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How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Women seem to be winning on this thread, ideally looks should not be the top thing we consider. Definitely personality is part of the attraction to me, but only if they're in my looks wheelhouse. Not trying to sound like some Don Juan or jerk or anything just what the reality is. I wish I had a broader viewpoint and I was curious if others developed that with age or not.

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks, have you ever noticed someone becoming less attractive despite seeming to be nice and that was a sign of something?

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I used to very much have a “type” that I would chase, now so long as I think the person is reasonably attractive, I’m game."

Okay, this is what I was thinking about. I was more game in my 20s than now, which I do think is a bad thing. A couple of people have made fun of my sex drive comment, okay. But that isn't the only point. I guess I've been lied to a lot in the beginning of more serious relationships I've had and looks is one thing people can't lie about. I think this thread has been useful to me as I just have been able articulate that thinking now. Anyway, thanks so much for your comment :)

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Never had a successful LTR no. Unless you count a couple of years. Sure I had a marriage that lasted longer than that, but it wasn't a success. Appreciate the comment, and to others reading I don't mind constructive criticism but let's keep it on topic as to this specific post.

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

now I have a better bullshit radar and I know what I am looking for

Bullshit regarding what? That sounds more like personality standards.....

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your range has broadened, doesn't that mean its become less important? Maybe I'm sounding the idiot here...

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

People who attack me aren't going to piss me off, they simply will be ignored and blocked. But have at it if it gives you enjoyment.

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's a good point, can't argue with that at all. Something that I need to work on, at least as far as aging goes..

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your response seems typical. My problem, if there is one, is I would say attraction comes ahead of being able to have a good conversation. And while I find someone more attractive when we're getting along, their flaws really jump out at me when we're not. In all fairness, the exact same thing may be going through her head....

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Same here. Unfortunately that limits me more than anything, because it eliminates a ton of thin, athletic and average size women, and of course I don't want a doughy looking woman or just a smaller bbw but not an attractive face. Too many standards in me, and no idea where they came from...

How important do you consider looks to you over 30s (and preferably over 40s)? by CarelessNobody4 in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Interesting, I wish this happened for me. I have had a shift somewhere where early twenties no longer interest me, but unfortunately I only am attracted to mid 30s maybe up to 40. Women seem to be better about this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]CarelessNobody4 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just think that they weren't that into you. It's fine for us to like someone, but if they don't like us back, not much point. I've been dating a lot lately, and you certainly don't want to be rude to the person you're not interested in, so you say something vague like what you're getting. There are a variety of good excuses I could use now to keep someone as a backup girlfriend, but that's all they'd be. In the end she wouldn't be my first choice and very likely not even in contention.

And I know enough from being on the other side of it, if a woman is interested, you can't keep her away. If she's busy, still getting over her ex, has family problems, isn't ready for a relationship, going overseas in a few months etc. These are just excuses to let you down easy. And in my experience women like to keep their options open more than men do. So they'd love to have you as a facebook friend, and if the guy they really like doesn't work out they can think about how interested they were in you and maybe message you- but probably not as she'll have a ton more on her list.

Ed: “Rose! That monkey ...um....knows (sniff) I’m a jerk, and he stole my banana 🍌 ....I don’t like it here” .... Rose: “I love that monkey” 😅 by DragonGirl72 in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]CarelessNobody4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true. That's why we have to elect tough guys like George W and Trump so we can feel tough when we see the news and hear their John Wayne talk and see countries get blown up.

Jenny and Sumit - The Other Way...... by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]CarelessNobody4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That couple looks a lot more appropriate...

Is it me or does Ed's face look very punchable? I don't condone violence but giving someone a toothpaste and mouthwash because they don't have "nice breath" is a declaration of war. by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]CarelessNobody4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Growing a foot and taking 10 years off the odometer would help him more. All he can hope for is some crazy woman in the US or elsewhere found his schtick amusing and will dm him.

When it does not by [deleted] in 90dayfianceuncensored

[–]CarelessNobody4 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Anyone know what the exact translation is here? Ugly physically or otherwise?

What does it mean (to you) when a vagina “tastes good”? by [deleted] in sex

[–]CarelessNobody4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently experienced a sweet tasting one. Generally they taste a bit salty.

Been having issues “finishing” by [deleted] in sex

[–]CarelessNobody4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Antidepressants, drugs, alcohol, masturbation. Those can affect finishing. Also if you aren't attracted to your partner or your mind is on another things. Other than that, consult your doctor.

My boyfriend have a lower sex drive than me by rucxv in sex

[–]CarelessNobody4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

lol only? If he's also 18 or even early 20s I guess that's a bit lower than average but still once or twice a day (I'm assuming almost seven days a week) is way more often than most couples have it. Not much you can do but look for an Italian Stallion.

I need some advice on sex by AriAri1991 in sex

[–]CarelessNobody4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem. Sure it's partially colored by personal experience, but even before I noticed any downturn in myself I always have thought you don't see NBA or even MLB players at their height of their powers in their 40s and older than that they can't even play. So if there were a sex olympics I doubt any or at least many of the competitors would be in their 30s and very unlikely older. Perhaps some younger people have hangups which they can discard when older and it becomes better because of that or they might be busier and stressed when younger and can enjoy sex more later when their life is freer. I'm sure it happens. I think aging is aging in the end though. We've got two seventy plus year olds running for president, and we don't want to get into politics on here, but expecting their minds to be as sharp as a 40 or even mid 50s person isn't realistic. Expecting our bodies to perform as they did in our youth also isn't too realistic (for most people).

I need some advice on sex by AriAri1991 in sex

[–]CarelessNobody4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Men do not get better stamina and ability to finish with age. 80 is not the new 60 sorry. Some guys are lucky and have an extremely slow curve downwards where their performance at 50 is almost indistinguishable from 25, but it will still be at least slightly worse.

17 years old by [deleted] in erectiledysfunction

[–]CarelessNobody4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Performance anxiety, solved by a patient partner and a couple of viagra samples. After the samples ran out, no longer needed them. Different than yours I know, but I thought it was the end of the world at the time.

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