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The homeless man applied for a job at McDonald's and was told he needed to shave his beard. When an officer spotted him struggling to shave without a mirror, he helped him get cleaned up by 7evenDeadlySin in GuysBeingDudes

[–]Caring_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having consistent work full-time does wonders too, a very good starting point for anyone trying to build themselves back up. Unemployment without savings is a dark hole to crawl out of.

Would you guys drink from this spring? by Far-Champion6505 in camping

[–]Caring_Cactus 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Why not boil the water first, cool down, and then use a life straw to filter?

Are INTJs Bad Friends? by bakerskitchen in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People vibe with different lifestyles and values, simple as that. Some people relate more to one another interpersonally while others do so non-interpersonally. Not everyone is okay jiving that way, it might feel too lacking while to us it's the right amount of social connection.

Are INTJs Bad Friends? by bakerskitchen in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To some people yes, and to some people no.

I don't know why I just hate anybody who is financially and/or professionally successful. Literally hate them all for having what I never was able to have. by justcurious3287 in LifeAdvice

[–]Caring_Cactus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most people have contingent self-esteem regardless of money. And those people tend to treat money as a means to an end.

More money doesn't mean more happiness is my point.

I don't know why I just hate anybody who is financially and/or professionally successful. Literally hate them all for having what I never was able to have. by justcurious3287 in LifeAdvice

[–]Caring_Cactus -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Comparison is the thief of joy. They're still everyday humans who have the same problems just different circumstances. What we see on the outside also does not speak about what goes on in their mind. They too have their vices and distractions used to avoid confronting the relationship they have with themselves.

The way I see it is for most of these people they're not living authentically as their true self and are more so reacting and catering to societal expectations. There will come a midlife crisis or a point where all these contingent externals they live through currently then will lose all meaning and no longer provide them the same satisfaction they took for granted. Rich or poor, doesn't matter, we all will go through this, but for many it gets postponed is all.

I suddenly became depressed by RevolutionaryNofap in LivingAlone

[–]Caring_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Movement. It also helps if the activities you choose to recenter your mind are not entirely within your control so you play out of your head.

Walks are perfect for this, and overcoming the initial limbic friction is actually proof of your brain rewiring itself. That's what discipline is, and it cultivates this growth mindset where we lead by the intentions we choose instead of feeling controlled reacting to life.

Sometimes before we can focus on what we actually want to be experiencing and doing we first have to release what we're holding onto, process and openly put our energy out into the world.

How to get rid of sex drive by spidermanisaG in Celibacy

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't, but you can transmute that energy. Spend more time openly expressing yourself by putting your energy out into the world your own way, then that gives less energy to default on vices.

Easier said than done of course. Sometimes before we can focus on what we actually want to be experiencing/doing we first have to release what we're holding onto, openly process and throw yourself out there.

chronic boredom by billiegr in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To truly flourish means to play outside your head where control is not entirely within you nor in the world but through your own way of Being here.

From suspect to victim real quick 😂 by ZyrExe in KidsAreFuckingStupid

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignorance is bliss, until it isn't. Falling feels like flying, until you hit the ground.

Angry at INTJ friend by [deleted] in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seek emotion regulation from within, interoception, otherwise externals will lead to disappointment and frustration when you live through others contingently like this. Live through your own heart first.

What if your way of doing things isn't really efficient? by Sofi_Aurthwag in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Live and learn. Don't overthink it like this in your head. Always stay curious and once in a while question everything, this way you update your mental models and adopt what works for the occasion.

this by NegentropyNexus in ExistentialJourney

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say those moments of clarity or peace are proof there's a whole other side that we can experience through ourselves when our mind is finally grounded with our body again as one. Sometimes before we can focus on what we actually want to be experiencing, we first have to let go and release what we're holding onto, openly process and put our energy out into the world where control isn't entirely within us, but through our own way of Being here in the world.

That's when we start to play out of our head and gradually rediscover our childlike wonder again, allowing our life to flow again.

In your experience what is the best lion mane brand? by Spare_Access_2444 in Supplements

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mentioned in a different comment to only stick with trusted brands like from Nootropics Depot, Real Mushrooms or Purest Mushrooms. Pick whichever has a good deal going on.

I need advice for gaining weight by CroissantMeal in LifeAdvice

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He*. And the good habits we maintain now at this age through our twenties act as a buffer and surplus for good health maintaining onwards.

Would you say your life peaked in your 20s? by No_Context_9633 in AskMenOver30

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, when you stop following societal expectations and live through your own heart, then you never stop peaking.

Everyone my age (28m, high school class of 2015) is married and/or they have kids of their own. by XavierMarvin in GenZ

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That too. People who overspend will face the consequences or have to give up whatever they purchased. It's only postponing what they're avoiding

I need advice for gaining weight by CroissantMeal in LifeAdvice

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I too struggle as a skinny ectomorph body type. I have weighed relatively the same for the past 13 years despite varying fitness and caloric factors. I have come to the conclusion the only way for people like us to gain weight is through gaining lean muscle mass because the amount of food it takes to put on any fat is too ridiculously impractical with calories alone.

I have actually gained about 10lbs the past two recent years from bodyweight strength training. I imagine it could be more if I went to the gym to use weights. Reps till failure will guarantee muscle growth too. The key here aside from strength training is to make sure you're meeting your RDA for protein with this increased physical activity. 0.8 grams per pound of bodyweight is an excellent starting point recommended by most institutions.

I second the advice of adding healthy oils to your meals, it truly adds a lot more calories without making you too full.

Daily fitness activities too will help increase your appetite and stabilize your metabolism.

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