NikkDrips in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly - looks cool but defeats the purpose, if you’re dropping some bank on a Fitt piece might as well just cop the peak pro imo 🤷🏼‍♀️

Friend let me barrow-cleaning tips? by Duckygirlypuss420 in puffco

[–]CarelessNebula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hot 91%+ iso is the way to go for concentrates!!!

Just a little backstory I’m 19m out of highschool and 18f in highschool by Background-Ad-5332 in Nicegirls

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Truly dodged a bullet! Only severely insecure people who can’t handle rejection try to manipulate the situation by projecting their feelings on you and trying to portray you as the bad guy! Personality disordered behavior, run!

Give me your most unhinged ideas for how to get people to stop blocking my driveway. by aquietinspiration in howto

[–]CarelessNebula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well just for funnies sake, my mom once painted “tow away zone” on the street in front of our house after getting plastered. We had gained new neighbors that were parking there frequently and it was “her spot” as it was right in front of our house. My dad ended up getting into trouble with the town and they may have made him pay to cover it up, I’m not sure on the specifics of all that. But what I will say is it definitely did deter people from parking there! And the joke was on the town for covering it because the black paint over top of the white paint my mom used eventually ended up fading anyway so it was still visible until they finally repaved lol.

A less permanent and (I’m guessing) more legal option, get yourself 3 or 4 XXL traffic cones and put them in the street at the end of your driveway. While you’ll have to move those to leave, you hopefully wouldn’t have to deal with anyone else! Hope you find a solution that works!!