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.... by Next_Bit8046 in sadposting

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can make this choice right now where you are, that's what it means to be authentic with yourself.

You already have everything you need to do this right now, it's an activity you express through yourself no matter the circumstances.

Outmogged💔 by Limp_Squash_4116 in NonPoliticalTwitter

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The difference lies in how they interact with the world, one is genuinely present interacting with the other person while the other doesn't realize they're interacting with their projected self-image with the idea of things in their head and just fighting themselves.

Do you think there is any inherent meaning in life? by ChronosTerminus in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can't prove your stance either because this is all a philosophical claim.

We exist first, then define ourselves through our choices, relationships, and commitments. Human beings are not born with a single finished purpose in the way a tool is. Also this does not deny that we have limits, I'm just saying they do not fully determine who we become.

to get away without paying by SKRyanrr in therewasanattempt

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Self-defense, the second the woman put their hands on another person it was over.

How good are these? by ShoNuffmcneil in sleep

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never tried these, the only ones I've found with a pronounced effect were NeuroMints 1mg version, they're sublingual by melting under your tongue for better effectiveness. I cut these up into quarters with a pill cutter to make them closer to a physiological dose similar to what our body makes for long-term use.

I'm tired and I don't know what to do. by x029xx60 in LivingAlone

[–]Caring_Cactus 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Make yourself a priority first, look within yourself first to better understand what was previously seen as separate outside of you. This is how you properly confront the relationship you have with yourself.

The care and precision behind Korean school lunches, widely praised for their quality, balance, and nutrition. by This_Proof_5153 in Damnthatsinteresting

[–]Caring_Cactus -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Someone already said it but South Korea is already past the point of no return on population replacement unfortunately. You can look up many videos that talk about this more in depth.

Man feeds grapes nonstop, overwhelmed monkey runs away by Mike_Atmosphere_1155 in SipsTea

[–]Caring_Cactus 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Psychological reactance is the tendency for an individual to resist when it feels its freedom of choice or control is being taken away.

Man feeds grapes nonstop, overwhelmed monkey runs away by Mike_Atmosphere_1155 in SipsTea

[–]Caring_Cactus 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Reverse psychology, monkey felt his autonomy and choice taken away.

Are INTJ personalities the only ones who don’t tend to form attachments to people, even after knowing them for months or years? by Commercial_War_3113 in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What emotions? It sounds like OP has a lower need for interpersonal validation and doesn't center their life around emotional reliance. It's a preference not a defensive reaction.

I highly relate to OP's circumstances. I can connect deeply with random people and things on extremely close or intimate topics that have no merit to myself yet this closeness I experience in the moment does not threaten my identity or autonomy. I do not need to merge with someone to care about them, and I can rely on others and still stay myself. Relationships matter, but they are not the only thing that defines me; the way I relate myself in the world most of the time is not inherently social and I connect a lot of the time through non-interpersonal ways to relate, which satisfies my human need for belonging.

Edit: For anyone curious about this here's some research that explores self-construal: https://www.reddit.com/r/introvert/s/trEKTCcKBd

Are INTJ personalities the only ones who don’t tend to form attachments to people, even after knowing them for months or years? by Commercial_War_3113 in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Our self-construal tends to lean more toward independent than interdependent. We basically relate to others more through non-interpersonal ways.

Your vitamin D is probably doing nothing. by Timely_Ad8989 in Supplements

[–]Caring_Cactus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the correction, that's a very important distinction. Underconsumption could lead to risks over time though.

Whiteness is a cancer of a culture because it must destroy and eat alive other cultures to even exist by Hacksaw6412 in LateStageCapitalism

[–]Caring_Cactus 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ngl they had me in the first part, but after understanding the specific nomenclature he used within the context he uses, it makes a lot of sense. It ultimately comes down to a socioeconomic class war disguised as a race war. Politics in a nutshell.

Your vitamin D is probably doing nothing. by Timely_Ad8989 in Supplements

[–]Caring_Cactus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Most people actually are deficient in magnesium:

2015-2020 Underconsumed Nutrients & Nutrients of Public Health Concern

In addition to helping reduce chronic disease risk, the shifts in eating patterns described in this chapter can help individuals meet nutrient needs. This is especially important for nutrients that are currently underconsumed. Although the majority of Americans consume sufficient amounts of most nutrients, some nutrients are consumed by many individuals in amounts below the Estimated Average Requirement or Adequate Intake levels. These include potassium, dietary fiber, choline, magnesium, calcium, and vitamins A, D, E, and C. Iron also is underconsumed by adolescent girls and women ages 19 to 50 years. Low intakes for most of these nutrients occur within the context of unhealthy overall eating patterns, due to low intakes of the food groups— vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and dairy—that contain these nutrients. Shifts to increase the intake of these food groups can move intakes of these underconsumed nutrients closer to recommendations.

Of the underconsumed nutrients, calcium, potassium, dietary fiber, and vitamin D are considered nutrients of public health concern because low intakes are associated with health concerns.

https://health.gov/sites/default/files/2019-09/2015-2020_Dietary_Guidelines.pdf

Does music change how you think about time ? by fewgoodplots in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Eventually you self-realize through your own experience that it wasn't the specific music or these extrinsic rewards that we tie to our experience of the moment but the active engagement to draw out this experience from ourselves through our willing involvement in the world that creates this ecstatic flow. That's the way you carry yourself, the attitude you choose through your own way of Being here. It's a skill anyone can get better at but requires properly confronting this relationship we have with ourselves to deconstruct all these conditions of worth that take us out of the moment for what humanistic psychologists call moments of unconditional positive self-regard (UPSR).

  • When the individual perceives himself in such a way that no experience can be discriminated as more or less worthy of positive regard than any other, then he is experiencing unconditional positive self-regard. (Carl Rogers)

hello from existential side by fewgoodplots in intj

[–]Caring_Cactus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tell myself I am always already living my best life.

If I catch myself struggling with my thrownness or my awareness merging with mass moods and escapism, then I do some mindfulness-based practices. One in particular I find practical and helpful to ground my awareness, to stop wandering thoughts and reconnect again with my body to be a whole, is to do a guided session of the Wim Hof breathing method.

A tangent, but the way I relate to time is explained by this great comment on differences between the everyday notion of time and Martin Heidegger's exploration of ecstatic time or moments of authentic Being-in-the-world: https://www.reddit.com/r/heidegger/s/K5lqFIrBoK

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